(Closed) How late is too late for an engagement party?

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Yeah. I would just scrap it.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think 6 months between engagement  and engagement party is way too long. It could seem like you’re seeking attention (or worse, gifts). I’d skip it. No one ever lamented the lack of another pre-wedding event but to go to.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I’m just trying to be honest, and I think it has been a little too long. Don’t worry, engagement party or not…you are engaged! Congratulations! 

We chose not to have an engagement party yet our friends and family were wonderful & generous and sent us cards and gifts anyway. I know it would be nice to celebrate your engagement, but you’ll always have the wedding! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I always heard that you don’t throw the engagement party for yourself, anyway, because it seems gift grabby.  I bet that varies by region but in my group that’s the etiquette. 

Either way I wouldn’t have one more than a month after.  We didn’t have one at all, also got engaged at Christmas.  It’s really not necessary!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I think the time for an engagement party has passed but you don’t sound like you’re too upset about it anyway.

i got engaged about a week ago and everyone keeps asking when we’re having a party – we’re not. They aren’t really my thing, I’d rather just go for a meal and drinks with my nearest and dearest.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

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pipsqueak:  I don’t blame you for feeling that way. Even though I don’t want a party and have turned down the offer from my parents and my FI’s parents I would be bummed if they threw an engagement party for his sis but didn’t offer us the same.

Maybe arrange a night for all the people you’re closest to to go out for drinks? That way it’s still a celebration without being a party.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I was wondering the same thing! We got engaged in November and my futher Mother-In-Law wanted to throw us an engagement party in January. Long story short, my dad was diagnosed in December and our lives have been upside down since. So now we’re thinking of doing one in May or June, and I don’t think it’s too late. At the end of the day,its a celebration for the two of you, whether it’s a few weeks or 6 months after the engagement. My motto is always if someone doesn’t want to come, don’t come 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

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pipsqueak:  Is your wedding date correct as it says on your profile, June 2018? If it is, I think an engagement party in June 2016 is still okay. I wouldn’t have it later than that though. I got engaged in April and didn’t have an engagement party until August but that’s because Fiance lived in a different city. Also just keep in mind that many people will see this as an unnecessary pre-wedding party because it’s generally not common as a bridal shower, etc. But if you are still on the fence about it, have at least a dinner with his and your family together.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We got engaged a few weeks ago and we’re having our engagement party (more like a big bbq) in the middle of July. We live across country from our entire family (both sets live on the east coast) and we’re getting married in early 2018. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having one, but I would think it’s weird if you have your engagement party and wedding close together. We’re doing it for an opportunity to celebrate with our families since we haven’t seen any of them since the holidays. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

we got engaged last april and had an engagement party in may – well it was more like an a big BBQ i dont think that i would have had one much later than that.. also if i could go back i think i would just scrap it

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