(Closed) How is your relationship with your FI’s mother?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 62
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Blushing bee

I have a very strange relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law — this is a really great topic by the way, I liked reading about the relationships that you ladies have with your FMIL’s… My Future Mother-In-Law is very shy, quiet, reserved, etc. I have been trying for 5 years to make some sort of connection with her, but she is just soooo reserved that it is hard to find things to talk about with her. Future Father-In-Law on the other hand is loud, outgoing, etc… He and I get along great. It makes me wonder if she doesn’t like me. Boyfriend says that is just the way she is — she doesn’t do well in social situations and doesn’t like to go out a lot, but man I’ve been going to her house every weekend for 5 years now! It’s so weird!!! I guess because my mom has a great relationship with my dad’s mom, I always just thought that was how it would be with me. I really wish I had a better relationship with her, but it is what it is!

Post # 63
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2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I seriously love my Future Mother-In-Law, and I hope she feels the same way about me.  My Future Father-In-Law is equally lovable.  I really feel lucky that I have a close relationship with them.  They have both welcomed me with open arms into their family.  Laughing

Post # 64
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196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I feel very lucky with my Future Mother-In-Law.  I respect her and think that she is a good person.  Perfect?  Nope.  But I have hope that we could be friends one day and that’s good enough for me.

Post # 65
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Mine’s awesome- she and I like to go deal-shopping once in a while, she includes me in and wants me at family functions, is really excited about the wedding, and gives me so much respect- love her!! She loves telling people about my and FI’s engagement. She’s super cool. The whole fam is awesome- they already call me “daughter”, lol ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 66
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20 posts
Newbee

I hate my Future Mother-In-Law.  I can’t stand her personality.  I tried to talk to her and get close to her but she has this gift of making racist remarks to me which offend me greatly and she also loves to push her ideas onto me, which I can’t tolerate anymore.  We are pleasant on the surface, though, but I think living 5 minutes away from each other is just WAY TOO CLOSE and is the source of our problem.  I think I’d like her a lot more if I see her only during holidays, etc…  :/

I envy all of you who have a good realationship with your Future Mother-In-Law..

*waves at lucytoo* I see you are here, too. lol ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 67
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@ Missabee – haha… can you tell I’m still really hung up over her and her antics?  I think, for my own sake, I really need to not let her get to me.  It snowballs, though – once you find one thing that reeeeeeeally annoys you about a Future Mother-In-Law, you tend to find a million.

This past Christmas, my Fiance and I went to Costco and found delish fudge and liquor-filled chocolates.  We called her to tell her and spent twenty minutes on the phone with her telling her what all the flavors were and taste-testing them for her.  We then, under her instruction, bought her three boxes of the stuff.  We assumed that one was for us, one for my Future Brother-In-Law who was arriving for the holidays that day, and one she would keep herself.

No fudge or chocolates appeared throughout the holidays.  When FBIL was leaving, my Fiance saw a telltale big red box of fudge and baggie of chocolates peeking out from one of FBIL’s bags (FI was helping him load his stuff in the car).  Guess what?  She SNUCK the candy to Future Brother-In-Law and told him not to tell my Fiance she gave it to him.  We did not get anything.  After we had stood in Costco for what seemed like hours while she changed her mind a gazillion times on the flavors!!  So, so mean.

And she had the nerve to get all defensive and SCREAM at my Fiance when my Fiance tried to tell her how hurt he was. 

Post # 68
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316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Future Mother-In-Law loves me… but is a bit crazy. She loves to talk and will speak her mind about anything and everything including embarrassing stuff.. She will visit and will start talking to me. I will leave the room, come back, and she will still be talking. I am the complete opposite so it drives me nuts.  I feel lucky that she likes me so much and is so nice to me but I just don’t want to “share” everything with her. I am not looking forward to my bridal shower when I am sure she will give me some very revealing outfit and probably talk loudly how much Fiance will love it.. My mother who is very conservative will probably have a heart attack.  And I shouldn’t even begin on the whole her wanting a grandbaby thing.  But all in all, I am glad she is becoming my Mother-In-Law.

Post # 69
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

my Future Mother-In-Law told my Fiance that if he doesn’t keep me, she will! lol! after that i told him stuck with me no matter what! lol!

Post # 70
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I love love love my fmil. She is a second mom to me. Sure she has her days, but I couldnt ask for a better fmil! I dont get to see my mom as often as i would like, but fmil lives alot closer, so seeing her makes me feel better!

Post # 71
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I like my Mother-In-Law a lot. She’s the complete opposite of my mother. My mom is wound so tight and she makes people uncomfortable without even trying. My Mother-In-Law on the other hand is very laid back and has more of a hands off “friend” type of relationship with her kids. Our relationship is very easy and I’m grateful.

Post # 72
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129 posts
Blushing bee

I actually get along with my Fiance mom.. shes cool.. some times I feel bad around her cause she is 50 yrs old and she is looking sooo good.. She has perminant make-up, she did a tummy tuck and breast implants 3 months ago.. And shes about 120 pounds.. She’s 50!!  When I look at her or talk to her I always feel like she’s my friend..

We dont call each other and chat on the phone.. never.. I never talked to her on a phone (been with Fiance for 5 1/2 yrs) but we have good conversations face-to-face… thats more than enough for me.. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 73
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I LOVE my Future Mother-In-Law. She is an amazing help and one of the strongest, sweetest women I know. (Prob why she is an elected official ๐Ÿ™‚

She is so supportive, so thoughtful and I hope that I can be half the woman she is when I am her age.

She and my mother are two peas in a pod (my mom is just as wonderful) so we all get along great. They both have a nutty sense of humor, so a few glasses of wine and we are a crazy crew!

I am very lucky! I did however also inherit and StepFMIL who is a whole different ballgame.

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