(Closed) How Long are You Going to Wait

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long before you try to start a family?

    We aren't going to wait at all - get it started right away!

    We are going to wait a year and then stop all BC and see what happens

    We are going to wait longer then a year because....(reasons below)

    Other??

  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Atleast 5 years before we have kids…. he wants them right away, but he’s also 12 years older than me. Since I’m the one thats going to do the feedings & the majority of the raising– I want to wait until I’m closer to 30 🙂

    It’s a big enough change to become a wife!! I also think its important for couples to have a rock solid bond as husband & wife before they become parents. Once you’re a parent you can never go back & your relationship is changed forever!

    Post # 33
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    1013 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I always thought that I wouldn’t start a family until I had been married for at least a few years.  BUT, I also always wanted kids around the age of 30.  Well… we’re getting married next summer, right after I turn 29, and career-wise, this might be a good time for us to start a family.  So… we’ve been talking about trying to have kids soon after we get married. 

    Post # 34
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    It’s funny because all of our friends have children but neither of us have any desire to have kids anytime soon. I’m 25 and he is 28, but I think he wants to start trying around 30. He doesn’t want to be “too old” lol. We really just want to feel more established and prepared by first having a wedding and we definitely need a house because this one bedroom apartment just isn’t going to cut it. Also, we had talked about doing some traveling.     

    Post # 35
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    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We’re waiting for a while…I’m just 21 and he’s 23, and I still have to finish up law school and stuff, and then I want some focus-on-the-career time before I start the whole mothering thing. Plus…I think we’re really going to enjoy just being young and together. So probably at least 6 or 7 years for us. 🙂

    Post # 36
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    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I have three kids and, for medical reasons, can’t have anymore. As fate would have it my guy never wanted to have children of his own (hereditary condition concern) so it was a blessing to his mother that he fell in love with not just me but my children as well!

    Post # 37
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    575 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @Vintage – I hear you!  I’m 32 and will be 32 when we get married in April – he’ll be 35.  I didn’t plan on getting married this late either but wouldn’t change a thing now – he was worth the wait.  We’ve been together just over 3 years and we’ll live together about 3 months before the wedding so we’re planning on starting to try by the end of 2010.  Fingers and toes crossed – hopefully there won’t be any problems but you never know til you try! 

    Post # 38
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    1741 posts
    Bumble bee

    I always thought 30 would be a good time to have children. I’ll have just turned 27 when we get married next year and have about 2 years left in my PhD. 30 would give me one year to work before we start trying so it’s not really how I had planned to be established in a career before having children but I also don’t want to be considerably older so we’ll prob. wait about 3-4 years after being married. He’s 3 years older than me so he’s also in favor of starting when I’m 30 and not later.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Thanks for the info, ladies. I know lots of peopel who were told “you can’t have kids” and then they do. Endo’s kinda sneaky like that, but we figured we better get a jump on it now and not waste my fertile years! Even if it takes us 5 years to have one, that puts me at 28 =]

    @Jaxx, I have a friend who wants to adopt =]

    Post # 40
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    1546 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    hopefully we’ll wait 3-5 years from our wedding. We’ll only be 21/22 when we get married, & it’ll be nice for it to be just me & him for a while before we have the kids the rest of our lives!

    Post # 41
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    72 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We are going to wait so we can save the money and buy a house, plus I don’t think either of us are ready for children, we both like to travel in the spur of the moment.

    Post # 42
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    28 posts
    Newbee

    We are going to try to wait 4 years, i will be on b.c but if its in Gods plan for us to get preggo who are we to argue? we are waiting that long because thats how long until my fiance is out of the military. it was a joint decision because neither of us wants to run the risk of him missing any piece of his childs life.

    Post # 43
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would love to start a family now but given how much weddings cost, we will be waiting atleast 1 year if not longer to build our savings back up. So as much as I have baby fever, we’ll wait till it’s the right time.

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