- 3 months ago
- Wedding: November 2018
I hate that I’m even posting this. I have been dating someone for a few months. He has been so great, and is honestly everything I’ve ever wanted in a man. He takes care of my heart like nobody ever has, and has given me faith in men again after going through a nasty heartbreak and divorce.
About a week ago, he got some news that has changed things. A girl that he was seeing before we met called him and told him that she’s pregnant. I’m not sure why she waited so long to tell him, because she’s about 4.5 months along now. She claims she’s pretty sure it’s not his, but that she just wanted him to know there is a chance it could be. She gave him some pretty graphic detail of why she thinks it’s not his. I know some about dating pregnancies, but I know a lot of ladies here have a lot of experience and are pretty good at it.
Here’s what I know:
Her due date is November 12th
He and her had sex for the last time on February 10th. He says they used a condom at first, but it broke and they continued unprotected. He pulled out.
Her and the other guy had sex on February 18th. She says he came in her.
Conception calculators I’ve done lead to a conception date of February 19th, but I don’t know how accurate these are. **ETA – these conception date tests were done with my boyfriend. HE asked me to help him as he knows that I know a little about these things due to me using FAM as a birth control method for awhile.
She is not willing to do a pre-birth paternity test, which I totally understand since there are risks involved. He has already ordered a paternity test to be able to do after the birth, and has a consultation scheduled with a lawyer to figure out what he needs to do to establish paternity rights, set up custody, birth certificate, etc., should it be his child.
Also, just to add – I know for a fact he did not know until last week – I was with him when he got the call – I heard the conversation and saw his reaction. I know I will get comments about him having unprotected sex – he was tested shortly after we met and showed me the results. I have been skeptical about Save-The-Date Cards after dealing with my ex husband and his infidelity, and he did that to ease my mind before we ever slept together. I also know I will get comments saying that it doesn’t matter, that I need to remove myself from this situation. I am aware that that’s my best option. I’m unsure of what I will do at this point. I don’t need advice on that, though I know I will probably get it.