(Closed) how long after you get engaged did you set the date?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We took awhile to set the date (four months). We got engaged just before the holidays, and we didn’t want to start planning until after they were over. Our date wasn’t set in stone until we had our venue, which is why it took us four months. 🙂

We had people asking us about a date right away too, and it really annoyed me. I just wanted to enjoy being engaged for a moment before diving into the planning!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think we set our date within a few days of getting engaged. He proposed on Christmas and we’re getting married this FRIDAY!!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Congrats!!!

We set ours right away, even before we were engaged we had a date in mind 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

congrats on getting engaged!!

as far as the date..well, um, we do things backwards and set the date two weeks before we were officially engaged Laughing

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Firstly, CONGRATS!!

We got engaged on Oct 31st and set the date within about 3 weeks. The biggest thing was finding the venue THEN picking a date.

The date we wanted (July 24th) was already booked so we went with the 17th instead.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

we started looking at venues right away because we already knew we were getting engaged and had already talked about potential venues…i think we knew where/when we wanted to have it within a week, and then maybe it took another week to sign the contract…something like that!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Congrats!  We picked our date based on the venue (a lot of dates were already booked) and we knew we wanted a summer wedding.  We booked the venue/picked the date about 2 months after we got engaged.

As a side note, people were asking us within 24 hours if we picked a date yet.  I thought that was a bit odd, too

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club

I think your top priority vendor usually decides the date setting. We wanted a specific venue when we got engaged and the area we are getting married in usually has a 2 year wait list, so we booked it about a week after we got engaged, but we had already done research.

Dont feel rushed to get things doen just because your family is asking for a date. Do your research first so you don’t have any regrets later. Especially if you want to coordiante dates between a favorite venue and photographer or other vendor. 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We didn’t set the date until we were engaged for nearly nine months.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Congrats!

We got engaged in mid-December and still have no date.  We’ll probably have one set by mid-to-late July – after we get a chance to visit our favorite east coast venues.  So that’ll be seven months or so. But we aren’t picking a date until we book a venue and geographically we’re looking at Monterrey to Sacramento OR New York City to Portland, ME.  So, um… it’s taking awhile.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well, we got ‘sorta engaged’ last June but not officially engaged (full proposal with ring) until Thanksgiving. By the time we announced our engagement and I accepted FI’s proposal we had already set a date and had many preliminary details in place.

Don’t feel rushed! Everyone must do these things in a timeframe that works for them. My cousin, who got engaged the day after I did hasn’t announced a date yet, while our wedding is in less than two months.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We went back and forth between a few dates and many different venues.  Depending on the time of year you are looking into (high or low wedding season), your decision may be more influenced on the venue you are looking into. 

We had a firm date probably within 3 1/2 months after getting engaged.  Since you just got engaged, I don’t think anyone is realistically asking you for a date – you got engaged 2 days ago! I think it is more of a “knee jerk” question once someone hears the news.

Congrats btw!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

OOOOOO congratulations!!!!!  How exciting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Smile

Our date was sent about 2 weeks or so after our engagement, and was sort of set by process of elimination.  We had the season/year in our mind almost right away (Fall 2011, Fall because it’s ur favorite season and 2011 because 2010 is too soon), then picked a date because of the Jewish holidays.  Knowing October was the nicest time of the year for pretty Fall, and since there were lots of holidays that were in October, we ended up settling on Oct. 16, because it worked out well. 

I think there are different things to consider when setting a date, and there’s no need to rush by any means. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

kind of right away -but we chose a venue, not a date. The venue told us when they had openings. We didn’t do anything else right away though – just plunked down a deposit for the location. Don’t sweat it if you’re not in a hurry!

Congrats too!

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