Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’m in the very early stages of wedding planning – we haven’t even picked a date yet, but will likely be getting married in late summer or fall 2016. I’m not in bad shape or anything at the moment, but I’m looking to lose maybe 10-15 lbs and tone up before my wedding. I work out a few times a week and eat reasonably healthy, but I could definitely stand to do better. I’m wondering how long before the wedding to start kicking things into high gear – e.g., hiring a trainer, eating super healthy, etc. I don’t naturally love eating healthy or working out, and I’ll have to push myself to do it. For that reason, I don’t want to start too long before the wedding because I know I will burn out. I’m thinking six months before the wedding could be a good time to start, but I don’t know if that’s long enough to see results. Can anyone who has gone through the wedding shape-up process (or is going through it now) help me out? Thanks!!
Post # 2
MrsBug: i think it’s great that you seem to have a plan already of what you want to do. i will say this though: if you’re only looking to tone up for the wedding day, start 6 months out from the time you’ll have alterations done. you need to be in your “day of” shape/body when they start altering your dress.
if you’re wanting long term results though, i’d start now. make it a habit, a lifestyle. my concern would be that if you do it only for the wedding (meaning, not using the wedding as one of your motivations, but instead using it as the ONLY reason and stopping when you’re there), then the day of the wedding forward you’re going to stop and gain the weight back that you lost, maybe more because you will feel that you’ve been depriving yourself. just something to think about.
the main thing is to keep reminding yourself why you’re doing it (whenever you start, and for however long): because you want to look even more amazing on your wedding day. you can do it! 🙂
Post # 3
it sounds like your lifestyle is already pretty healthy, so i would wait until 6 months prior because of burnout. i started getting serious about 12 months before my wedding and definitely lost some steam around the 6 month mark (but didn’t really gain much back)and then got serious again at 3 months when i felt frantic lol.
Post # 4
MrsBug: Why don’t you just start slowly making changes now? Eating healthy and working out/being active are critical for your overall health. You don’t have to start doing crossfit or go paleo, just start now making small minor changes- then you won’t burn out.
For example, if you are going to start working out more, wait a while before you start messing with your diet. Or keep your current activity level the same and just stop one bad diet habit ( like if you eat out all the time, try to cut back)
You don’t need to do a major lifestyle overhaul, but waiting 6 months before the wedding to just work out like crazy is how people yo yo diet. They burn out and gain everything back. Your just setting youself up to fail
Post # 5
MrsHalpert: That’s a really good point re. the alterations – I hadn’t even thought of that. My outfits will be custom (it’s an Indian wedding, so I won’t be buying a dress and having it altered), so I probably couldn’t have them let out much, if at all, and even taking them in might be a pain. Re long term results, it would be awesome if I could somehow make it a permanent lifestyle change, but I’m also fine with going back to the shape I’m in now. Maybe I need to stop thinking about it as torture! 🙂
sleepyhead22: Interesting…were you able to gain back any ground you had lost when you started back up again at the 3-month mark?
Post # 6
Boxerlover24: That’s what I’m thinking of doing. My problem is more the healthy eating than actually going to the gym – I usually go 4-5 times a week but I do eat out a lot (and love dessert and cheese!). I’m thinking of slowly trying to limit that stuff to weekends only and eventually (temporarily) cut it out for a few months before the wedding. I won’t be upset if I gain some of it back after the wedding, but really don’t want to crash and burn beforehand.
Post # 7
MrsBug: Wow I could have written this exact post, except you probably have a ring on your finger haha. I just have the stone and the wedding date, July 29, 2016.
I think PP are right in that little changes will add up to a better life, it’s tough though especially because it still feels far away. I think I’m going to try to start walking at lunch a couple times a week and taking the stairs at work at least once a day.. So little things 😉 Good luck!
Post # 8
MrsBug: The eating is the part that matters most- when trying to lose weight the rule is 80/20- 80% of your weight loss is from how you eat, abs are made in the kitchen :-0
I think even if you just cut out the eating out youll start to see a difference-I swear restaurants just soak things in butter haha ! I LOVE Cheese too and I eat ice cream nearly every day…you can still eat the things you love its all moderation 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
Like PP said, it is really like 90% what you eat. Since you already work out, you’re probably alright there. As far as how soon to start…that’s up to you, but at least 8 weeks before you plan to have final fittings. That way you can really push it with the eating well, and maybe ramp up the workouts to every day, change them up, make them harder, hire a trainer etc.
Post # 10
MrsBug: yeah, the last three months were plenty for me to get back to where i had been when i lost motivation at 6 months! especially since i had still been working out, just not eating as well during the few months off. so i maybe gained 5lbs of water weight that i lost within the first couple weeks of eating healthier. plus i was so stressed and really thinking about alterations, etc and i could think “i can wait a couple months to eat that cheesecake, ice cream, etc” so it was really easy to be focused at that point. 🙂
Post # 11
We’re getting married Feb 2016. I plan on starting after the holidays are over. I did really well last year with my eating and fitness, but I had a really rough year this year and it’s gotten the best of me.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
If you already work out and eat healthy, then I highly recommend doing a program like P90X. I started it about a year before we got married and had amazing results!
Post # 13
MrsBug: IMO, there is no better time than the present. Working out and looking good/feeling good for yourself as well as your husband is always a good thing! 🙂 A wedding is great motivation, but I find that keeping something (i.e., 5k) to shoot for is great motivation for after the wedding. Afterall, we want to look our best no matter what time of year it is! 🙂
Post # 14
It’s never too early to start. Taking care of your body shouldn’t be something you start 6 months prior to a wedding to look good in your dress, only to stop once it’s over.
Post # 15
I started over a year before my wedding, not going all out, but making long term changes. Took a long time for some to stick. Now I’m 3 months out and really ramping it up. Some of the changes I made a year ago have really stuck and I love it, so it’s not a challenge to go “all out” now as it would’ve been a year ago. I feel awesome and will continue after the wedding. I suggest making one change a week, finding different healthy recipes you like, some of them you’ll make again, some of them you won’t. Most of the changes I made were diet, but then also finding a workout routine that worked for me, now I’m ready and know I won’t burn out!