(Closed) How late is too late when your spouse/partner stays out?

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 76
2500 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

My husband comes home around 10/10:30pm. I don’t like being home with my kids, alone at night.  If your SO is fishing with his family, I don’t see the problem. But if it bothers you, bring it up to him.

Post # 77
2065 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it depends on your responsibilities and how often this happens.  If he really has nothing he needs to get done Saturday evening or Sunday then once in a while I think this would be okay.  We don’t have children yet but my Dear Fiance does have responsibilities related to taking care of our home, sometimes plans with me, being ready for work on Monday and staying out all night would interfere with those responsibilities so in that way I wouldn’t be okay with it.  If we had a little kids and this mean I had to take care of them all day Sunday and he was no help I also wouldn’t be okay with it.

Post # 78
2175 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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Mlim :  DH and I don’t have any desire for status updates when we go out separately, I guess I don’t really get the point of them.  I’m relatively certain he’s still alive regardless of whether he’s texted, and if something terrible happened then knowing something was wrong because I didn’t get a text isn’t really going to make the situation any better for either of us.  I’d probably assume he just forget and feel worried but that wouldn’t really accomplish anything.

Early in our relationship we discussed this, I told him that finding out he’s dead an hour earlier isn’t going to make my life any better and it obviously won’t do a thing for him so he doesn’t have to text me unless he feels like it.  He sends the occasional “I love you” and sometimes texts when he’s on his way home.

If you’re a paramedic and not hearing from him means you’re going to drive the ambulance out to his location and save his life then disregard my opinion.

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