(Closed) how long after the engagement do you wait to have the wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

brittersnicole:  it is really a personal choice. There are things to think about that can swing it either way. 

1. Big or small wedding

2. Financial

3. Couples schedule

4. Venue 

5. Venue availability

For us we just wanted to be married as soon as we could, so just did a registry office/ courthouse ceremony and a pub lunch for us and 18 members of immediate family. We married three months after our engagement. 

 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It’s up to you. We had a seven month engagement. Plenty of time to plan and save for us, but that depends on the couple. We paid for the wedding ourselves – 15k for 45 guests. 

 

Post # 33
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

We opted to wait almost a year between engagement and wedding. Mostly that was because we needed time and money to plan the wedding and knew we wanted a fall wedding. As we were engaged in November we decided to wait until the next fall.

Post # 34
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6269 posts
Bee Keeper

bento:  my Fiance surprises me with what he thinks is important too! :). Sounds like you’ve got the perfect time. 

Post # 35
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2655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I really think it’s a personal decision how long your engagement is. Ours is about 15 months – we were hoping for about a year, but our dream venue didn’t have availability then so we took the next available date that suited us. My dad and step mother, on the other hand, only had a 3 month engagement. And a close friend of mine had a 27 month engagement (they wanted to wait until her Darling Husband had finished his apprenticeship before getting married).

Post # 36
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893 posts
Busy bee

Completely up to you. Ours was 7 months. It was more than long enough for us, although we booked the venue 8 months before the date (yes, before we actually got engaged. Lol)

Post # 37
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Beach

We’ve been engaged for a year and a half and I feel like it wasn’t enough time to plan for everything.

Post # 38
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Miami

brittersnicole:  I agree with other posters, that the only right answer depends on what else is going on in your lift. Our engagement was one year (a year & ten days to be exact). We had dated a long time so no reason to have a long engagement, but still needed some time to plan. And we were in the process of moving when we got engaged so it was a few months before we even started planning. Plus we wanted to get married in the Spring (it’s too hot and rainy here in the summer – early fall) and since we got engaged in the Spring, it meant waiting for the next Spring.

On the other hand, my brother is in the middle of a two and a half year engagement. They’re getting married in December, after his fiance finishes her PhD. In their case, a long engagement made sense.

 

Post # 39
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Newbee

I’m not saying this is even close to the best option for everyone, but it worked for us – we were engaged at the end of May and married in mid September. So, less than four months. But we had a very low-key, immediate family only wedding. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I don’t think there’s a set time.  In my church (I’m Catholic) you have to wait at least 6 months.  We got engaged this past December and will marry November 12.  It’s just when it worked out with his work schedule and our reception venue availability.  When we got engaged we knew that we wanted to be married within one year.  

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We had a short engagement. Engaged in April of 2015, married in October of 2015 so about 6 months! I dont think there’s any “rules.” We knew we wanted a fall wedding and did not want to wait until fall 2016, so 6 months it was! 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

We were aiming for a 7 month engagement but our venue got booked up so now we’ll be at 13 months. It’s been a great year being engaged but looking forward to the day and being married now as I’ve found it hard to see past the 16th April and even had a comment slip at work about something being so far at the end of next month – looking forward to seeing what else there is in the future!

Post # 43
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Sugar bee

Do whatever works for you. A 15 month engagement is what works best for us, so that’s what we are doing.

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m 32 and he’s 25. We have a 10 month engagement — 9 down, 1 to go! Enough time to plan and save up some money for a simple wedding and fun honeymoon. 🙂

Post # 45
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Blushing bee

anywhere from 6 months to 1 1/2 years lol no clue 

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