Post # 31
I think there is a fine line between being protective and jealous and since my DH is extremely protective of me I think sometimes a little jealousy threads its way in. I don’t mind because it’s never serious, we always laugh about it. But if a guy hits on me in front of him (which has happened) he will literally step in between us and give the guy a death stare.
Post # 32
He’s not. I’ve actually maintained friendships with 2 exes and gone out to social events when both of them were there. I told him I wouldn’t go if he was uncomfortable and he said “Are you kidding? I trust you, go have fun.”
When he plans guys weekends to casinos I say “Have fun” and enjoy my time at home.
We have boundaries like most couples, but trust is not an issue in our relationship.
Post # 33
I had an insanely jealous ex-boyfriend. It was terrible, and I would never deal with that again. FH isn’t jealous at all.
Post # 34
I can totally relate. I think my husband would do the same thing. In fact, he’s not a dancer, and on our minimoon, I was tearing up the dance floor (oldies cover band) and like every dude in the place came up and was dancing. He was just standing there, I think he thought it was kind of funny. ONLY when one guy I told didn’t get the hint did he walk up and tell the guy to back off…but he had that stare down the whole time lol!
I don’t think this has anything to do with trust issues.
I don’t blame you!
That’s cool. I used to have to travel for work a lot and he never came out and said anything to me…but I wonder… 🙂 Also, that story is SO cute!
Hmmmm…ego boost. I never thought about that.
Post # 35
@Mrs Grape – I would have been FURIOUS. There is nothing worse to than to be accused of something you didn’t do. And the name calling, hell no. My ex was like that too. PSYCHO!
Post # 36
Really? Why not? Jealousy is often the product of insecurity, and for lots of couples security goes hand in hand with trust.
I actually think sometimes a *little* jealousy is a good thing, as long as it doesn’t get out of hand.
Post # 38
my partner only gets jealous every now and then (like when people blatantly flirt with me in public), but he is pretty mellow about things, and it’s not like I go out of my way to give him reasons to succumb to jealousy. Of the two of us I am probably the more jealous one, though I try not to be.
Post # 39
I voted Other. I don’t think my Fiance is a jealous guy, but he’s pretty quiet, and I don’t know if he’d really say much even if he was a little bit jealous. It seems like the kind of thing he’d keep to himself, and just kind of get over it in his head.
Post # 40
Actually I think insecurity is more related with self esteem than it is trust and then “trust issues” are a biproduct of thinking you aren’t good enough, etc, and surely your partner would want to find someone better.
Are there really trust issues? No. Are there trust issues inside your head? Yes. LOL.
Post # 41
I’m pretty sure I would have to have sex with another guy in front of my DH for him to show even the littlest bit of jealousy/insecurity. It’s not that he doesn’t care about me, it’s that he’s secure in our relationship and knows that I would never do anything to jeopardize it.
I travel for work all the time with my “work husband” and my male clients. My DH has never showed one hint of suspicion or insecurity. He knows that if I have any free time during my work trip, I’m either exploring the city or at the hotel with the remote control. Wild fling is the last thing on my list, good night sleep is the first!
My “work husbands” wife was really jealous when we first started working/traveling together. Then she found out she was pregnant and realized it was more hormones than not trusting him or me. Now they have a beautiful 2 year old and we’re all good friends!
Post # 42
I have never in 3 years of knowing him had even one occasion where I thought he felt jealous. Never.
Post # 43
It happens. You cannot let it change your friendships and work friends but sometimes it is hard for guys to realize they’re it for you. My guy is 90% just fine, but randomly he’ll feel bad or talk himself into thinking that a guy is better for me and i’ll realize it yada yada. I think i like that he’s upfront most of the time and if it works the same for you it has gotten waaaaay better, to where he’s fine with me telling him about guys and girls I have crushes on. Also he realizes that he will never be dule hill for Psych.
Post # 44
I would say that my Fiance is not a jealous person at all and I love that about him. There has only been one slight twinge of jealousy that I got from my Fiance when he had found my old date book during the first year of dating where I had written about past dates that I had the month before he and I had got together.
Post # 45
He’s kind of jealous. He always seems to think guys are hitting on me if they just talk to me. It’s really annoying. Men can have conversations with women without HITTING ON THEM, for crying out loud!!!