- mink714
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
married 2011 – split 2013 – now new man and I are having all the serious engagement/wedding talks.
married 2011 – split 2013 – now new man and I are having all the serious engagement/wedding talks.
We have been talking about getting married in 2016, I was previously married in 2012.
Separated 2010
Divorced 2013
Remarried 2014
So just a year between divorce and remarriage but really 4 years from living apart from ex (we were married for 20 years). I think there is no rule, just good to have some time to reflect on what has happened in a relationship that ended before starting and commiting to something new. My husband (also 2nd time around after 20 year 1st marriage) and I often say we are consciously working on doing it better this time around.
My ex and I were separated for about 5 months when I met my SO. We finally got divorced 8 months after being separated and I will be getting remarried 9 months after divorce. So total…about a year and a half from separation date!
Husband #1 = Dated – Early 1990-1993. Married – June 1993. Separated – Nov. 1994-Nov.1995 (SC requires 1 year separation before divorce final). Divorced – Feb. 1996.
Husband #2 = Dated – Feb. 1996-2002. Married – July 2002-Present. Been together for 19 years married for 13 years. We met night before my divorce was final and 1 week before his was final. Found exactly what we were looking for.
My situation is a little different. My first husband passed away in July of 2013. We had gotten married at 19, had some rough spots, but were married for 19 years. I was only 38 when I became a widow. I started “dating” (if you can call it that….really I joined match.com just to see what was out there and only went on a few dates) about 9 months after his death. I really just wanted something to do other than sit at home with our teenage kids. I was only 38 for crying out loud. I felt like I still had a lot of life left in me and I didn’t want to waste it. Does that make sense?
My Fiance had been separated from his wife for about 5 months when we met. His divorce was supposed to be finalized last August, but she messed it up (something to do with filing for assistance) and it got pushed to November. He proposed to me 2 weeks after it was final.
By the time we get married, it will have been almost 3 years since my first husband died, and 2 1/2 since he and his wife separated.
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