Post # 1
As an encore bride, I’m curious where we all fall in the “how long between your first and second marraige” spectrum.
Me? 4 years. It’s seriously hard for me to admit that, but my first “marraige” unraveled almost immediately after it started. I met Fiance a few months after my divorce was final (I waited too long to get out and couldn’t get it annulled).
Is there anyone in the same boat as me, or I am just crazy?
Post # 4
You’re just crazy
My first marriage was in 1997 – it lasted 12 years – so about 15 years in between.
Post # 5
@GroovyHippieChick: Sometimes I think we are. I carry a LOT of guilt about being an “encore” bride, even though getting out of my first “marraige” (I use parenthesis because we may have been legally married for a short time, but he never acted like my husband) was the best thing I could have done for myself.
Post # 6
we have both been married before and the difference between weddings are the exact same.
we were both married on the exact same day in 1998 (same city, same time, just a few blocks from each other).
so that makes it almost 14 years.
Post # 7
My first marriage was in 10/2007 and my next is set for 09/2012! the first one lasted only 10 months (he was a totally different person after) and Fiance started dating within weeks of me filing papers (I’d known him awhile already). Sometimes things happen like that!
Post # 8
My first marriage, but for FH he was divorced 4 years ago. He couldn’t be happier to be away from her and moved on.
Post # 9
@AriaAmante: never feel guilty. Everything you’ve been thru in your life has made you who you are and gotten you to this point.
Post # 10
seven almost eight years…. first was nov20 04 this one is in june 2012
Post # 11
When we get married next year, there will be 12 years between my divorce and my second marriage.
Post # 12
I got married in October 1997 and it lasted about 8 years. New Fiance was only 11 years old when I got married the first time. I call husband #1 my time waster until my true soul mate was old enough to find me. He’s 15 years younger.
Post # 13
16 years for me, and I think 6 or 7 for Darling Husband. Mine barely counts though because I was 20 and it only lasted for about 4 months. Nobody except my bestfriend and family even know I was married before, and it’s not because I hide it, it was just literally so long ago! Sometimes even I forget I was married before.
Post # 14
@AriaAmante: Well I am an Encore Encore Bride!!!!! I was married very young the first time and he was cheating on me from the offset it last 5 years!! I married my second one 8 years later… it lasted 4 years..he was a nightmare from hell!! and here I am again!!! I said I NEVER would but the old saying of never say never applies! it will be 7 years between the last divorce and the next marriage – this is the LAST one for me because this one really is the most perfect match for me in every way 🙂
I always say that having been through the others it was EASY to spot the most amazing man I have now…. He restored my faith in Love/life and marriage.
Post # 15
My first was Oct. 27, 2000…that pretty much blew up in my face one year later. Fiance and I started a realtionship in Sept. 2002…getting married in 2013.
ETA: This will be FI’s first wedding (he was at my first one though!)