(Closed) How late would you be willing to have your last child?

posted 8 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What is the oldest you would be okay with when having your last child?

    Under 30

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  • Post # 92
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @mixtapehearts:  Ha, ha. My parents had the same thought…..I moved out at 25 (and was probably one of the first amongst my friends) My brother was 30 when he left. Both of us are well educated and earn above the average wage for the area…..but leaving home is expensive, so people stay. There is no stigma about staying at home here. Everyone seems to do it. My husband lived mostly with his Mum till he was 34, his sister has just moved out with her BF at 32. We have friends well into their 30s who still live at home! Nobody judges at all……and our poor old parents just put up with it!!

    Post # 94
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Pixienickie:  I think that the way the title is worded suggests an absolute oldest age at which you are willing to have a child. From someone in their mid thirties struggling to conceive I’m saying that you can’t know that until you are older and potentially in the situation Where you may have to ‘push back’ that age.Would I have preferred to have children younger-absolutely. But I’m not going to get upset about the fact that it’s not going to happen and I certainly think I will have lots of energy for them (and for my grandkids)!!!

    Post # 95
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    307 posts
    Helper bee

    @Pixienickie:  I’m 26, not dating anyone seriously, so I probably wont even get married and start having kids until my early 30’s.  I’m fine with having my last one in my early 40’s.

    Post # 96
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @fancymichelle:  I didn’t even meet DH until I was 31. We’ve been TTC since 33/34. You’ve lots of time to meet your FH (and have babies, of course!) :-))

     

    Post # 98
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    2864 posts
    Sugar bee

    I have had two kids with my ex husband and at 36 currently, I will be damned if I put my body through that again.

     

    Post # 99
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    484 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Personally, having a kid at 30 would make me unconfortable.

    We want 2 and we will start within the next year or so (23-24) and in the perfect world we would be done by 29 or sooner!

    If I was still childless by 30, I might,maybe,perhaps, possibly think about trying until I was like 32 or so but I would be so disappointed. Anything over 30 is considered an “old mom” to me.

    Post # 100
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We don’t want to start having kids until we’re AT LEAST 30, so I’d be fine having a kid over 40, if need be. Ideally, I’d like to be done having kids (we want 3) by 35 or 36, but I’m open to having kids later if that’s what happens. FI’s mom had him at 40 and he definitely had the best childhood in his family (his brothers are 6 and 8 years older than him).

    Post # 101
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    Well I will be 30 when we get married, so I guess if we do have kids I am “doomed” to be “an old mom”…oh well! We really aren’t decided either way, but I want to make a decision either way by 35 on having kids or not. I would probably not want to have kids much past 40 personally.

    Post # 102
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    673 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Pixienickie:  We are planning on 2.  I turn 30 2 weeks after our wedding and we plan to start almost right away, so as long as we don’t have any major issues TTC, we should have both before 35.

    Post # 103
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    762 posts
    Busy bee

    @LilLis:  WOW! That’s insane, we’d have to wait forever at that amount! Our house is large (4500 sq ft) and less than a thousand a month (we own it).

    Post # 104
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    OFFS 35 is not “old”! Neither is 40. I truly feel bad for all of these ladies who think they will be “old” when they reach these ages. That must be a very depressing way to think about one’s future.

    Post # 105
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    166 posts
    Blushing bee

    @Brace2014:  agreed.

     

    And it’s not about being old in the sense of just a number. Age is relative. For example, someone who is 24 years old isn’t old in the general sense, but if they are just graduating high school at 24, they are old for graduating high school. The same applies here to me. I’d like to be a young mom, and to me, it means having all my children under 30. There’s nothing wrong in wanting to have your children young and plan/hope towards that. I’d like to be young when I have grandchildren, and still be young when my children are grown, to enjoy life with my husband. My mom is 47 and all of her kids are out of the house and she is still soooo young living her life – making good money, buying cars, taking vacays, etc. She will be retiring in 10 years and will enjoy her life. This is how I want to live.

    Post # 106
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    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Chrissy26:  Ha, ha. We dont look at square foot to measure house size but I reckon mine is about 1000 square foot if you include both floors, garden and car parking! It costs me around $650 (because I was lucky and had enough deposit to pay half the total price upfront and got a crazy good mortgage deal on the other half!) After 6 years paying capital and interest I still owe around $150k!

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