(Closed) How is your relationship with your FI’s mother?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I actually do get along my fiance’s mother, but things have gotten a little more difficult in the last few months.  I know that she likes me, and is happy that I am marrying her son, but I also understand how much emotion is wrapped up in weddings, and the implications of her first son (middle child) getting married, so we’re trying to work through that! 

Post # 4
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14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’re homies =]

No really, we aren’t besties, but I think I totally lucked out with a cool Mother-In-Law. She’s so normal about everything!

Post # 5
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we get along great! i think i have a good advatage… she’s not too fond of his brothers wife for numerous reasons, so if i was nicer than her i was pretty much in. and i’m “a nice jewish girl.” what every jewish mil dreams of!

Post # 6
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

My Mother-In-Law is really kicka$$. She really, really is. I’m super lucky.

Post # 7
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2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i guess we get along, not close at all but friendly with one another. Fiance and I started dating when we were 16/17 so i’ve known her for over a decade but through that time she’s said some things that were hurtful ( prob because she didn’t think we’d stay together, and also just a protective “mamma bear”) but i try not to conjure up any bad feelings towards her because of the past.

i do wonder if she really likes me. Fiance says so, but our families are wayyyyyyyyyy different in the way we show emotion ( they are not demonstrative people, no hugs, loves yous.. ) and my family is the exact opposite, so that may be a factor. So far, so good. 🙂

Post # 8
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1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My husband’s mother died before I met him, but his grandmothers and aunt are all more than willing to fill the Mother-In-Law void. Sometimes it feels like I’ve got multiple MILs! Things are usually fine, although I know my husband gets lots of comments about not visiting enough. I’m pretty sure my tongue is a few inches shorter from all the biting I do when I hear that – we see them much more than we see my family, and it’s easier for them to come visit us than the other way around!

Post # 9
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1454 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My Future Mother-In-Law is overwhelming. She was a very young mom so she’s in her 40’s and Fiance is 28. She’s self-absorbed, thinks she’s cool, REALLY defensive about her new lesbian life (when in reality, everyone is supportive and loves her partner, but she plays the “ITS BECAUSE I’M GAY I KNOW IT” card A LOT) She also has NO friends and since her partner is away most of the time for work, she calls her kids ALL. THE. TIME. which includes me. She’s really overbearing and gossips HORRIBLY. She is embarassing in restaurants (rude to waitstaff) and throws scenes all the time.

Oh and she decided to rescind her offer to help pay for the wedding causing us to cancel our reception.

So yea, I really dislike her, but I put up with her. Everything is an issue and she’s horribly wearing. Fiance feels mostly the same but I think he endures it more because, well, she’s his mom!

We plan to move out of state (hopefully this year!) to get away. She’s just WAY too much for us to handle.

Post # 10
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I like her a lot, and we get along fine, as long as I don’t have to spend extended amounts of time with her. Then she starts to drive me a little nuts, loll

Post # 11
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I heart my Mother-In-Law.  I miss her since we moved!

Post # 12
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

We get along fine but like you, I sometimes wonder what she REALLY thinks.  But she is the mother of 3 sons and has a domineering husband so she is just one of the sweet types, trying to please everyone.  I guess that’s good b/c we otherwise don’t have much in common outside of my Fiance. 

Post # 13
Member
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I love that lady, she is always thinking of me.. on my side and is so easy to talk to. I am one lucky bee… My In Laws rock

Post # 14
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35 posts
Newbee

We get along, and have lots of fun chit-chatting about FH when he was a kid. She lives out of state though so I never see her.

Post # 15
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I get two MILs…. lucky me? heh.

No really… my FI’s step-mom I’ve met quite a few times and she is nice enough. I mean, I can’t really ever see us having a deep conversation or anything, but I would say my relationship with her is as good or better than FI’s relationship with her (which has always been strained). 

FI’s mom I have actually only met once because she lives pretty far away. She came and stayed with Fiance for a weekend last year and she was really nice. I think if she lived closer we would be a lot closer. 

Overall I think I’m extremely lucky in that FI’s family really stays out of his life entirely. Since we got engaged in October, his parents haven’t called him at all (he has called them occasionally). I do wish that he was a little closer to his family sometimes because I’m close to mine, but it is better than the alternative (which would be for him to be super close to a crazy family)

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I really love mine, but she intimidates me sometimes! I always go out of my way to make her happy because I’m a little scared of her, and I think that actually keeps us from being super close. Hopefully my irrational fear of her will die down after we’re married!

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