how long after the wedding….

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Like you said, there is no right or wrong answer to this. We waited about two years, but many people want to try immediately while others wait five or more years. It depends on your ages, the things you want to accomplish before having children, etc. Some people have been in their relationship for many years and may even have purchased a home before marriage, so they may not feel the need to wait as long as a couple who just graduated from college and are establishing themselves.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’m excited to see some responses! Someone asked this on a Facebook group I’m in, and it sort of took me off guard once I actually thought about it. Fiance and I will be 40 (him) and 30 (me) when we get married later this year, and we want more than one kid. We’ll have been together for 4 years when we get married, so I don’t suppose there’s a whole lot of reason for wanting time “just the two of us”…we’ve had a lot of it! We haven’t set a timeline because I’ve told him “I want to run a marathon, then we’ll talk”, so I guess that means we’ll start talking about a timeline once we ring in 2020. 

I once read that you should only make one big change (job, engagement, marriage, major purchases, babies, etc) per 6 months. I’m sure it was some pseudo-scientific internet mumbo jumbo, but I’ve always sort of adhered to it as best I can, and given myself time to settle into new experiences/stages before trying to tackle a new one. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We got married on our 4 year anniversary. For us it will probably be 2.5-3 years after we got married before we start TTC. But we got married at 24 so that obviously affects our timeline. I will still be in grad school for 4-5 more years right now and we likely won’t buy a house until after I graduate. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We’ve been together 10.5 years total and married 2.5 years. We are going to start TTC next summer right before our 4th wedding anniversary.

We are 29/28, will both be 30 when we start trying. We want kids but are still enjoying our kid-free life and not in a rush!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

shadesofbay :  we started trying three months after our one year wedding anniversary. But we had been together for 10 years at that point. Expecting our bundle at the end of July on our 11 year dating anniversary a few months after our 2 year wedding anniversary. I’m 32, he’s 37.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Will try next April so in about a year!we will have been married then for 2 years. I’m enjoying every minute of married life and the two of us right now.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

We were together 2 years before getting married. Didnt live together before marriage. Waited a year after getting married to start trying. Started when I was 28, he was 34. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

We plan to start trying exactly one year after the wedding, at which point we’d have been together for 4 years and will be 27/28, although with both of our birthdays right around the corner so more like 28/29 really

Honestly we would probably be trying now if it werent for finances. We want a downpayment on a house plus an emergency fund saved up before we try for a baby

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We started trying for a baby before we were marred 😁 Ages 35 and 45 and together 2 years at that point. We both been relatively recently divorced and weren’t in a huge rush to get married again, but wanted to ttc for obvious reasons. We figured it’d take a little while. It didn’t, which was great, so we got married when I was 6 months pregnant. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We started five months after we got married- by that point though we’d been together 8.5 years. I fell pregnant that same month, I was 36 he was 44…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We waited until after 1 year of being married. I honestly thought it would take 6-12 months to get pregnant (which would have put us having a baby in year 3) but it didn’t. We have been together for 5 years, married for 1.5, and baby is due 1.5 months before our 2nd anniversary. 

I am 28 and he is 32. 

I would say enjoy at least 1 year of being married. Do as much as you can in that time. Being pregnant and (I’ve heard) the 1st year of baby is hard and can be hard on a marriage. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We started trying 3 months after the wedding and got pregnant straight away. We’d been together 8 years when we got married and had bought our house. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

shadesofbay :  we met when I was 30 and a half years old (I still like my half birthday, lol), got engaged just after I turned 32, and married two months after I turned 33. We got pregnant less than two months after our wedding and celebrated our first anniversary with our one month old baby 🙂 I do wish I had met Darling Husband earlier in life so we would’ve had more “us” time, but I also wouldn’t change a thing with regards to having a baby so quickly. We both want 3 to 4 kids, and were both really, really eager to start a family- and being that I was 33 when we got married, I didn’t have too much time to waste if we’re gonna go for four.

But it is crazy to think about how quickly your life can change…I was married and pregnant on the 3rd anniversary of our 1st date! Even crazier for me to think about…I left my very unhealthy first marriage exactly five years to the day before my baby was born. Her birthday is the exact same day I moved out. 

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