Post # 57
10+ years (Im 25). We might nix having one and just adopt when we are 40, too. Neither of us buys too much into the “joys” of parenting. Ironically though, Im sure if I found out I were unable to have kids I would be devastated. I dont know if this is b/c it’s so tied into womanhood or what.
Post # 58
4-6 years. I’m 26, and he’s 25. We both finished grad school and want our careers to be steady and stable, and be able to do lots of traveling and have a solid home going. 🙂
Post # 59
Ok Im sure I will get a ton of greif from this but here goes. We are going to get married 1 month after our 21st birthdays (we are 9 days apart). We are thinking about a year after we are married or sooner! Ik everyone thinks I am insane but I love kids and I work full time in the infant room at a daycare so believe me 1 kid will be a easy compared to the 12 infants I care for every day! I know it will be hard work but by then we will both have stable jobs and ready for the trials of parenthood.
Post # 60
We’re activately trying. We’re both in our 40s so I to have 2 children, we need to produce ASAP.
Post # 61
We’re probably going to try right away. We already have a son, and have been together for 5 years. I am 23 (will be 24) and he is 25 (will be 30) after the wedding. Our son is 18 months now, and we want them to be close in age together, but I don’t want to be preggers for the wedding! So for us it makes sense to try asap after the wedding.
Post # 62
@futuremrsny: I dont think your insane at all…you know when your ready and if its the right time for you and your husband than so be it! Good luck!
Post # 63
@NatAndTy: Don’t worry, you aren’t alone! My Fiance and I will be 22 when we are married and we aren’t planning on trying to have kids until he is 30 (so i’ll be at least 31 when we have kids). My Fiance wants to have all his ducks in a row before we start trying. (Grad school, no loans) However, I really think I might want kids when I’m in my late 20’s so here’s hoping we come to some kind of agreement or get on the same page!
@ginamj88: Ha! The first person to ask us this was FI’s younger brother. I think he was hoping it would be soon so he could have a kid to hang out with.
@kimbee23: not exactly sure how your husband will age 5 years between now and the wedding, but it must be the stress of planning 😛
Post # 64
We waited a little over a year – but, we were 30 already by then (and had been together for 9+ years) so it made sense to get going. Still not pregnant yet, so I’m glad we started trying when we did.
Since you are youngish it seems like an awesome plan to wait some time and enjoy your marriage before TTC!
Post # 65
Both Fiance and I really want kids, but we also recognize that this isn’t the best time for them. I’m 22 and he’s 21, and we want him to finish his masters before we start thinking about having kids.
I would really like to start trying in 2 or 3 years, because the best time physically for me to have kids would be when I’m 24 or 25, but, as I say, his masters needs to come first. I would guess that we’ll start trying in 3 years (and we’re getting married this Satruday!!!!).
Post # 66
I think we are hoping for a honeymoon baby! we have a two year old son, so we would love another baby just as soon as the wedding is over so I think any time after we get married.
@madymommy24 your story and mine sound alot alike my son is almost 2 and a half… we got engaged a few motnhs after he ws born… (been together almost 7 years now…)
Post # 67
I thought I wanted to wait at least five years too, cause I got married when I was 20 and I’m nearly 22 now, and 13weeks pregnant. After we were married awhile, things just changed. I really had thought I wanted to wait, but things fell into place in our lives and it just worked out so I’m happy. But I know I’m SUPER young to start a family compared to most. I’m kinda worried about that, but my hubby and I decided together so I’m happy 🙂
Post # 68
@NatAndTy: I don’t see anything wrong with you waiting. It’s you and your FI’s decision. I actually think it’s kind of responsible because it gives you time to get settled in your careers and get your finances in order. I know that there’s no “perfect” time to have a baby and I’m definitely not saying that people who have babies earlier in their lives are not good parents, I just think that at least for me it’s later. I look at my life now vs when I was 21 and I definitely couldn’t image having a baby at 21. When we get married, I’ll be 27 and he’ll be 25. We’re going to start TTC maybe 6 months to a year after we’re married mainly because we want 2-3 kids and we don’t want me to be mid to late 30s having our last baby and we also don’t want them born right on top of each other either so that’s what works for our family. I think you have to make the best decision for you and your family though. If you want to wait 10 years then don’t let anyone try to talk you out of it 🙂
Post # 69
we wanted to wait two years, but here i am almost 7 months married and 10 weeks rpegnant!
Post # 70
It really depends on where you are at in your life when you get married. Such as If you’re settled into your career or how old you are then maybe you can start sooner, but if you are just starting to get settled or younger than its ok to wait. Me and my FH we will wait about 2-3 years before we try because when we get married I will be graduating with my Clinical Doctoral and he will be graduating with his Masters so we will be both starting new careers and the 2-3 year time frame will give us time to get settled far as paying loans off if we have any and finding a home to make our nest and to also be finically stable to have kids. At the end of the day everyone situation will be different because of age and where they are at in their life and personal preference. Remember when you are having a baby it is supposed to be the best time in your life to enjoy. At the end of the day DO what’s best for you and your FH/DH and what’s going to make you happy.
Post # 71
I personally would like to wait until I am done with grad school which is about 5 years but Darling Husband wants to wait 2 years which I understand because he is 4 years older and doesnt want to be 30.