Post # 1
I have read that fertility may be increased after a miscarriage, and obviously I’m really hoping it doesn’t take another 7 months to get my next BFP…If you have had to deal with this tragedy, do you mind sharing how long it took to get pregnant after your miscarriage? And did it take less time than it did to get the initial bfp?
I don’t really want to add a poll, because it just doesn’t seem *right* to poll anything about a m/c.
And if you’re posting a reply here, I’m very, very sorry for your loss. This has been really hard for me, and I know many of you have unfortunately been through the same thing. I hope this post finds you with a sticky baby and a healed heart:)
MUCH love and hugs to you, and thank you for sharing your experiences. Obviously I’m just digging for hope here, at a time when it’s really easy to believe it’s hopeless. I’m really trying to just be happy that my body proved it can get pregnant, but after 2 people announced their pregnancies in a sales meeting today, I’m just…struggling a bit:)
So thank you:)
Post # 3
You know this already but I had a chemical pregnancy and started AF right around the same time that you did. That was 5 months ago. Still nothing.
My sister got pregnant got pregnant 5 months after her miscarriage.
Post # 4
Again I’m so sorry for your loss.
It took me 3 months after the first time, but my ob said to wait a full cycle before trying again so really 2 tries, but I miscarried again. Then 7 months for this pregnancy.
My sister had to go on meds after her first miscarriage and it took 2 and a half years.
Post # 5
I am 3 months post miscarriage and nothing. My doctor said one cycle off and then we could try. I had hoped that it would happen right away since I heard also that you’re more fertile after a MC, but that first period was pretty intense and I was glad in the end to get rid of the old lining and everything.
I am so sorry you are going through this. It really is one of the most difficult things you can go through in life. The best thing my doctor told me was to grieve the loss because it truely is one. No matter how far along you are it is a loss and to take the time to heal.
Post # 6
So sorry for your loss : (
I got pregnant on cycle 3 the first time, but miscarriaged. My doctor told me to wait a cycle before trying again. Then I got pregnant on cycle 3 again (but it was 4 cycles since the miscarriage since we had to wait a month). It seemed awful and FOREVER (and I thought something was wrong since like you I had read about increased fertility after the miscarriage). But, nothing was wrong and this pregnancy stuck. Good luck trying again!!
Post # 7
First, I just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope when you’re ready you get your sticky baby! Same goes to all the other lovely ladies here who’ve experienced a loss.
After my miscarriage my husband and I took three (with the 3rd being kinda not trying not to) cycles off. Our OB recommended waiting at least two. On the fourth cycle we were blessed with a BFP.
While having a BFP helped me to emotionally move on, I think I needed those months off to truly grieve our loss and get myself to a good place where I was ready handle another pregnancy.
Post # 8
I had a MC in april and was preg again in december… I was totally suprised, it wasnt planned
my son is now 17 months
Post # 9
I haven’t been through this but send me love and support to all fo you who have.
My aunt is (finally) pregnant after having a m/c at 4w at the beginning of december….shes 6 weeks along now which means her 2nd cycle after a m/c. I don’t think they took a break in between from trying honestly….Sometimes I wonder if “a break” is needed more for emotional purposes or physical. Also for reference–She had major issues getting pregnant the first time, she’s been trying to get pregnant(no real reasons as to why) since last Jan so it took them a full year to now have a sticky one.
Post # 10
It took us 10 months for the first BFP, and then we got another one 3 months later.
Post # 11
once again i am SO sorry for your loss. I had my miscarriage in August and we took one month off and then got pregnant our second month of trying. so by november we were pregnant again. We def needed that time in between to recooperate and emotionally heal from everything. my doctor also told me that you are more fertile after a miscarraige, which made me feel a little better.
Post # 12
I was PG the first cycle after my m/c. Had a D&C Jan 3rd and got my BFP before February was over.
In the “for what it’s worth” column (because every one is different and deals with loss differently), I wish I had waited a little longer to try. It was so hard on me emotionally to be dealing with a new PG so soon after a loss, and it was hard on me physically. I m/c’ed at 10wks, so I was just getting over PG symptoms/bloating from the first pregnancy when I started getting it with the second. I spent pretty much a year straight being pregnant, and it was rough. Add in complications with the second pregnancy, and I was a mess. Obviously I wouldn’t trade my son for the world, but if I had to do it over again, I would have waited at least a few more months.
Post # 13
I had a MC at 10 weeks (D&C). I got my period 4 weks later, and then my doc asked me to wait an entire cycle to try again, so 4 more weeks until I got my second period. As it turns out, my cycles were regular right away. But with some people, after a D&C or natural miscarriage that far along, it will take 6-8+weeks to get their first period.
Anyway, so when we could finally start trying again, I got pregnant on CYCLE 3.
BIG HUGS to you in this very difficult time. But keep your heart open. Getting and being pregnant again is so scary, but very worth it!
Post # 14
Also, the reason my doctor gave for waiting a month was to let my body “reset” – so we wouldn’t have trouble dating another pregnancy and so my lining could build up again. But, my m/c was early at around 5.5 weeks so I know some doctors say to wait longer after a d/c.
Post # 15
Again, I’m very sorry for your loss jholler. I miscarried on January 7 of this year in our first cycle of TTC (at 5 weeks) and just found out yesterday that I’m pregnant again, so I really feel that you can be more fertile in the wake of your miscarriage. I’m really hoping this one sticks, and that you get your BFP just as soon as you want it!
Post # 16
Hugs Jholler!!!! I got my first BFP after 2 cycles of trying. I miscarried at about 6 weeks. My doctor told me I could try again right away and after 3 more cycles we had another BFP. I’m not 13 weeks so it looks like this one is a sticky baby.