(Closed) How long after losing your virginity before you had your first orgasm?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How long after losing your virginity (and having frequent sex) before you orgasmed?
    First time! (Lucky!) : (55 votes)
    13 %
    1-2 months : (51 votes)
    12 %
    3-4 months : (19 votes)
    5 %
    5-6 months : (11 votes)
    3 %
    7-8 months : (5 votes)
    1 %
    9-10 months : (4 votes)
    1 %
    11-12 months : (10 votes)
    2 %
    1-1 1/2 years : (24 votes)
    6 %
    1 1/2-2 years : (17 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @ScottishMrs:  Vaginal intercourse only?  It’s very normal to be unable to orgasm that way.  Most women orgasm through clitoral stimulation only.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Are you not open to masturbation?

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Like PP said, are you asking through intercourse only?  If that’s the case, I’d say like 1.5 years. (I lost my virginity at 18)  Before that, after he went, he had to get me to organism with his hands or dry humping. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @ScottishMrs:  OP, were you a virgin before you married your husband in July?

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @ScottishMrs:   Sorry, don’t mean to pry.  Just curious.  But how (and where) does it hurt?  Could it be possible you’re not doing it right?

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ScottishMrs:  Hurts to masturbate? Umm. Get a vibrator… Learn to orgasm with yourself before you expect it to happen with your partner.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @ScottishMrs:   Oh no no, the more info we have the more we can help you!  I think if you’re really sensitive then i wouldn’t jump to a vibrator.  

    Maybe try touching yourself while you’re having intercourse as you’re already sexually aroused?

    Another idea…a gentle speed on a removable shower head (if you have one).  Or if you don’t have a removable shower head, run your bath faucet on low, lay on your back and let the water hit you until it feels good.  I always kind of give that advice to people who are too sensitive for oral sex because it’s a comparable feeling, but you’re more in control. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Many many years. I lost the v card in HS and didn’t O until I got to college. I never masterbated so I really had no idea I wasn’t Oing until I did and then was like ” Oh, so THAT’S what all the fuss about sex is”

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I had my first orgasm 3 or 4 years before losing my virginity, courtesy of now-DH’s nimble gamer’s fingers. It only took him a month or two of fooling around in earnest to figure out how. 

    When we finally did have sex, I didn’t have an orgasm in intercourse for 2-3 months, although before that he would finish me with his hand. We still do that a lot because it’s so reliable. We’ve had lots of practice! I think the time we spent before having sex learning how my body responds paid off. 

    And, yeah, masturbation should not hurt. It doesn’t even have to involve penetration, if that’s what’s painful. When fingers (mine or his) get me off, it’s not through penetration. That’s just me though. Maybe you need lube? 

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am one of those rare women who ONLY orgasms vaginally. DOn’t know why but it’s OK by me. However it is sometimes frustrating for FH when he tries to please me orally and I am like “Meh!”. And yes, I was one of those lucky ones who orgasmed the very first time and immediately fell in love with sex!

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @ScottishMrs:  Well you definitely won’t have an orgasm doing things that you’re “used to”.  talk to your Darling Husband about how he would feel if you started doing that during intercourse.  I do think a majority of men are LARGELY turned on by seeing that, so I wouldn’t be too worried about it.

    These are things that you definitely should not be scared or nervous to talk to your Darling Husband about. 

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