(Closed) How late is too late to send thank yous?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3563 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didn’t send out some of my thank yous until almost 6 months after the wedding, so I think you’re a-ok at 3 weeks!!

Post # 4
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think “etiquette” says you have 2 months. (I am still working on mine too…*hangs head in shame*) but personally, I’d say it’s never too late!

Post # 5
1275 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree its never too late and I think you are in the perfect time frame to send out thank yous. 

Post # 6
7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I just sent mine… 7 months later. I know… I’m a bad bride. 3 weeks is totally acceptable.

Post # 8
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I thought I read somewhere in etiquette that you have a year to send a thank you, and the guests have a year to send a gift.  I think you’re completely fine with 3 weeks.

For me, I’m sending cards as I receive gifts, since it’s still before the wedding.  A-because I wouldn’t want the gift giver to wait two months for a thank but but also b-it reduces the amount I’ll have to write later.

Post # 9
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I still haven’t gotten our thank you cards since it took 7 weeks to get our pics… so I’m in the same boat… actually a little later then you. tehe

Post # 10
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

The answer to your question is: NEVER!

I was proud of getting all my thank you’s out before we hit 6-months.  That was NOT my intention (I was aiming for 3 months).  Your 3-week timeline is NOTHING! 🙂  I think anywhere between 1-3 months out is IDEAL and awesome!

Post # 11
2312 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh girl, you’re fine. Three weeks is nothing. 

Post # 12
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I always thought you had a year to send them out..

Post # 13
3323 posts
Sugar bee

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@vabride2011: The one year thing is a common misconception.  You should send Thank you notes as soon as possible.

Post # 14
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should send them out as soon as possible but it is better to send them out late than never send them out. Some people have sent me gifts before the wedding and I haven’t gotten all those thank you cards out yet..about 3 weeks behind as well 🙁

Post # 15
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow…I did not know you had up to a year to send them…..????  I sent mine out a week after the wedding…..in a mad dash!!  hahaha!!   Oops, I hope there’s not a “too early” “rule”…..???

Post # 16
3 posts
  • Wedding: November 2011

Miss Manners says you write the thank yous as you open the gifts and send them off ASAP. You definitely don’t have a year to do it, though guests have a year to send a gift.

But a few weeks is fine. If you’re waiting because of your cards not being available, that’s understandable.

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