Post # 1
I’m newly engaged!! only about a week and half since the proposal we have been together for 9 years, so I have some what started planning (in my head lol dont we all) but I really want us to enjoy the moment and just be happy about our engagment. But I also dont want to wait too long due to venuse booking up fast/ ordering a dresses and all that jazz. I want to start the conversation about picking a date with Fiance but dont want to seem like I’m rushing or anything. How long did you ladies wait to start planning? How did you start the convo with you FI?
Post # 3
We started planning right after we got engaged!
Post # 4
I have most items done after only being engaged a month. Being 30 and to last to get married out of my friends helps since I knew what I wanted.
I’d say picking a date is most important which will give you an idea how much time you need to plan and then deciding on a budget so you know if you need time to save. Then show your Fiance a wedding timeline from a website or magazine so he gets an idea for what is average as far as planning.
Post # 5
We started booking the big things right away…finding possible dates, church, reception and photographer. But as far as the planning of details, I haven’t started yet! I just wanted to get the things that book up and are most important first! I did all the research on these things and would run it by the Fiance or have him go with me to look at places. He’s not super interested in planning so its mostly up to me and my mom. Except for cake. He’s very vocal about cake and wanting to do the tasting 🙂
Post # 6
We were engaged on a Monday and saw our first (and, as it has it, last) venue that Saturday! 🙂 Now it’s been about a month and a half and we have a date picked, confirmed we can marry at my family church on said date, and just figured out our cake situation last weekend. 🙂
Post # 7
@bridgetdarling: Mine too!!!! He cares about cake, and that I’m happy. That’s it.
Is it bad that I started planning a tad before? Nt serious, just online ‘window shopping’ and maybe asking for prices…. just to get an idea….. but only after he bought the ring! That was it 🙂 Still havent booked anything yet, but now its more intense lol
Post # 8
We sent the email to the venue the day after we got engaged, and made our first guestlist on the flight home from the trip 3 days later. I had a big push right away and now I’m being lazy…
Post # 9
Started already, in a way. I’m just getting an idea of what’s available in our area. We plan to be engaged this year.
Post # 10
We started planning as soon as we got engaged–had the date picked within an hour. 🙂 But I understand wanting to wait and enjoy it.
Post # 11
@CookieDough_love: I would start with a date and go from there. If you are thinking of getting married within the next year, then start planning sooner than later.
Post # 12
Immediately! We settled on a short engagement pretty quickly though, so we knew we needed to kick it in high gear. Within a 2-3 weeks, we had built our budget, put down deposits for our ceremony and reception venues, and I had bought a dress, veil, and sash.
Ideally, though, I would have liked to have a longer engagement so we had time to just enjoy it more.
Post # 13
@CookieDough_love: The first thing you need to do before booking/buying ANYTHING is to set your budget. I would take the next few months to research how expensive things in your area are before you commit to any vendors. Depending on how fast things in your area get booked, you may want to book them more than a year out…this ususally is the case for reception venues.
Don’t buy your dress too early; if you do stop looking at other dresses! You should order your dress 6-9 months before your wedding. Good luck!
Post # 14
haha I told my now hubby before we got engaged what day I wanted to get married (his grandparents 76th anniversary) we went and looked at and booked a venue before he officially asked..lol..
Post # 15
Haha we waited until we’d been engaged a year and a half before we really started planning.
Post # 16
We waited about 6 months before we started planning – in the meantime we moved in together, Fiance started a new job and I started a graduate course. So we had other things to focus on!
ETA: That didn’t affect our date since we were planning to wait until 2014 anyway.