(Closed) How Long are You Going to Wait

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long before you try to start a family?
    We aren't going to wait at all - get it started right away! : (9 votes)
    12 %
    We are going to wait a year and then stop all BC and see what happens : (11 votes)
    14 %
    We are going to wait longer then a year because....(reasons below) : (48 votes)
    63 %
    Other?? : (8 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    4381 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    We’re waiting for about three or four years, just so he can finish his Ph.D. and I can finish my M.F.A. 🙂

    Post # 4
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    14185 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We’re on the 1 year plan. Kind of. I mean, i’ll be weaning the BC out of my system in the spring, and then we’ll actively try.

    I wanted to wait longer, but i have endo and I need to use it or lose it! So we’re going to get a jump on things even though i’m not happy about being 24 and actively trying. I wanted to be like, 27, more established, etc.

    Post # 5
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    1019 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    We have agreed on 5 years. We are both young and want to build a strong marriage before having a family. We also want a chance to do some things we couldn’t do with kiddos in tow!

    Post # 6
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    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My fiance is 25, and I’m 23.  He wants kids by the time he’s 30, so we’ll start trying in 3-4 years.  I know we’re going to have fertility issues (it’s on my side), so hopefully it won’t take us too long to get pregnant.  I want to wait until I’m 28 or so, but then I’m paranoid we’ll have a hard time getting pregnant.  @ejs4y8-I’ve got endo too!  I’m the same way…hehehe…I’m going to start saying “use it or lose it.”  I definitely want to be more established too…maybe we’ll try in 3 years instead of 5, just to be safe.

    Post # 7
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    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We want time to ourselves first so we will wait a few years… just enjoy eachother. We would like to get some traveling in too….. dependent on $$

    Post # 8
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    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I’m a PhD student, so we want to want until I’m finished before we have kids.

    Post # 9
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    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We’re going to wait 2-3 years for various reasons:

    -our lease is up in Oct. 2010.  We have rent stabilization, so we have a year after that until the rent goes to market rate.  We’re going to stay in our apartment one more year to save $$$.  Also, real estate in NYC is ridiculous and it will likely take us forever to find a 2-bedroom.

    -We want to take a long trip to Asia before we have children.  We would either do this summer 2011 or 2012.

    -my sister is close to getting engaged and will probably get married in 2011 or 2012.  She’s my only sister and I would prefer not to be pregnant or have a child in tow for her wedding.

    -My career needs to be on a MUCH better level than it is now.

    -We both need to finish school, and I’m going to explore getting my PhD.

    Post # 10
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We are going to wait longer than a year because I’m 21 years old. ‘Nuff said. College, building a career, obtaining my Masters, traveling, and emotional/spiritual maturity come before the babies. The marriage goes without mentioning, naturally.

    My goal for starting a family is to have at least one book published before I become pregnant. If I don’t do that, I know I’ll be disappointed in myself. So either I’ll have to get cracking on the writing to have children before I’m 26, or the family will have to wait.

    Post # 11
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    14185 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @Stacy Marie, we’ll def need to get together and chat in Nov. I’ve got lots of resources up my sleeve.

    Frankly, doc told me to use it or lose it at age 20. I’m now uh, 23. We’re pushing it!!!

    Honestly, i feel much easier saying i gotta “use it or lose it” than trying to explian why i want kids at age 24. Which i don’t, it’s just how life plans out. I’ll be finishing TWO masters degrees with, if we’re lucky, one on our lap and one in my belly. Challenging. Sleep is for wussies =]

    I’m just grateful we’ve had 5 wonderful years together already, so i’m warming up to it.

    Post # 12
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    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We are going to wait a few years. I’m 26 and my husband is 30 so it won’t be too long. I would like to be a little more “established” and have a bigger condo. I would also like to travel some more before the kids come along.

    Post # 13
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    we’ve agreed on about 5 years. i want to get started before i’m 30 and i’m almost 25 now, will be 26 when we get married. so it’ll be probably 2 years after marriage. the reason is mostly that we’re still young and we have things to do (like travel!) before we want to have someone else depending on us!

    Post # 14
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    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @StacyMarie & ejs: my girlfriend has endo and her doctor told her she would never be able to have kids. Well she just had her first this summer and she is 26! We wer so happy her doc was wrong! 🙂

    Post # 15
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    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We are going to wait about a year, but my rule is we need a bigger house  before we have kids! (It’s seriously tiny… like less than 900 sq feet!)

    Post # 16
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    695 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We going to wait 3 years or so- we want to enjoy a few years with just the two of us.  Also we’re actors, so once we have kids it will be exponentially harder to get to last minute auditions and stuff like that.  But we can’t wait much longer than 3 years because I’m 30!

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