Post # 1
Hi everyone! Originally I wasn’t planning on sending save-the-dates, but seeing that my wedding falls on the Friday before Memorial Day, I’d like to give my guests a more advanced noticed than the traditional invitation. I was thinking of sending them out in early-mid December, perhaps combine it with some kind of Holiday greeting/note. But, do you guys feel a five-month notice is good enough? I just know I’m the type that tends to plan way ahead when it comes to holiday vacations or long weekends, so I want to make sure my guests don’t plan any vacation time around then!
Post # 2
6-8 months is standard for Save the Dates, with 8 months being better for dates near holidays or if a lot of the guests would need to travel. I got married the weekend after Memorial Day and sent my Save the Dates at the end of September/beginning of October.
If most of your guests already know about the date via word of mouth, I wouldn’t worry too much about it though.
Post # 3
I’m also getting married Memorial Day weekend, and we are sending out our save the dates in about 2 weeks. We were actually going to send them out even earlier, but I switched jobs in July and had some unexpected health issues to deal with for a couple months, so it took a little longer for us to get all the addresses together and get our shit together, lol.
If you’re going to do save the dates, I think you should send them out no later than early December.
Also, as bostonbee2018
said, you probably don’t need to worry about it as much if a lot of people know about the date through word of mouth. In my situation, we’ve been very guarded about who we tell our date to for security reasons, and we also have a some family and friends coming from out of town, so it’s more imperative for us that we get the information out early to make sure people don’t make other plans for that weekend.
Post # 4
Send them earlier. Memorial Day is a big vacation time for people, you want to give your guest a heads up. Also, if your wedding is in an area big for vacations know that hotels may be full for your wedding. Your guest will need the added time to plan.
Post # 5
I don’t know how big memorial day is for you guys or even when it is lol (not American) but if it’s a popular weekend for people going out of town I would give about 6-8 months heads up, especially if people have to travel.
Post # 6
I would send them 10 months early so guests know before they make other plans. People start booking vacations for holiday weekends well in advance since hotels sell out so fast.
Post # 7
I was married MDW and sent them out late august/early Sept. It’s an expensive weekend to travel and book hotels so we wanted to give Out of Town guests an advanced headsup.
Invitiations went out first week of March.
Post # 8
I’d do 8 months or so, since it’s a big holiday weekend AND you’re getting married on a Friday.
Post # 9
The Friday before a holiday weekend is even more challenging for guests than a regular Friday or a Saturday/Sunday during a holiday weekend so I’d send them out NOW.
Post # 10
I think five months is fine, though I’m an advocate of the sooner the better. I’ve never known anyone to celebrate Memorial Day (and that would be odd anyway).
Post # 11
Mine were sent out at the end of November due to some out of town guests.
Post # 12
As soon as you have them, send them! Memorial Day is quickly earmarked for all sorts of plans, so if you expect any guests, especially travelers, to be there.. send them nooooooow.
Post # 13
I think the sooner the better.
Also, if you have any guests that are teachers, you will want to be as early as possible. Where I taught, it was in our contract that we were not allowed to take off the Friday before a long weekend or school break. So you might want to give those people some extra time to beg and plead with their district lol… other jobs may be like that as well, I am not sure.
So my suggestion, if it is a 2019 wedding, is right now.
Post # 14
I’d sent them out between 10-12 months in advanced given the proximity to a holiday. People frequently have standing plans for Memorial Day weekend (ie, annual family reunions) and it can also be hard to take vacation time off from work near holidays like Memorial Day because so many people are trying to take vacation time. (People take advantage of having a 3 day weekend and take a few extra days off either before/after the holiday and take a nice little break.)
If you only send STDs out 4 months in advance, people may have either already made plans/bought plane tickets to do something else OR might not be able to get their vacation request approved from their job.
I also have friends in some fields/industries who have to submit their vacation/time off requests for the near by late Dec/early Jan so it can be very challenging for some people to take a few days off.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone! Now I’m feeling a bit stressed, but it’s good! Luckily, most of our out-of-towners have already been notified about the date. We’re still finalizing the official guest list, but I’ve already got some ideas flowing for the save-the-dates. Hopefully by the end of September!