Post # 1
Just a question, how long had you been with your SO before you talked about a timeline? I am thinking of asking for one in a few months when we will have been together for a year and a half. I’m 27 and he’s 30.
Post # 3
Timeline as far as getting married? We didn’t have one, but he knew if he didn’t propose right around a year, I would probably move on.
Post # 4
I was with my Now Fiance for 5 years, and I had it dead set that I would give him till our 6th ann and after the holidays since it was 12.23 to pop a question or I was gone… He did it in October
Post # 5
We started discussing it at 6 months. We were engaged at 13 months.
Post # 6
@ffemt: did he know you had that timeline?
Post # 7
Pretty sure we discussed a timeline as soon as we started dating lol.
That being said, our timeline wasn’t serious until about 9 months in.
Post # 8
We started discussing a timeline around our one year mark, and our timeline ends with a proposal around the two and a half year mark (give or take a few months).
Post # 9
@fingerscrossed: we talked about a timeline, but it wasn’t kept. have you discussed marriage? – not really if he ever wants to get married some day – but if he’s dating you with the intent to marry?
Post # 10
Just under a year. I knew I was going to be moving cross country possibly within the next 6 months (dependant on my job and our relationship status) and I needed to know if he was going to marry me/get engaged BEFORE that time came. So we talked about it around then. Got engaged just shy of a year and half of dating.
Post # 11
Have you talked about marriage at all? If so, given your ages, I think a more definite timeline is reasonable.
We started seriously discussing marriage at the 3-4 year mark, but we met when we were 22 and in law school. I don’t think we ever had a timeline per se.
We knew we wanted to get married (not sure who brought it up first), and around the 5 year mark I told him I wanted to get married soon. He said he hadn’t “proposed” because we didn’t have the $20K plus to have a wedding. I told him that wasn’t an acceptable reason to me and I would never personally spend that much. We went ring shopping here and there and were engaged a few months after we had the very serious talks. His parents ended up paying for the wedding.
Post # 12
Considering we were pretty young when we started dating (him 19 and me 20), I didn’t even think about timelines until after he graduated at 22. Now 5 1/2 years into dating we have a pretty decent timeline set. So there are a lot of factors when asking about timelines. Everyones situation is so different.
Post # 13
@oracle: i know he wants marriage and kids in his future and he knows i want those same things in mine. I started to talk about the future with him around our 1 year anniversary but he is having a lot of trouble talking about it. I’ve told him to think about it and now I’m trying to give him space to process it. It’s complicated because he was single for a long time before he met me and I think this is the first time he’s thinking about the future with anyone. He has said that we “have a future” but that’s as specific as it gets
Post # 14
I’m in my 30s, we were talking timeline by 5 months in. We were also very sure we wanted to get married very early on. It has been an open and easy process, he likes to talk about it.
When I was younger, I wouldn’t have expected it that quickly. He brought it up, I was willing to wait till we’d been together a year before I was going to bring it up though!
Post # 15
He proposed 2.5 years in, we were 29 and 32 and had discussed marriage. I probably would’ve toughed it out for another year but if we weren’t engaged by then I’d probably get off the pot.
Post # 16
We were childhood friends that when we came back together had an unbelievable connection so on date #1 he told me he was going to marry me and I just laughed and blew it off. Then after 6 months we started lightly talking about marriage this next year, then at 8 months (8 weekend) he told me he wants kids before 30 and I reminded him that he was 27 and his brother was over and I heard him tell him that we are going to get married this next year! So now I am just waiting and waiting… 🙂
1.5 years or soner is a good time to start planting the seed.