Post # 1
I have no problem taking on my husband’s last name, I love his family and it is such an honor to be his wife and part of the family – I really admire all of them. However, my last name is digitally everywhere and is linked pretty strongly to my career. People know me by my last name, it’s on my social meida accounts, my emails, business cards I’ve given out…My twitter handle has my last name, and I’m not about to start a following from zero as I do a significant amount of social media work!
It seems it is a lot harder to change your name than it was ten years ago. I’m wondering, fellow newlyweds, how long did it take you to really feel like your new last name was yours when there is so many digital and professional links to your previous name?
Post # 3
Maybe you could use your old name for your job and use your new last name legally and casually with friends and family?
Post # 4
I switched jobs around the same time as I changed my name, so that made for a smooth transition. I don’t have a job where I would be found digitally by my name, like you seem to. It seems like for you, it would make sense to keep it professionally, even if hyphenated?
Even without the professionaly complications you have, it took me a while to feel like it was my last name. It felt like I was pretending for a while, but now it definitely feels like my name, a year and a half later.
Post # 5
It has taken a bit. Honestly I haven’t changed my name on everything yet. It is just too much hassle. Like utilities, I’ll do that when we eventually move, as we just rent.
His name is starting to feel like my name now though and I even refer to myself as Mrs. Darling Husband and it doesn’t seem awkward or weird anymore.
A couple weeks ago Darling Husband had to update some forms at work and had to put my info in and said he almost used my maiden name. I thought that was funny!
Post # 6
I’ve started using his name, even though I’m legally still using my maiden name (darn marriage cert needs to show up faster!). I’m still getting used to it, we’ve only recently gotten married so it’s still in transition.
Post # 7
It’s an adjustment. He wants to know what he can do to speed up the process. 🙂 Nothing baby, state offices are s-l-o-w. I need that marriage license to get a new SS card to get a new DL to be able to change anything!
I’ve been using my new name casually but can’t change it legally yet. Easing into it. 🙂
Post # 8
@Au Jardin: I am with you, I am honored to take his last name and have changed but previous last name is in so much papework, internet and not to mention the passwords and usernames. That is going to take a while and some might not even change. I only plan to change it where it matters, like legal paperwork, mortgage and so fourth.
Post # 9
I was so excited to change my name!!! I went to social security the week we got back from our honeymoon, whcih was a month ago and so far all I have changed was my SS card, drivers license and faxed a form to work….. Still have so much to change, now Im just taking my time….
Post # 10
I’m still adjusting to my new name, it’s definitely strange. We’ve been married for 53 days and it’s still strange to introduce myself with it… I still have my email with my old last name, but the important stuff (driver’s license, ss card and bank) was all changed immediately after I got back… My name on Facebook was changed first (I needed something to do in the airport going on our honeymoon, lol), luckily my twitter handle isn’t linked to my maiden name so that is easy to change, and I already have my email address for my new last name (so it didn’t get taken lol) but I don’t use it yet…
I haven’t changed any of my bills/student loan info though… Do I really have to?!?! it’s so much work!! lol
Post # 11
Oh my gosh, this is something that I have been stressing out so much over. I LOVE my last name, it took me a very long time because it’s unique and hard to pronounce, but now I feel like I identify myself w/ it. Hopefully I get used to it soon after.
I think the idea of you using your maiden name for professional purposes and then your new legally changed last name for everything else.
Post # 12
I haven’t changed mine yet, but I’m trying to start signing it on things and I changed my last name on fb/blogger/twitter/gmail the other day. It’s so weird…
I mean, I want to take his last name b/c I’m just traditional and feel it’s the right thing to do but at the same time it’s just awkward. *sigh*
Post # 13
It’s been very weird for me- he has a much longer more complicated last name. In fact, I’m going to continue to use my maiden name for theater and publication purposes- it’s more marketable!
I’ve been married almost 7 months and am just now starting the process. I got my new social security card the other day, and tomorrow I have an appointment for the DMV for a new drivers license. In the meantime, I have to keep track of which place has me under which name!
Post # 14
@Au Jardin: You can change your twitter name without losing your followers. I’ve done it a few times. They’re still there! You might want to let them know that you used to be known as your old name, but I find that as long as your picture remains the same for a while, they’ll understand that you’re still the same person.
Post # 15
@AngieBelle: Keeping track is a good thing to do. A couple weeks ago I ordered some prints of photos online and went to pick them up. I gave them my new name and nothing, wrote it out for them, couldn’t find a thing, finally I clued in that it was probably under my maiden name and voila there was my order!!
Post # 16
I haven’t had a problem at all, and I went to 11 letters of Dutch! I love the last name and changing it for things hasn’t been too bad, only every one asks me to spell it.