Post # 1
My SO and I have been unofficially engaged for about 6 months. He asked his family for advice, so they all know what’s coming, but I made a point not to tell my family until we had made definite plans, and had a ring to show for it. In the last few weeks, we’ve picked a ring, and it felt like we were getting close to going official.
Today, my cousin who is a few years older announced her own engagement. When would we be able to make our announcement without stealing her thunder? Is it more important to keep our events seperated rather than just the announcement?
Post # 3
Give it a month or so, if you feel the need to.
Post # 4
Maybe a couple of months but you could cue your family sooner 🙂
Post # 5
I would tell your family, but not announce it for a month or two. I would probably even tell the cousin and say that your excited but that you don’t want to steal their thunder. They might not even mind at all…mine didn’t!
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s a big deal. I don’t buy into the whole stealing thunder thing, I think tell them when you get engaged as a couple weeks will have gone by then.
Post # 7
OP, don’t worry about stealing her thunder. Families can be excited for more then one engagement at a time.
You aren’t actually engaged yet, so by the time you are, a week or two will have passed and that is more then sufficient.
Post # 8
I also want to add I have a tone of cousins in the late twenties earlty thirties age range and someone is always getting engaged, three of my cousins have are getting married this summer. Another two are getting married next year when I do. So waiting around would mean waiting forever as someome is always getting engaged, married, having a baby.
Post # 9
Give it at least a week. DH and I got engaged, and four days later, my cousin also got engaged, and announced it to me on facebook, by saying we could go dress shopping together. It didn’t ruin the experience per se, but it did dampen the glow a bit. I would have liked at least a week to bask in the glow of my new engagement.
Post # 10
My friend and i got engaged the same day. She announced first, i told everyone a few days later. I dont see any “stealing thunder” going on. We will just have to make sure our weddings are not too close together.