(Closed) How Jealous is your SO?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How Jealous is Your SO?

    Very Jealous - and it bothers me.

    Very Jealous - and I like it.

    Kind of jealous - depends on the situation.

    Not jealous at all - and it bothers me.

    Not jealous at all - and I like it.


  • Post # 3
    6391 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Fiance doesn’t really care at all. One time I was telling him a story about a guy I work with, and I probably spoke about him really affectionately and he looked a little alarmed before I told him the guy is in his 80s, lol. That’s the only time FI’s ever expressed anything even close to jealousy.

    That would irritate me too, but hopefully he’s at least getting better about it. :/

    Post # 4
    13561 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Hmm. It’s a bummer that he bugs you with those questions, but kudos to the progress you say he’s made. As long as it’s not a controlling or abusive jealously, I’d suggest trying to just remember that he lo-oves you. 🙂

    I don’t really get questions like that from my fiance. I’d say I’m the slightly more insecure one, though I try not to be vocal about it.

    Post # 5
    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    DH makes comments when I say I had the best patient ever but when he finds out it was some 80 or 90 year old guy he doesn’t care 🙂

    The only time I have seen him up in arms has been when we have been out at bars, I don’t know why people feel the need to get all touchy feely when my husband is with me.

    Post # 6
    296 posts
    Helper bee

    I voted “very jealous – and it bothers me.” My bf is not quite as jealous as the last two guys I dated, which is at least good. But maybe slightly more than the average guy. But this is the first relationship he’s been in, so I can’t exactly fault him for sometimes being a little paranoid. But it still bothers me. 

    Post # 6
    32 posts
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’m with Gemstone on this one I can be more insecure than my Hubbyn at times. He’s not very jealous at all. It took some getting use to but I like this way better than the over jealous type!

    Post # 7
    392 posts
    Helper bee

    Mr.G is not jealous at all, and I absolutely love it!  I’ve had very insecrure exes (partly the reason why they’re an ex) and it’s a breathe of fresh air to have complete trust with him.

    Some jealousy is ok as long as it’s not unhealthy, or unreasonable, but not the full out “oh my god you talked to a guy, never talk to him ever again”

    Post # 9
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think my DH is more jealous than he lets on.. it’s when he admits it that I realize how much so.  Honestly, if you are noticing your DH is a little jealous, I’d try to reaffirm him.  I know that no matter how much I trust my husband, if he was around girls all day that were flirting with him, I’d get insecure and want affirmation from him that I was #1.  I’m sure you feel like you do that – but who doesn’t love more affirmation from their spouse?!

    Post # 11
    2390 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My SO doesn’t care at. all. I’m still quite close friends with some of my exes-something I have been very open about from the beginning-and it doesn’t bother him. We just have an unparalleled level of trust and committment with one another. 

    Post # 12
    3010 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    J is definitely the jealous type, but as he says, “you’re with me and I know you would never do anything to hurt me so it doesn’t matter”.  I don’t mind him being jealous except when I talk to my one guy friend that lives in NC and he always has snide comments to make about it.  I understand why he’s the way that he is, but he always throws it in my face that he doesn’t talk to other girls because he doesn’t want me feeling jealous/insecure.

    Post # 13
    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I voted for “not jealous at all and I like it” but that isn’t exactly true. I just think he is somewhere between “not at all” and “kind of.” I feel like he is jealous only in appropriate situations… I’ve never felt that he was unreasonable… but I also never felt like he didn’t care. 

    Post # 14
    13561 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

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    @deetroitwhat: Haha. Bless his heart. Maybe if you can find subtle ways of reassuring him on your own, he won’t have to ask all the questions?

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