Post # 1
Were TTC but I am such a paranoid (& private) person…So, I don’t want anyone to know about the pregnancy until after the 13 week scare period (close friends & family). Then, I don’t really want anyone else to know even after that because the people I work with are so nosy and talkative and I just don’t feel like answering a bunch of Qs and having “mommy-talk” with the girls at work. So…I’d like to hide the pregnancy for as long as possible, but I wouldn’t try to hide it after the 20 week mark because that’s just weird I guess, and risky. (no offense to anyone who has done that-but my friends/coworkers would totally be offended if I was more than 5 months pregnant and decided not to tell them).
Plus I work at a school so I really don’t want the children asking me 1,000 Qs
At what point was your bump no longer hide-able? And at what point did you feel like you could no longer deny go without telling people? If you’ve had 1+ children, please tell me about your first time being pregnant.
Post # 3
@TurtleDoves: I’ve never been pregnant but I think usually women begin to show at 3 or 4 months. It also depends a lot on your frame and current weight.
Post # 4
I’m 18 weeks and I can still conceal it, but it’s getting difficult. I’ve seen pictures of my mother at 8 months pregnant and she looks barely 3 months (she’s very petite too). Every woman is different.
My first baby I was 5 months along before people started asking.
Post # 5
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I hid my bump at work until the 16th week but people had their suspicions. I bought bigger shirts and wore a lot of scarves. Everyone carries differently though so it may be easier or harder for you to hide.
Post # 6
I really depends on your body. I think for most people it’s 3-4 months they start getting a little bump.
My sister was on the extreme end of not looking pregnant. She moved when she was 8 months pregnant, she was in the army so went to the army on-base medical offices, and the OB office asked her “so you got a positive test?”, she was like “I’m due in 3 weeks!”.
Post # 7
Depends on how tall you are too! If you are short, the baby has less room and has nowhere to go but outwards! For me, at 5’1″, I would say 18 weeks was the absolute longest I could possibly have hidden it. Maybe.
Post # 8
Each person is different. Some people don’t look pregnant for a long while but others seem to show almost immediately. I guess your best bet is to wear loose tops. Tops with an empire waist make some of us look pregnant even when we’re not so those types of tops/dresses might throw people off. If you work in a school I suggest you get your answers ready right away. Kids will say/ask anything!
Post # 9
What’s your body type like? I’m tall and thin, but have a relatively short torso. I thought I would show early because of it but I’m now almost 17 weeks and still not showing to anyone other than Darling Husband. My stomach is usually pretty flat (actually concave, my ribs stick out more than my stomach usually) and it’s only now drawing even and my belly is getting a bit rounded. DH and I can both tell that my belly is bigger than it normally is but no one else would have a clue I was pregnant if I didn’t tell them. Based on how the stomach is growing though, I have a feeling this is only going to last a couple more weeks at best. I think I will still be in my regular clothes though for at least a few more weeks as everything is still fitting fine right now.
Post # 10
I am just 5’7 and plus sized, so you think I could have hid it forever, but there is no way my co-workers wouldn’t have noticed by 14 weeks. Even the LDR girls (who I work with a fair bit, but didn’t announce the pregnancy to), knew by 14 weeks just by looking at me, even in scrubs. By 16 weeks, I had my first stranger ask me about the pregnancy.
Post # 11
For me, I felt like it was getting pretty obvious by 14 weeks, but I managed to hide it from work until about 17 weeks by dressing creatively. These people didn’t know me pre-pregnancy, so that helped.
By 19 weeks, kids at school were coming up to me asking if I was preggos. But, I was no longer dressing in a way to hide it at that point.
Post # 12
I am a teacher as well. I am tall however, and I don’t think people would have necessarily started asking unless I had told them. I think I was 14 weeks when I told my principal and 20 weeks when I told my students. They had started staring at my stomach and it made me feel uncomfortable having them not know. By The Way this is my first.
Post # 13
I’m 21 weeks. It still looks like a potbelly (like when I was heavier) and not necessarily a baby bump if I dress right. BUT, I wouldn’t wait much longer than this–it’s starting to get obvious.
Post # 14
This is my second pregnancy, and I fear that I will not be able to hide it much longer. I’m about 9 weeks along, and I definitely feel like I’m “showing.” My first pregnancy was over ten years ago, so I honestly don’t remember when I was showing, but I KNOW it wasn’t this early! Probably around 4-5 months… I guess what they say is true…you start showing muuuuch quicker with Baby#2.
Like TurtleDoves, I work at a school…I’m a 4th grade teacher, so I’m sure my kiddies are going to start asking questions soon. I’m hoping to make it to the end of January before I start telling most coworkers.
Post # 15
@MacFaniam24: What grade do you teach? I’m kinda nervous about talking to them about it for some reason. I was thinking about just waiting until one of them asks, and then have the conversation then!
Post # 16
I have a pretty obvious bump right now at 23 weeks, but I was still able to hide it with the dress I wore today. No one could even tell I was pregnant!
But I think it would be really hard to find enough clothes that would allow you to hide it for long.
I say you are safe to hide it until 16 weeks.