(Closed) How late is too late?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What is the latest a sit down dinner reception should be held?
    6p.m. : (4 votes)
    8 %
    7p.m. : (19 votes)
    38 %
    8p.m. : (21 votes)
    42 %
    9p.m. : (6 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My wedding reception starts at 7 (cocktail hour) then everyone goes into the ballroom at 8 for dinner…

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee

    I think your timeline sounds fine. Don’t be surprised though if people just keep their kids up for dinner. . .unless they know it’s a ‘no toddlers at dinner’ kind of meal.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I have a few questions for you because I’m having trouble seeing how this will work:

    -Are you sure that all your friends will be able to put their children to bed during that time? Especially since they won’t be in their regular environments, they may not be able to keep their regular bedtime rountines.
    -Also, when are the children supposed to eat dinner? Before the ceremony? That may also mess up the regular evening routine for the little ones. 
    -After the children eat, they will go to the ceremony with their parents, then the parents will go back to where ever children are sleeping (during cocktail hour) to put them to bed?
    -Where are the children sleeping?
    -Who is going to be with the children while they’re sleeping? Are you providing sitters, because their parents will be out parting/ dancing with you?

    I don’t think I understand the set up of your event. Some little ones will not be able to sleep in this situation– at least, not in time for the parents to make it to the reception dinner, but maybe to the dancing. However the children could wake up later in the evening because of the unfamiliar environment and get upset because their parents aren’t nearby. I’m not sure how this will work.

    Maybe you could set up a nearby room and have a professional baby sitting agency watch the little ones during the ceremony/ dinner?

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Honestly, talk to your guests about this.  They are the only ones who know what is going to work with their kids.  And I’d probably hire a couple of people to babysit for the kiddos that aren’t going to go to sleep….and there will be at least one of those!

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree with JenniMIchele that children out of their normal environment wont be that easy to “put to bed” and will there be sitters around to watch them? or are the toddlers just going to be left in their rooms on their own? If you dont want kids at the dinner then i dont think the kid should come to the ceremony at all otherwise its gonna be kinda hard to work everything out

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

     

    A couple of more things that I thought about:

    Is the great room close to the room where the children are sleeping? On one hand, that would be a good thing, so if a child does wake up and get upset, the child’s parents will be nearby. However on the other hand, if the party is too loud, you may run the risk of waking the little ones and you definitely don’t want to have to worry about being quiet during your after party.

    From your previous post, it seems that during dinner, there will be no one to check on the toddlers, and after dinner, you’ll have some girls checking on them periodically? If that’s the case, I would be worried about leaving the toddlers alone during dinner time– even if they’re sleeping. They make wake up and get upset. Maybe you could think about having a couple of babysitters (not anyone from your guestlist) to watch over the little ones during dinner and the after party. That may help to alleviate the stress on this situation so the babysitters can try to get the little ones back to sleep if they wake up, and if a child won’t go back to sleep, the babysitter can come quietly pull the parent aside to help and afterwards the parents can return to the party knowing that the child is being watched over.

    I’m not sure your location, but you could check care.com or sittercity.com for some sitters (two sitters for one evening probably wouldn’t cost too much either).

    Lastly, I agree that you should speak with your guests about what they think will work because they know what their children can do. You can get an idea set of what you think will work and present it to the mom’s on your guestlist and ask them if they think its doable.

    Good luck! It’s so nice of you that you’re being considerate of your guests and their children, even though it’s extra work for you. Kudos.

     

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I didn’t see your most recent post:

    I think if the girls are willing to do that, that would work great.

    Do you know if they want to be a part of the adult party? If so, I don’t know if asking them to babysit would hurt their feelings or not. Were you planning on inviting them to the sit down dinner and afterparty? If not, I think this is a good idea. If you were planning on inviting them but are now thinking about asking them to babysit, maybe speak to their parents first to see if their parents have an idea of what the girls would think of this/ if the girls would be upset with this idea.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Wonderful! It looks like you’ve found a great solution that will work perfectly. 🙂

    Congrats on your upcoming anniversary.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Many people do not want to eat a full meal after 7pm as that is going past the dinner hour. Even 7pm is considered late for alot of folks. Stay within the regular dinner hour of 5-7pm and don’t go any later than that. If you want to start at 8pm or later, serve just desserts.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee

    I think the plan you have right now is a great one. I am sure your friends will understand that this is an adult only function :); Good Luck, and Congrats!

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