Post # 1
I had a MC a few days ago at 7 1/2 weeks. It was my first pregnancy and my husband and I are devastated. This was our honeymoon baby and we were both shocked and excited when we got pregnant the first month of trying.
I have cried my eyes out because of the loss. Everytime I go to the bathroom (TMI) the evidence is a painful reminder of the baby I lost. The only thing that’s keeping me going right now is the thought of TTC again. Since I miscarried naturally the doctor doesn’t want to see me unless I show signs of infection. He didn’t give me any advice on how long we should wait before TTC again. I’ve done my research on Google and it seems like the answer to this question varies greatly depending on which website I go to. My Mother-In-Law says we are supposed to wait 2 cycles before TTC and my mom says we can try right away. Obviously both mothers are very eager for us to produce grandchildren!
A part of me is really scared that I won’t be able to get pregnant again or that if I do, I will have another miscarriage but the only way to know for sure is to try again…
I would appreciate any advice and/or success stories. Thanks ladies.
Post # 3
@As_You_Wish: I’m so sorry for your loss. I, too, lost my honeymoon baby at 5 weeks. It’s horrible =( We started trying right away without any complications. I hope you get a sticky baby soon. Hugs…
Post # 4
You should be able to start trying right away; I was pregnant the first full cycle after my D&C and carried to term with my son.
Also, if you can, maybe consider switching doctors; it sounds like your doctor is not particularly responsive to your questions or concerns, and I guarantee you’ll have lots of questions and concerns when you get pregnant again.
Post # 5
@As_You_Wish: I had the exact same situation happen to me in May and understand how you are feeling. It probably depends on the dr but mine said we could start right away. I gave myself time to process what had happened though and waited one cycle. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Post # 6
They Say after u have at least 1 cycle… Sorry for ur loss…. Huggs
Post # 7
@As_You_Wish: Oh sweetie, my heart breaks for you 🙁 We waited until I had one full cycle to try again, but only because our doctor advised us to. I had a methotrexate injection, so it isn’t exactly the same scenario as yours.
If you decide to try again right away, you might want to use OPK’s or track when you ovulate so “dating” the pregnancy is easier- you won’t have to wonder if you’re 3 weeks or 6 weeks and there will be less confusion surrounding your next pregnancy.
Thinking of you and wishing you a quick recovery. ((HUGS))
Post # 8
Sorry about your loss. Like pphave said it depends. Some doctors want you to wait and others say it isn’t necessary. I had an ectopic and had to wait til my beta was 0 and have AF 2 times befor. We could try again. That was in may and we just started Ttc again this month.
Good luck to you. Definitely take the time you need to emotionally feel comfortable trying again.
Post # 9
I was told by my doctor to wait at least one full cycle before trying again. I then got a BFP the very next cycle after waiting. I’m trying keep my mind off of everything baby related for now – hoping for the best, but staying cautious.
Here the link to my post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bfp-after-miscarriage
Post # 10
I’m so sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 5 weeks and then got pregnant again the next cycle. My doctor told us to wait until I got my period or 6 weeks after the miscarriage and I happened to ovulate right at the 6 week mark, so we just decided to go for it. We were really surprised it happened again so quickly, but I’ve heard you can be very fertile following a miscarriage.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry for your loss. You may want to ask your doctor to check your beta hcg levels to make sure they come all the way back down to <5 and confirm the mc is complete. My doctor insisted on doing that (I miscarried at 7 weeks). She also asked me to wait one full cycle before trying again. I think primarily so they can date the pregnancy accurately, but also to give your body a chance to rebuild iron levels, etc. We waited once cycle and immediately got pregnant again. I’m currently 22 weeks. I do know of people who have not waited and went on to have successful pregnancies; however, I think the one month break was helpful for me. Even with the break, I feel like I have been pregnant for forever, since I was sick with my first one and then sick with the second one! It’s a personal decision though – good luck making the decision that is right for you!
Post # 12
i too have been wondering about this. we lost our little chickpea at 9.5 weeks, and i had my d&c two weeks ago. it took us 9 months to conceive, with a lot of help from my RE. that made the loss even harder to deal with, because i am definitely wondering how long it will take to get pregnant again (if we can at all). we’re still greiving hard and just trying to get back to “normal.” but after almost a year of trying, normal for us is ttc. everyone says to wait one cycle, but my cycles are so irregular and long, i have a feeling we will play the waiting game for a while.
i have a follow up with my obgyn next week, and my RE in two weeks, so i’ll let you know if i find out any info. i just hope we can pick up where we left off at my RE and not have to start from square one again. 🙁
Post # 13
Thanks for your help and encouragement ladies. To add insult to injury, I got a call yesterday from the midwifery office because I was on their waiting list and a spot had just opened up. Unfortunately i had to tell them what happened and that I won’t be needing an appointment any longer.
Otherwise, I’ve been trying to keep busy with work/housework and not let myself sit around and think about what has happened. I’m still upset about the miscarriage but at the same time I have a peace about it and I feel hopeful that we can TTC again soon.
Post # 14
Update: Soooo…my Darling Husband and I have had unprotected sex a few times since the bleeding stopped. Yesterday I started feeling uncomfortably bloated. Then this morning I had about 5 minutes of what felt like really intense period cramps but they felt really quite low…just above the pubic bone. I laid down for a few minutes until the cramping stopped. I’m not sure what implantation cramps feel like since I didn’t have them with my first pregnancy but I wonder if that’s what I was experiencing? I also had a very small amount of light brown spotting…it was barely even noticeable and haven’t seen any more since then. My breasts also feel really tender. Oh and when I brushed my teeth today my gums were bleeding?!
I pay pretty close attention to my CM and I’m pretty sure that I ovulated last week. Do you think it’s possible I could be pregnant already or are these leftover symptoms from my MC? I know it’s too early to test and I haven’t told my husband how I’m feeling because after what we went through with the MC, I don’t want to get his hopes up.
Post # 15
@As_You_Wish: Sorry for your lost…. It does sound like a baby is brewing (fingers crossed). If not please try not to stress youselfsatay try to stsy as happy and positive as possible. Sending you baby dust!!!!
Post # 16
update: i am now 4 weeks post d&c and still waiting on a period that may never come naturally (as i have irregular cycles). i saw my obgyn for a follow up last week and he said i appeared to be healing well but i should wait to have intercourse until my next appointment next week. no intercourse for 5 weeks after d&c seems kind of crazy to me! fyi, my husband and i have had protected sex since then and it’s been fine.
when we first lost our chickpea after 9 months of ttc, i was seriously thinking of calling it quits. i couldn’t imagine having to go through all of this again. but after just a few days of being absolutely heartbroken and devestated, it really sunk in just how badly we wanted a baby. so we’re going to try and be strong and keep trying.
i’m returning to my RE next week, and i’m hoping she’ll be able to help us workout a timeline. i’m curious as to how long will she make me wait for a period before giving me something to jump start, and when can we expect to schedule our next iui? i never thought i’d miss visiting my RE 1-3 times a week, but i do.