Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
After a loss, how long before we get a new cat?
I just read this article and it spoke to me. We lost our senior girl on Thursday and I am just so filled with this ache to hold and love another animal that I’m wondering if the only thing that will help me grieve our girl is to give a happy home to another animal. I feel so guilty even thinking about it though. What did you do after the loss of a pet?
Post # 3
Hmm I think it would take me a while before I could have another pet, but if you feel like this will help you heal then go for it. Maybe go walk around the animal shelter and see and see if one speaks to you 🙂
Post # 4
As soon as you’re ready. Some people cant get another pet for a while afterwards, while some people find it comforting to get another pet soon after. I have three dogs, so its not really the same, but if I only had one pet and they died, I dont think I could handle being “alone” afterwards. I’d need another pet to care for to fill the void.
A very good friend of mine lost her dog of 12 years, she often referred to her as her soul mate. When she passed (of cancer) she was so distraught. Even though she knew it was coming for a while, it still was a big blow to her heart. She adopted a puppy only about a month later (it might not have even been that long) and she now refers to the puppy as her gaurdian angel.
Post # 5
I’m sorry for you loss:( I hope my puppy lives a long life like yours did. When I’ve lost a close pet in the past I needed some time before getting a new one. I wanna say maybe 3-6 months I can’t remember for sure. I needed time to be heartbroken, it didn’t feel right to me to get a new one so soon because in the moment I never felt like I couldn’t love anything like that again or maybe that it felt like I was just replacing my pet. But I know others move on better this way. There is no right or wrong answer. I suggest looking on petfinder.com or a walk through a local shelter and see how you feel. If you find your heart wanting another animal go for it!
Post # 6
I’m sorry for your loss, it’s never easy to lose a beloved pet.
I think you should walk around a shelter and see if any pets just “feel” right to you, just because you are adopting a new pet and giving it a wonderful life doesn’t mean you loved your other pet any less. You’ll know when it’s right.
Post # 7
We always went and adopted a new dog a few days after our old one died. I think i’ll continue that tradition!
Post # 8
When I suddenly lost my dog a few years ago, my vet suggested getting another one soon to help with the hurt. She said that getting a new pet wouldn’t take away the saddness of losing this one, but it will help distract you and get excited about loving a new pet, and she was absolutely right. I waited a couple of weeks, and then adopted my sweet furbaby girl!
Post # 9
@sherryberry: I would have to have another pet pretty soon if it were me. I know that losing my dog would be devastating and the best therapy for me would be adopting a new puppy.
Post # 10
@sherryberry: I think the longer you wait the longer you will grieve. Animals tuck themselves in our hearts and becoem our family… it is hard to deal with a loss for sure and I can’t imagine the pain I’ll go through when our Labradoodle leaves us one day 🙁
However in that in mind we know that they just don’t live as long as we do and this is bound to happen… accepting it and giving a home to another animal that will also love you just as much will mend your heart quicker.
Post # 11
Also.. when you have a pet you also have a routine. In the time that you no longer have “the routine” you tend to think more and grieve more. Bringing the routine back (adopting another pet) will help in distracting you.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry to hear! I have been watching my little 13 year old girl go down hill slowly and it breaks my heart to hear you just lost yours. As other folks have said, it’s different for each person. I would recommend maybe going somewhere where you can be with other dogs – the pound may be a little too sad right now, but maybe an adoption event or something along those lines and spend a little time with some other dogs to see how you’re effected. You may find one you love, or you may realize that it’s a little too soon. But at least there would be no obligation at that point and you’d get to spend a little time with some dogs.
Once again, I am just so sorry to hear. There is nothing more heartbreaking than losing these little ones we love so much. I pray that you heal quickly, but can always look back on your wondeful memories with her.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’m so sorry for your loss.
We lost our ferret two years ago, and we were heartbroken. We didn’t really know how to move forward.
We were in a pet store 2 or 3 weeks later because our dog needed treats, and we saw the ferrets. Both of us pretty much burst into tears. We held them, though. Then we left and went about the day. We couldn’t really let go of the idea of giving one of them a loving a home. Later that night, we went back and one little fella chose us. He kissed my nose and fell asleep while my husband was holding him. We brought him home.
Now, I’ll be honest, we gave him the best home and all the love he could handle, but for the first months, I had a really hard time. I missed my Tummy and couldn’t process how to really love Tiberius.
A few months later, we added another little girl ferret who was posted on Craigslist just days after she was purchased. Bringing her into our home brought us balance, I think.
I love our two fuzzies so, so much. They are amazing. But, it took me time, even after they were in our home, to accept my loss and love them separately, if that makes sense.
I think my point is that you don’t if you’re ready until you try. And even then, it may still take time.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
Ferrets are such amazing pets 🙂
I spent my lunch break at the SPCA getting some cat love. I fell in love with a very sweet-tempered three-legged maine coon. I would have adopted him right there, but my fiance really wants a kitten. I can’t blame him… it would be nice to have a playful baby in the house. I sure hope tripod finds a great home though!
Post # 15
I couldn’t have another dog for about 6 years after I lost my first. I was 17 when my childhood baby died & it was the single hardest thing I’ve ever gone through and it took me a VERY long time to think I was ready for another pet…granted I moved away shortly after & was going through college so I wasn’t in a place where a pet would have been possible but I thought I would compare my next dog to my first dog. My SO & I adopted a pup back in august & she is my heart. The fact that I love her so much & don’t feel like I love my old dog any less shows me that a mother’s heart really does grow with each child. I kind of hope we’re never without a pet again, when this one passes (hopefully a VERY long time from now), it’s going to break my heart. I can’t imagine going through the pain again but I also can’t imagine not having my baby.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I liked what a PP said that the longer you wait, the longer you grieve…I never thought of it that way. Even with a new pup, I will still cry thinking about my old one (fight back tears just talking about her) but I don’t feel as empty. If you think you want a new one, look around & see if anyone just jumps out at you.
Post # 16
Get a new pet as soon as you feel ready for it. My dog died this past summer, and I’ve been without a pet since, I seriously miss having a pet. I’m not quite ready for another puppy, so i’m going for a kitten instead.