Post # 1
Hi bees! I just got engaged last Friday (yay!), and our friends, family, coworkers are ~already~ asking if we have a date yet. I haven’t given it any serious thought whatsoever. I want to enjoy being engaged for awhile, and that’s what I told people.
So how long were you/do you plan on being engaged before you actually got/get married? How did you decide how long you would be engaged?
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2020 - Hampton, VA
We are having a pretty long engagement compared to most people I know. We got engaged Oct 27 2018 and are getting married August 8 2020. It’s 460 days away. hahaha not that anyone’s counting.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
bakerbee09 : I highly recommend you read “A Practical Wedding.” This very issue is addressed in the first chapter or so 🙂
Our engagement is 6 1/2 months because we are in our 30s/40s and it’s just time. My first marriage at 22 the engagement was over a year and a half.
Post # 4
We got engaged in late January and are getting married in early August, so a hair over 6 months. Frankly, even this seems far too long! That being said, we are opting for a small wedding, so we weren’t in a position where we needed a 1.5-2 year engagement to save.
Post # 5
We got engaged April 2018, Married August 2019. The only reason for the long engagement is we wanted to give FI’s family as much time as possible to plan, as they have to travel 3000+kms. Our Save the Dates went out in May 2018, lol. Actual invites went out a few weeks ago.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
We got engaged on St. Patrick’s day! We’re having a very long engagement. Our wedding will be in March of 2021 or 2022. We’re having a dream Hawaiian elopement and honeymoon. I need to save up some $$ and PTO to do it up right. We’re older and not having kids, so not in any real hurry. Plus I want my daughter to be 18+ as she agreed to help take care of my youngest while we’re gone. I’m so excited!
Post # 7
13 months. It felt a little long but it did give us enough time to get all the vendors we wanted.
Post # 8
About two weeks ( I know! )
Post # 9
We were engaged for 15 months. We did a lot in the first couple months after the engagement, and then nothing again until about 3 months out.
Post # 10
We were engaged in August 2017 and got married March 2019. We knew we wanted a destination wedding in the Caribbean, so we wanted to travel there in the spring. Spring 2018 felt like too little time to plan anything, so we decided to get married on our dating anniversary in 2019 🙂
Post # 11
We were engaged for about 15 months. We booked the venue/set the date 3 months after getting engaged, so one year out.
Post # 12
We were engaged June 2018, set our date in August 2018 for December 3 2018. So our engagment was about 6 months are planning was about 4 months! We always knew that as soon as we got engaged we’d be getting married soon after, as to us, that’s what an egagement is.. time to plan your wedding, not necessarily a “stage in the relationship” I know everyone is different though, and know plently of people who have had 1+ year engagements.
Post # 13
We just wanted to be married, we didn’t want the big traditional wedding, so we were engaged for 7 months prior to getting married. Had we gone the traditional route, I’m sure it would have been over a year. Honestly, it would have been significantly less had we been living in our hometown where all our friends and family were!
Post # 14
13 months here too. He proposed in July and we got married the next August. Our wedding date/time was dependent on season that we wanted to get married in and time to save up, we had a decently large wedding with 150-175 people in attendance. Sometimes it felt like forever and I just wanted to be married already, but the time really did fly by!
Post # 15
We got engaged at the end of January and are planning a wedding celebration for the end of October, so 9 months. We ended up eloping and getting legally married in March but are still looking forward to celebrating with our friends and family.
I feel like 9 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding. We chose October because that time of year is beautiful where we live and works well for my husband’s work schedule. And we didn’t want to wait an additional year for an October wedding date, so that’s how we chose!