How large was/is your wedding?

posted 1 year ago in Reception
  • poll: How large was/is your wedding?

    Under 25 people ( LOVE IT!)

    Under 25 people ( Wish I could have more)

    Under 100 people

    100 - 150 people

    150 - 250 people

    250 + (I like big weddings and I can not lie!)

  • Post # 31
    358 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    A little over 200 people, and that was with significant cut backs and no children. 

    Post # 32
    10715 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

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    l wasn’t aware of your situation before the last two closed threads….but l have just now gone back over them. What is striking is that you started off being careful and mindful of a social duty to behave responsibly , but in each succeeding thread the plans have got bigger and vastly more irresponsible and you have started to become defensive  when posters get alarmed and , in the case of many and with good reason, angry at the idea of the consequences you will unleash. 

    l think you must be being intolerably pressured , presumably by your mother for whom nothing on earth seems more important that getting her way. Have you no one else who can, since it seems you can’t, help you make her understand that these huge life threatening gatherings simply cannot happen.? I feel like you really need some support to make her see this and to also help with the practicalities of rescinding invitations etc . I would urge you dear OP, to get someone else to help you with this. It is getting out of hand. 

    Oh and in answer to you op, my first wedding was about 80 l think. My second about 8 counting us lol. No pandemic either, if there had been it would have been 4. 

    Post # 33
    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    @elderberry:  Seriously….she got defensive when I brought up that she was throwing a surprise party for her mother, saying she didn’t want to and it was her mother’s fiancés idea it reading a previous thread, she literally said she was planning it and was asking about how to do that plus all the other wedding events and whether they should be combined 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Post # 34
    717 posts
    Busy bee

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    @futuremrscat:  were supposed to get married in 2021 and sent save the dates to 250. We are keeping our fingers crossed it will work out but we also have an abbreviated list of 100 if we have to cut it down and hope everyone else understands. If we can’t do 100 we will likely postpone and just wait until we can have the big bash! Our venue won’t let us change our date without an additional fee until 8 weeks before so we are just chugging along right now. Panic mode will set in at the end of this year if things aren’t looking up. 


    Post # 35
    677 posts
    Busy bee

    Before COVID, I was aiming for 10 people. Now, we are doing just us and a photographer.

    Post # 36
    2094 posts
    Buzzing bee

    First one around 40, second one 12. Zero regrets either time. A large wedding isn’t for me. I can’t stomach the money it costs, and I’m not one to invite people to things out of obligation. I choose my inner circle carefully based on mutual effort to the relationship with me and my family. 

    That being said! I don’t mind GOING to a big wedding. I appreciate all weddings as a reflection of who the couple is. Just make sure the size of the wedding makes sense to you and who you are as a couple. You’ll be setting the stage for how you will handle sharing all life transitions in the future. 

    Post # 37
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

    We got married last year, our guests were over 700. And… It was kept low key considering our families. 

    Post # 38
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress

    We had about 45 guests at our destination wedding. We had a few last-minute no shows that of course I would have wanted there. We invited about 70, and I’m glad we had no more than 55. It was super personal, intimate and FUN!

    Post # 39
    42 posts
    • Wedding: Virginia Beach, VA

    I plan to have 10 – 15 guests. 

    Post # 40
    569 posts
    Busy bee

    My wedding to my EH was 85 people. With my soon-to-be Fiance, I’m doing my best to skip that all and elope and then have celebrations with our families after the fact (he’s originally from the UK and his entire family is there and my family all lives 1000 miles away). With the current state of the world and the lack of travel happening, I have a better chance of having that dream elopement 😍

    Post # 41
    697 posts
    Busy bee

    We got married last June and had about 110 people. 

    Post # 42
    458 posts
    Helper bee

    I got married last June and had 13 people.  I would have loved to have some of my family there, especially my mom, but they couldn’t make it. Regardless, I still would have wanted to keep it under 25. The day was a bit of a disappointment for both my husband and I,  but we’re planning on having a vow renewal with just the two of us and a photographer in a year or two. 

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