(Closed) How long before a timeline?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How Long Had You Been Together Before a Timeline Was Discussed
    1-6 Months : (9 votes)
    13 %
    6-12 Months : (10 votes)
    15 %
    12-18 Months : (9 votes)
    13 %
    18-24 Months : (2 votes)
    3 %
    2-3 years : (5 votes)
    7 %
    3-4 years : (7 votes)
    10 %
    4-5 years : (5 votes)
    7 %
    5-6 years : (7 votes)
    10 %
    6-7 years : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Timeline as far as getting married?  We didn’t have one, but he knew if he didn’t propose right around a year, I would probably move on.

    Post # 4
    Member
    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I was with my Now Fiance for 5 years, and I had it dead set that I would give him till our 6th ann and after the holidays since it was 12.23 to pop a question or I was gone… He did it in October

    Post # 5
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We started discussing it at 6 months. We were engaged at 13 months.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Pretty sure we discussed a timeline as soon as we started dating lol.

     

    That being said, our timeline wasn’t serious until about 9 months in.

    Post # 8
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    1402 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We started discussing a timeline around our one year mark, and our timeline ends with a proposal around the two and a half year mark (give or take a few months).

    Post # 9
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    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @fingerscrossed:  we talked about a timeline, but it wasn’t kept.  have you discussed marriage?  – not really  if he ever wants to get married some day – but if he’s dating you with the intent to marry?

    Post # 10
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    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Just under a year. I knew I was going to be moving cross country possibly within the next 6 months (dependant on my job and our relationship status) and I needed to know if he was going to marry me/get engaged BEFORE that time came. So we talked about it around then. Got engaged just shy of a year and half of dating. 

    Post # 11
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    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Have you talked about marriage at all?  If so, given your ages, I think a more definite timeline is reasonable.

    We started seriously discussing marriage at the 3-4 year mark, but we met when we were 22 and in law school.  I don’t think we ever had a timeline per se.  

    We knew we wanted to get married (not sure who brought it up first), and around the 5 year mark I told him I wanted to get married soon.  He said he hadn’t “proposed” because we didn’t have the $20K plus to have a wedding.  I told him that wasn’t an acceptable reason to me and I would never personally spend that much.  We went ring shopping here and there and were engaged a few months after we had the very serious talks.  His parents ended up paying for the wedding.

    Post # 12
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Considering we were pretty young when we started dating (him 19 and me 20), I didn’t even think about timelines until after he graduated at 22. Now 5 1/2 years into dating we have a pretty decent timeline set. So there are a lot of factors when asking about timelines. Everyones situation is so different.

    Post # 14
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    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m in my 30s, we were talking timeline by 5 months in. We were also very sure we wanted to get married very early on. It has been an open and easy process, he likes to talk about it.

    When I was younger, I wouldn’t have expected it that quickly. He brought it up, I was willing to wait till we’d been together a year before I was going to bring it up though!

    Post # 15
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    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 1993

    He proposed 2.5 years in, we were 29 and 32 and had discussed marriage.  I probably would’ve toughed it out for another year but if we weren’t engaged by then I’d probably get off the pot.

    Post # 16
    Member
    340 posts
    Helper bee

    We were childhood friends that when we came back together had an unbelievable connection so on date #1 he told me he was going to marry me and I just laughed and blew it off. Then after 6 months we started lightly talking about marriage this next year, then at 8 months (8 weekend) he told me he wants kids before 30 and I reminded him that he was 27 and his brother was over and I heard him tell him that we are going to get married this next year! So now I am just waiting and waiting… 🙂

    1.5 years or soner is a good time to start planting the seed.

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