(Closed) How long after you met did you know they were the one?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was 6 months over my then-longest relationship of a year, and still had hard feelings since I was cheated on/left for someone else.  When my husband and I met and he asked me out, I agreed, but also had not completely let go, it took about a month or so until I can say I was definitely SOLD and 100% into my husband, then boyfriend.  I knew he was it.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Probably about a week,but that’s a stretch. I’d really say the day we met. 🙂

Post # 34
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

a few months in i had dinner at his aunt’s house for family dinner night.  his cousin was there with her 3 children.  when i saw Fiance interact with the 3 girls, i knew he would make the most wonderful father.

 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Fiance says he knew I was the one when he came to my apartment the first time and just looked around. Heverything I had or collected, he LOVED. He told my brother after 3 months of dating that he was going to marry me.

i have to say I knew pretty quickly myself. We met and it just… Clicked. We fell into a routine that felt like we had known each other all our lives and it was wonderful. If he had asked me to marry him when he told my brother, I would have said yes in a heartbeat.

Post # 36
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Helper bee

About a year and a half after we had been living together, approx 3years dating and knew we were completely out of the honeymoon phase, were comfortable living together, handled problems together and were still happy.  I knew I loved him before then but I think it takes more than love to make a marriage last

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ash064:  THIS.  

 

The day we met we instantly clicked and I wanted to spend every day with him, but that does not make someone the one.  I had to live with him for a few months before I knew.  But then I really really knew.  

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Pretty sure it was like 2 months after we met and we had to get up at like 5:30am and he instantly made me laugh at something and i thought “i cant believe he has a sense of humour at 5:30am. Gosh i adore him”

and that was that “ah-ha” moment when i knew. 

Post # 39
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

He knew after about 6 mos, it took me years to figure out.  It was a slow & steady process for me.  We were just together & I was fine with that.  He wanted to be married.  Eventually, I caught up.  

We’ve been best friends & partners for nearly 10 years.  That’s 10 years of no drama.  Works for us.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I met Darling Husband after I left my ex-husband so I was reluctant to go down that path again but after a month of us dating he told me he loved me first. That’s when I started taking more interest in him. I didn’t, however, want him to be my husband until after 2 years of us being together.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We met at our freshman orientation; he tried to kiss me, but I still had a boyfriend from high school. When we moved onto campus, he ended up living next door to me. We were just friends for a few months before we started dating. But I would say it probably took about a year and a half to realize he was “the one.” He went abroad to South Africa and then I went abroad to Paris – the distance and the lack of communication (the internet in SA sucks) really showed me how much I loved and was committed to him.

Post # 42
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My husband and I met playing WoW, so we were friends for several months before I even found out he was interested in me (we lived 3000 miles apart).  After spending a week together, I knew he was the person I would spend the rest of my life with, married or not.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@renwoman:  I met Fiance online, so we’d been talking and emailing a few weeks prior to meeting face to face.  Fiance says he knew I was the one when he saw me come in the door.

For me, it was slower.  I have a pretty crappy dating history filled with cheaters and emotional abuse.  I knew I liked Fiance, but I proceeded with caution.  In the beginning I was either not head over heels for him, or not letting myself be head over heels for him.  I liked him a lot, we got along, and I felt safe with him and trusted him for no apparent reason–I knew he was a keeper.  But still I wasn’t quite letting myself jump in with both feet.

I think I knew about 2 or 3 months in, I think.  I’d been away, traveling with girlfriends, and when I got back I spent the weekend with him.  By the end of the weekend we’d planned a vacation for ourselves SIX MONTHS down the line.  No travel insurance, no questions asked.  We just booked it, and I let it happen.  I think the fact that I was able to put my trust in him and in us, and just let go and be spontaneous, proved to me that he really was the one.  A year later, we were engaged 🙂

Post # 44
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Helper bee

I knew about a month in that he was the one.  Recently we have had a lot of bad things happen and now he and I both know this is a forever through good, bad, ugly, rich or poorer.  If we could handle what we have in the past few months with a smile on our faces than we can survive the rest easily.  

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I had just been through a bad breakup literally two weeks before, so when I met FH I just wanted to be friends first. Somehow after a few times of hanging out I found myself wondering what kissing him would be like and I’m like woah..where did THAT come from ?? Lol well he must of read my mind because me kissed me that night :). I told him I loved him after two weeks.weeks of “hanging out” and after our second real date when we made it official. By the end of the month he joined my family going to my neighbors wedding reception and when we got home he said what would you say if I asked you to marry me someday? I said I’d say yes, and I meant it. 🙂

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We both knew for sure a little over a year in. It was something that grew gradually. By a year and 4 months, we were looking at rings.

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