(Closed) How long after moving in with your boyfriend did you get engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 167
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We will have been dating 1.5 years by the time we get engaged, have a 6 month engagement and move in together when we get married. πŸ™‚

Post # 168
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Engaged after 6 months of dating, moved in 2 months after that, married 2 months after that.

Post # 169
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We’re moving in together in August. Considering he has said that he will propose when we’re at least close to finding a house, or once we are in our house, I can’t imagine it being too long πŸ™‚ (together 7 years already).

 

Post # 170
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We moved in together a year and a half after we started dating. We lived together for 4 years before getting engaged and 5.5 years before getting married.

Post # 171
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Moved in together August 2011. Engaged June 2013. 22 months or so.

We’ve been together about 5 1/2 years.

Post # 172
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Bumble bee

We had been living in my parents’ basement together for 2 years before moving into our own place, but we got engaged 6 months after that move πŸ™‚
Gotta say, kind of felt like forever, though. haha – What IS it about waiting that gets under our skin so much? Looking back I totally should have just let things happen. Turns out he actually did have a plan after all. heh

We then got married 7 months (to the day, coincidentally) after getting engaged. He was 24 and I was 4 days from my 24th birthday.

We’d been dating for 8 years before getting engaged.

Congrats on moving in together!

Post # 173
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Philadelphia, PA

We had been living together for 10 months when he proposed, but had been together for 5.5 years before that (long-distance relationship).

Post # 174
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Worker bee

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@jess08:  This I agree with.

 

I lived with my ex Fiance for 8 months and we broke up (for very good reasons trust me). Looking back even though I had had a ring on my finger for 5 years, this guy and I weren’t really serious about getting married and moving in together did make us want to run to the alter any faster. But deep down I already knew this, living with him before we called it quits just made it a bit more complicated in terms of having to move my things and change my address again…a total and utter waste of my time.

After that fiasco I REFUSE to live with my boyfriend until we are married or, at least engaged with a date set and with a wedding planned.

Call me old fashioned but based on my experiences and those of others I know moving in together isn’t alway prelude to an engagement.

I have a friend who has lived with her man for 10 years they have 2 kids together. She desperately wants him to marry her and make it official. He refuses, says whats the point? They are already living together like they are married and have kids, and he is perfectly happy with keeping the status quo as it is. This is the dilemma many women are stuck in. They desperately want marriage but have already invested so much time into the relationship and has given the guy no incentive to take the next step. And realistically why should he? You’re already giving him what he wants without him having to propose. What difference would a proposal make at the end of the day is the way he sees it.

For me, living with a guy is a husband privelige. Why should I play house with someone with no ring on my finger? or in my last relationship with a ring on my finger but no real intentions of marriage? For me the intent has to be there followed by action. If you want me to be your wife and cook and clean for you and go to work and share bills together and raise a family etc then you should give me the committment I require BEFORE any of this comes to pass. And if a guy really loves you and wants to be with you he will make that committment.

Some people argue that you should live with someone before marrying them to “test” the relationship…well sorry, but in life there are no “tests” just because a relationship is one way today doesn’t mean it will stay that way forever. The fact is you can never really know what a person is going to be like 5 or 10 years down the line, Just speak to anyone who has been married for 30 years then divorced. Not to mention, when people just live together it is a lot easier to walk away than if you were married. A little thing that you would have probably worked on while married would send you packing in some cases. And yes, the law will treat common-law couples similar as they do married couples, but married couples will always have more rights in the courtroom at the end of the day and rightfully so…they choose to get married and make their union legal, they deserve more protection from the law. You can still get to know someone with out living with them. I spend lots and lots of time with my bf but a few times a week I will go back to my house. He needs to see that if he wants me there full time he will have to take the plunge and put a ring on it. I know how he operates and his habits to a tee, I didn’t need to share his address and rent to get to know this about him.

If living with a guy first is your thing (your in general) then more power to you! Lots of common-law couples end up married lots of couples who live seperate do not. But for me, this is what I believe will work to both our benefit in the long run, and this I think will encourage him to marry me a bit sooner.

 

 

 

Post # 175
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It took him about 2 years after we bought our house to propose. We had been together 5 years at that point.

 

Post # 176
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Lived together for 3 years before he popped the question!  But we moved in after only 6 months together…

Post # 177
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@alohakay:  I am 22, Fiance is 30.  We moved in together at the end of May last year, and he proposed before the end of August.  Our wedding will be at the end of August this summer  πŸ™‚

Post # 178
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Helper bee

@alohakay:  we have been together for 5 years.. I moved in 6 months ago and we just got engaged

Post # 179
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Newbee

We moved in with each other eight months into our relationship. It was suppose to be temporary however another year has gone by and we are living in a new place. He wants me to buy it with him but I threw a curveball and said not until u put a ring on it. I’m thinking by the end of this yr we will get engaged. 

Post # 180
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Just over 10 years… I still think we rushed into it Smile

Post # 181
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

a year and a half. πŸ™‚ Moving in wasn’t the catalyst or the barrier for us. We both wanted to have graduated college and gotten full time jobs. While our jobs were staggered, the fact that we both had accomplished our degrees, and were willing to move with each other to wherever our careers took us meant that marriage needed to happen. πŸ™‚

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