(Closed) How late is too late?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I definitely don’t htink it’s too late — your wedding wasn’t even a month ago!

I’m sorry to hear about your DJ issues. 

Post # 4
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It is definitely not too late. Send that letter away!

You may also want to consider writing vendor reviews at project wedding and yelp so that you can help other brides avoid a similar experience.

Post # 5
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It’s never too late, especially if you’re not expecting anything back from them.  Write the letter and move on.  I’d also warn others about the service provided.

Post # 6
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would definitely send a letter! I wouldn’t think it would even be too late 3-4 months after your wedding. I also agree with GaBGal. Definitely start to write reviews after you get a response from the DJ. You’ll want to prevent this from happening to other brides (I know I used Yelp a TON while researching vendors).

Post # 8
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ah, now that we know you’re in the same business, that’s a different story. What a crappy situation, and how awful he told your guests those things!

I think the letter your husband is drafting is entirely appropriate. I’m sure you know this, but I would also include the details of what this DJ did. I’m sure the president of the company wouldn’t be happy to hear that. And at the same time, they can’t fault you for complaining, but you’d still like to work with this particular company despite of what happened.

Post # 9
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

If I were in charge of the DJ company, I would want feedback on my employee’s (especially since you had a negative experience).  I would make the letter as non-emotional and professional as possible and point out both good and bad things about the experience (but leave none of your frustration points out).  

I cringed when I read what he said about you 🙁  SO inappropriate to talk smack!! 

Post # 10
26 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

You are right to send a letter and definitely the time frame is appropriate as well. He was unprofessional and rude. Props to you for handling it so graciously!

Post # 11
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I definitely don’t think it’s too late to write a letter to express your disappointment.  I’m sorry things didn’t work out the way you’d hoped. 🙁  I think the DJ would have been more professional with you considering you’re in the business.  Like you mentioned, you have an impact on referrals–I’d definitely steer anyone clear from this dude!

Post # 12
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I’m glad your boss is sticking up for you, that is awesome! I think you’re handling this situation very well. I’m really sorry about your DJ though.

Post # 13
1428 posts
Bumble bee

That’s a difficult situation given that your work intertwines with him. When my friends got married last year their DJ was a guy the bride and I had known in high school. (He worked at our school). At her wedding he played the intro song and the first dance song that they requested, then he played random stuff that I was surprised about but I thought well maybe that’s what her hubby’s friends want to hear (she wasn’t dancing to them and neither was I).
When I talked to her after her honeymoon she said she was so upset about the music he played, it was not at all what her & her hubby asked for. It was a few guests going up to him over and over all night asking for songs that were not "their style" and he played them without asking the bride or groom.
I do think you need to let him know that you were not happy, obviously it’s not going to change anything for you, but it (hopefully) will help future customers of his.
I know this is super cheesy….but in my last company one of the big "buzz-statements" was "Feedback is a gift".

Post # 14
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Write the Letter! I’m glad your boss is writing one as well because if refered someone to this company and ended up with the same Dj you had then it would look bad on you and your company. I would also personally confront the DJ as well because of what he was saying about you, but thats just me. Maybe I’m fed up with Dj’s (as outlined in a previous post) so I wouldn’t mind confronting them.

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