Post # 46
If your wedding is still 2 years away to me you have plenty of time to have the party. Also in my area you don’t give gifts at engagement parties. So it would not be seen as “gift grabby”. Now you might take a nice bottle of wine but that would be the same as for any type of party.
Post # 47
Thank you everyone for your responses! Yes my wedding will be June of 2018, and that’s why I was kind of looking forward to an engagement party. Next year we will be really focused on his brother’s wedding (I’m in the party, the fiance is one of my highchool BFFS 🙂 also the reason our wedding won’t be until 2018) so I was looking forward to a night to be able to celebrate us before the sole focus goes to the other wedding.
We are also students as some pps mentioned, and it would just be a backyard BBQ at my parent’s house… so I think maybe we will still go with it 🙂 I will have to talk to my mom- I dont want her to feel bad if I say its been postponed too long. Still iffy though!!
Post # 48
I don’t think it’s too late or “gift grabby.” I got engaged in February and pretty much having an engagement party in June (since we’re both Nigerians, traditionally, you have to have one anyway). You should go for it!
Post # 49
I think if someone throws you one its a different story. I got engaged in January and my friends surprised us with one this past weekend with just inviting our bridal party and parents. It was so unexpected and appreciated! We were able to touch base of what we had already planned and everyone got to meet and get comfortable with each other.
I am in a wedding in Sept. and they were engaged last June- so almost a year ago. There was 5 other weddings going on at the time and she just announced her bridal party a couple weeks ago so we are having a “bridal party” and parents only engagement party for her in 2 weeks.
We get each other small gifts like bridal name hangers,bottles of wine, date night gift cards, and more personalized items- nothing big or fancy. So its not a gift seeking type of get together.
Maybe if you are throwing it yourself you could just do more of a get together cookout or dinner with close family and friends, so it doesn’t seem like your fishing for gifts?
Post # 50
I just read your response! sorry haha 2018?! go for it! why not?! itd be nice to ackowledge your engagement before the ball gets rolling with their wedding and yours gets put on the back burner. Have fun!
Post # 51
why not just host a summer cookout. Do not call it an engagement party BUT since you guys are hosting it the attention will still be on you and you can have fam/friends there
Post # 52
In my opinion it depends on the type of party and it depends when you’re wedding is. A casual engagement party with absolutely no gifts and your wedding isn’t for another year or more? that would be fine IMO. Note I am from Australia though and we typically have very informal engagement parties or don’t have them at all.