Post # 1
Do you know how long you’re supposed to wait, or how long you personally waited after having a baby?
As most of you know, I had a stillborn last Tuesday and I feel like the only thing that will make me feel better is by being pregnant again. I can’t bear the nursery in my house that we’ve jammed all the baby items into.
It was a normal vaginal delivery with barely any tearing, if that makes a difference.
Post # 2
jaia07: I don’t have an answer for you but I am so sorry. Prayers for your family and that you get your rainbow baby
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I hope you have started the support group or therapy you discussed joining because that will definitely help. In all honesty, you won’t ever be able to replace your baby with another baby. While it may seem like a good idea to rush into another pregnancy it’s a better idea to let you body and mind heal a bit first.
Check with your doctor but personally I would say to wait at least 3-6 months before TTC again. However, keep in mind that most studies recommend 1-2 years between pregnancies for the best outcomes for mom and baby. I just think 1-2 years is long time to go before TTC in a situation like yours.
Post # 4
jaia07: I am so sorry 🙁 I’ve been through it myself and just like you, I wanted to be pregnant again immediately after. I knew that was the only thing that would help me get over it. My daughter was stillborn on 2-23-02. I found out I was pregnant again in 04/2002 and my son was born in 12/2002, he’s now a happy, healthy 11 year old boy. In retrospect it was all so fast but I have no regrets!
Post # 5
I’m very sorry for what you’ve been going through. This is a horrible situation that no one should have to face (I believe I read your earlier thread).
The USUAL recommendation is that it’s best to space births at least 18 months apart (so, getting pregnant again in 9 months); the minimal waiting time is to wait 6 months to get pregnant again after you gave birth. Getting pregnant again within 6 months of delivery is associated with higher risks for the next pregnancy. Here are some links:
(The 18 month figure appears in this article)
(This one mentions 6 months – i.e., that you are 61% more likely to have a low birthweight baby if you get pregnant again within 6 months).
But by all means, talk to your doctor. I took 10 months to conceive, so if it took you a while with your previous pregnancy, a doctor may see no harm in trying again immediately (the thinking being that it may take you a while to get pregnant again).
Post # 6
You should let your body heal 3 to 6 months. Emotionally you should let yourself heal a bit longer as this new pregnancy will be highly stressful and emotional for you and you want to be in the best place you can. We too had a loss at 20 weeks and had a vaginal delivery. We waited over a year before starting fertility again (two courses of IVF) and I was still an emotional wreck. I highly suggest getting help, dear. One on one or group…whatever you can find that will help you navigate this time.
Post # 7
jaia07: My friend who had a stillbirth last March felt the same way. Her doctor told her to wait and allow herself time to heal emotionally and physically. She is pregnant again and due in early July but has a scheduled delivery a few weeks prior to that. It’ll happen but you have to give yourself time to grieve. <3
Post # 8
Does anyone have any suggestions about where to seek help? I started reading the book “An Exact Replica of a Figment of my Imagination” that someone recommended in my first post. (I guess I should track her down and thank her)
I’m in Canada, and I’m a little suprised I haven’t even gotten a call from a home care nurse or anything.
Post # 9
As I wrote in your last thread, I also just lost my baby, actually a month ago this week. he was five weeks old though, so I’m already a little over two months out from giving birth. When I went to my post partum doctor’s appointment she cleared me to ttc, and will even put me on clomid if I don’t get pregnant in three cycles. I still have yet to get my first period after having my baby, so who knows when that will be.
I understand when people say ou need to wait, but I also understand the need to get pregnant again quickly. I’m a little conflicted, but most times I want to get pregnant again soon. Some studies actually recommend it, so I say just do what feels right for you.
Post # 10
Call your Ob/Gyn.. They won’t call you sweetie… don’t wait until your 6 weeks PP check… call them.
I’m not sure which part of Canada you are in, but here are three.. you can call and maybe they have a contact in your area. They deal specifically with Postpartum issues.
<h4>Cheryl Dizon-Reynante<br /><small>Nexus Counselling</small></h4>
p. (204) 297-6744
<address>497 Corydon Avenue 2nd Floor<br /> Winnipeg, MB, Canada R2R 2W7<br />email | visit site</address>
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<h4>Tania Nicholls MSW RSW</h4>
p. (613) 331-0919</header><address>2263 Princess St<br /> Kingston, ON K7M 3G1<br />Canada<br />email | visit site</address></div>
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<h4>Mary Joan Brinson, MSW<br /><small>Birth & Postpartum Support Centre</small></h4>
p. (613) 848-3683 </header><address>100 Victoia Avenue<br /> Belleville, Ontario Canada<br />email | visit site</address></div>
Post # 11
I know a woman who suffered a loss at full term (I think 41 weeks) and gave birth to a healthy baby 11 months later. I do not know what her doctor recommended (we were not that close) but she never mentioned any problems with the second pregnancy, besides the usual complaints (tired, swollen, nauseated, etc.).
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Post # 12
I saw the doctor and she said after one healthy period we could try again. I’m young and healthy and strong, I’m sure that was a factor. She also said I can have a guaranteed C-Section this time because in my last two pregnancies the cord has been wrapped around their necks. I can’t risk it happened again and having the same outcome.
Thank you for that. I’m in the Vancouver area and I don’t think any of those apply to me, but I appreciate you tracking them down for you.
so sorry for your loss as well. I can’t imagine getting to spend 5 weeks with her and then having to say goodbye. Sending love and light your way.
Post # 13
I remember reading an article which said that if you get pregnant again within a year, your second child may have a low birth weight. However, if you get pregnant within two years, the second baby may benefit from increased blood flow to the uterus.
Therefore, the medical ideal is 1-2 years in order to have the best birth outcome for baby number 2.
Post # 14
jaia07: I would ask your ob. I generally hear a year is advised but plenty of people get pregnant 6 weeks post partum and have healthy babies.
Ultimately you know what is best for you and your healing from your loss, but have you considered talking with a therapist to help you through the grief? Just a suggestion if you haven’t already.
Im so sorry again for your loss an I wish you all the best.
Post # 15
I haven’t yet but I probably should. This week I have 3 different appointments with 3 different doctors. We also have to decide what to do about our wedding…