Post # 1
Getting married in Feb (detination wedding with less than 50 guests; immediate family) Can’t decide when to do the at-home reception back in the Midwest.
Originally was going to do an at home reception in May however I was having a very hard time picking the right date. I finally picked a date (Sat May 4th ’13) and then had a HUGE group contact me about wanting to come out on that day (there is no way in hell I’d turn away that money, I would rather cancel and not have an at home reception!) My fiance and I own an outdoor recreational business that operates from April-November with the busiest months being May, June, July and August. Our business is 75% weekends and we do everything ourselves… no manager or anything. We essentially need to close for the day months in advance if something comes up but we usually just have to skip all the summer activities because well, it’s our business and it’s more important.. (Thankfully all our VIP people are already married!)
Anyway… We are opening ANOTHER recreational business which is water related so we think that’ll be also mostly busy May, June, July and August. I just can’t see closing both businesses just for a party. So I’m looking at when things cool down (which would be perfect for outdoor party) but also when our business slow down… Sept-ish.
My fiance is incredibly worried that it wouldn’t feel special enough, or wedding related, if we wait until September or even October.
Also, March is out — wayyyy too cold and it’s an outdoor venue.
Do you think having an at-home reception/backyard BBQ in Sept is too late for a destination wedding in Feb?
Post # 3
I would try to do it in April if I were you, or change the venue if you could.
I don’t think there’s a hard and fast rule, but more than six months out feels like a lot.
Post # 4
@S2013: I had a Destination Wedding in May and am having an at home reception in Nov, also in the MidWest 😉 so based on that, no I don’t think there’s a problem with Sept.
Post # 5
We were married in April and had a reception in July…it worked out fine
Post # 6
Thanks. 🙂 Anyone else have any thoughts on this? It seems that people are really torn on this subject in my family/friends. I think I have come to the conclusion of really calling it a PARTY and NOT a reception and just make it a party for those who couldn’t come to the Destination Wedding.
Post # 7
I think if you send out some sort of notice for the AHR, the timing wouldn’t matter at all. That way it’s not being ‘sprung’ on them months later.
Are the ppl attending the Destination Wedding also expected to attend the AHR? How many extra people will you invite to the AHR? Are you inviting EVERYONE to the Destination Wedding, and then hosting an AHR for those who can’t attend or having more of an A-list, B-list kinda thing.?
If you are inviting EVERYONE to the Destination Wedding, you could say on your invites
‘soandso are getting married in the exotic location date detials’:
‘for those of you who cannot attend an at-home-reception will be held in September’
RSVP card says Destination Wedding tick yes or no AHR tick yes or no.
Otherwise, you could send out announcements of your marriage to those that didn’t attend the Destination Wedding, it can double as an STD, then send out invites (as a reminder more than anything) closer to the date of the reception. Seems like a lot of stationery though….
Ours was 2 weeks after. We had our ‘honeymoon’ in between
Post # 9
Generally speaking the sooner the better… But this is certainly a situation where proper paperwork can be your friend. You can send out Wedding Annoncements, Reception Invites, Informals, or even Save the Dates… What you choose… And how you organize them will depend on the formality of your event, and the timing / lag from the Wedding etc
For more info on each consult GOOGLE or an Etiquette Guide, or the ETIQUETTE BOARD here on WBee
Post # 10
@S2013: our wedding is in april and we are thinking we will have our at home reception in october or november.
Post # 11
Personally, I think it’s too long to wait 4-6 months to have the at-home reception.