How long after MC did you conceive?

posted 1 week ago in TTC
  • poll: How long after miscarriage did you conceive?

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  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I have no advice, but wanted to give you all my sympathy. I could almost have written your post myself (had my IUD out a few months before wedding, started TTC in Sept 18, conceived on 2nd cycle, had a missed miscarriage picked up at the 12 week scan but I miscarried naturally at 13.5 weeks before a D&C was offered. 

    I also thought it would surely happen quickly again, but we’ve been trying for over a year now with no joy. I have just booked in for some blood tests to see if there’s anything wrong. We are an older couple so feel that time is not on our side. TTC is far more demoralising than I expected. 

    I wish you all the best and just wanted you to know you’re not alone.

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

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    @rosalind:  I had a missed miscarriage in September and haven’t conceived again yet 🙁 We did our first round of IUI yesterday. I hope it happens soon for you!!

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

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    @secondtimer18:  definitely get the tests! Get a semen assessment for your husband too. I don’t know how old you guys are (you said you’re older), but at our ages (I’m 37 almost 38 and my husband is 47), our doctors are willing to be aggressive, which is great. We just did our first IUI yesterday. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

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    @KittyYogi:  Yes, we will, but due to the lock down they aren’t testing men here at the moment (or doing internal exams on women). I feel lucky that they are happy to do the blood tests! We’re a similar age to you and initial experience with testing has been positive. Thank you, and good luck!

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - City, State

    Also here to empathize and wish you luck. It can be so tough when the TTC journey drags on, especially after loss. Just like with TTC in general, I’m sure you’ll find a wide range of times to conceiving again after MC. Like you, I conceived for the first time right away, without trying…. now I’m on the tail end of my 14th cycle post-MC, and still waiting on another BFP.  For us, we started testing after our 10th post-MC cycle, and are now gearing up for our second IUI. But, plenty of other people have succesful pregnancies sooner after MC… it’s impossible to predict.  I hope you conceive your rainbow baby so soon.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

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    @secondtimer18:  hope you can get everything going soon!  Good luck to you as well!!

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee

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    @rosalind:  We conceived 3 cycles trying post marriage. We skipped the 1st on doctors advise. The second due to illness and then on the 3rd cycle trying we got pregnant. But it was about 4/5 months post MC. Best of luck!!

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

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    @rosalind:  my experience is slightly different but I had a tfmr after a incompatible with life diagnosis at 14 weeks. That baby was conceived on our first cycle trying and just guesswork on timing. I’m now on cycle 10 (had a CP in cycle 8) and still trying. I read so many stories of people conceiving almost immediately after a loss, and given how easily I conceived first time round I expected it would happen quickly again. I don’t have much advice but can empthise with how much of a struggle it is. I just wanted to offer my support. It can be a soul destroying journey at times. 

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    @stellate23:  I’m so sorry to see you’re still trying. 

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I miscarried in August and it took me till the following May to conceive again. My cycles were super crazy and irregular for a few months following my D&C. But my rainbow baby is now 3. Wishing you luck!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I could have written your post last year.

    Went off IUD, conceived first cycle, found out at 11 weeks I’d had a missed miscarriage. Had a D&C and then immediately started trying again. 

    We conceived 6 months post D&C. We had tests scheduled for that month but I got a BFP instead. That BFP is now my 5 month old son and I had an easy no-complications pregnancy.

    I basically refused to get attached to the idea of being pregnant until I was 14 weeks and honestly didn’t bond with baby during pregnancy until probably 28 weeks because I didn’t want to go through the emotional pain of that first miscarriage. 

    I don’t know why 6 months we suddenly got our BFP. I’d do as much of a work up as you can on you and husband – even just to catch any obvious red flags! Otherwise just keep on trying…TTC sucks – it’s such an emotional rollercoaster !

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee

    I miscarried in July of 2016 which sent me into a depression. My husband and I started getting in the groove of having sex, not ttc just sex, again in October 2016 then finally in January 2017 we decided to ttc and got our bfp in February 2017.

    I’m sorry for your loss, I hope you get your bfp soon💖

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    It’s a rough journey. I got pregnant straight away and miscarried, tried again right away and got pregnant the month after the miscarriage and then miscarried again. Waited a month for my period and then tried again and got pregnant second cycle, and miscarried again. I was at a very dark place and just had to stop trying for three months. Started acupuncture and started trying again, got pregnant after three cycles and now I’m 35 weeks xx

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - City, State

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    @mrsw88:  thanks, friend!  I’m sorry to see that you’re still trying, too. 

    Like you mentioned, it is hard not being one of those lucky ones who conceived again quickly after loss.  It can feel like such a lonely struggle at times, with the weight of loss added onto the struggle of a longer ttc journey.  Sending big supportive hugs to all of you! @rosalind, you’re definitely not alone. 

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - California

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    @rosalind:  I am so sorry you are going through this. After my first MC it took me 5 months to get pregnant again and after the second it took me 2 months. Unfortunately, the most recent one was a chemical pregnancy so we are on to IVF now. I know a lot of the stories you will hear are of people saying they got pregnant right away after an MC and so that you get your hopes up and expect that and when it doesn’t happen its so heartbreaking and frustrating. Even with great timing, it just takes longer for some people. I’m sorry I don’t really have any helpful advice but I will say that after my second MC I stopped charting/tracking and just followed my RE’s advice to have sex every other day around the time of my fertile week and it was a lot less stressful and did “work” in the sense that I got pregnant even though it resulted in a CP. So that helped me feel better vs. tracking/charting, even though I ultimately was unsuccessful. That’s not for everyone, though and I know that some people prefer to continue tracking/charting and for some it greater sense of control. I hope you have better “luck” (I hate that term in the fertility context, but you know what I mean) in the coming months!

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