(Closed) How late did/will your wedding run and how did/do you feel about it?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Should be pay extra money at a venue that lets us have unlimited hours for the party?
    Totally worth it! Your guests will love staying up late and dancing all night long. Splurge away! : (14 votes)
    21 %
    Nah, save the extra 4-6k. Midnight is plenty late, even with a later ceremony/dinner. : (53 votes)
    78 %
    Other, please comment below. : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    1095 posts
    Bumble bee

    We have almost the same timeline as you (also Jewish)

    5h30 Cocktail

    7PM Ceremony

    7h45-8pm Reception

    Knowing our friends & family, the party will definately go on until at least 1h30-2am. So for us, late night is a must! I think this is especially true if your wedding is on Saturday (ours is on Sunday)! Your guests don’t have work the next day so they may be inclined to stay late and it would be a downer if you had to shut it down early when everyone is having a good time.

    Post # 7
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Our venue allows us to have an 8am-12am rental or a 9am-1am rental; we decided to do the 9-1. I honestly want a really late night party but I don’t expect it to happen and have a feeling ours will be ending around 11:30. But that’s ok with us. We will also be starting at 4:30 so it gives us about a 5-6 hour reception which is fairly long for this area (most are only 4 hours). 

    Post # 8
    250 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We had our venue until 2am, and our last guests stayed until around then.  Dinner for us started at around 7, and went until about 10, when the dancing started.

    Really, you know your guests the best.  If they like to party and dance, then it might be worth it.  If they don’t, and most people will just leave after eating, then it won’t.  Do you have any idea how long your dinner will be?  You’re right 8 is a bit late to start, so maybe the caterer can give you a ballpark timeline on how long it will be.

    Good luck!

    Post # 9
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Honestly, all of the weddings I have been to lately 50-75% of the guests have left after dinner. It depends on your crowd and how you structure the evening. 

    Post # 10
    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Our formal reception ended at 1 am and we kept the party going in a suite at the hotel with the younger set.  We had pizza, wings and nachos + tonnes of booze.  Our last friends stumbled out at around 5 am?

    Our day was:

    6:30-Travel to reception site
    7:00-8:00-Cocktail hour
    1:00-Move to after-party venue

    We figured we had the rest of our lives to have romantic nights just us, so we should enjoy having all of our family and friends together in one place while we could!!

    Post # 12
    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    The second location was pretty cheap in the grand scheme of things too:  the suite (would have booked no matter), the alcohol (cheaper to provide ourselves than pay for an open bar out) and the food (ordered from local place, again, pretty cheap and yummy!)

    Of our 125 guests, I would say we started with about 35 at the after party, all friends and younger family.  It was at the hotel where most people were staying.  And, we asked for our friends rooms to be around ours to avoid noise complaints.

    Post # 13
    4432 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted for the wrong one…I meant to put 12pm is enough time.  Ours ends at 12! Reception starts at 7!


    PS:  Most wedding dinners are on the late side, it usually isn’t around a normal dinner time.

    Post # 14
    5 posts
    • Wedding: December 1969

    It definitely depends on the crowd.  Our timeline was as follows:

    6-7:30 cocktail

    7:30 – 8:30 dinner

    8:30 – 12 – cake, dancing

    12 – 4am – after party at a hotel nearby……there were only about 20 of us but we partied until the wee hours and had a blast.

    Post # 15
    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Our wedding is earlier, but we are doing a:

    5:00-6:00 cocktail hour
    6:00-6:15 introductions
    6:15-6:30 Kids eat and salads, first dance and parent dances
    6:30-7:30 Dinner and speeches, kids are welcome to go to the playroom
    7:30: Anniversary dance, start of dancing
    8:15: cake cutting and dessert
    8:45: bouquet and garter
    9:00: photographer leaves
    9:45: last dance 

    My venue said anything over 5 hours is too much for most people. Guests can always choose to do an after party (our venue is a night club and in the bar district– they can go upstairs to the rooftop for an hour until the venue re-opens or they can go to any of the 12 bars on the block)


    Post # 16
    35 posts

    If you eat dinner at 7:30/8:00 and have to be out by midnight, that still leaves 3.5-4 hours to party. I think it would be enough time. 3-4k is a lot of money that could be spent elsewhere. There is also the possibility of going out after the wedding; I know a lot of couples and their bridal parties go to bars after the wedding. Maybe that could be an option if people still want to hang out after midnight?

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