@lovelee1: I spoke with the priest at midnight mass. He said he’d tell me in a month. I don’t know if he knows and is sitting on the information or if he’ll find out by then. So frustrating!
@FutureMrsT1221: It honestly doesn’t affect us too much as the important thing is being equally yoked. Which we are, just not within the same faith. He’s as religious as I am, maybe a little less. If he had no religion, I couldn’t be with him, however I also couldn’t be with someone incredibly devout regardless of the religion.
Basically, though, he does his thing and I do mine. I go to Church on Sundays, he comes with for midnight mass and Easter. He doesn’t have a group to worship with currently, but I’d go and participate when he did celebrate the Sabbaths. I also got to be involved with his parents’ Wiccan wedding. A lot of the basic ideas and principles are the same and I can agree with what they say, so I approach it as “worshipping my God in a different way.” There are a lot of similarities between the two, the real difference is that they’re polytheistic (God and Goddess, for it takes both man and woman to create). Being Catholic, though, I associate it with God and the Blessed Mother.
They don’t have a holy book or weekly holy days, just (I can’t remember if it’s 6 or 8) sabbaths throughout the year celebrating the change in season or harvests, etc. And even those I can tie in to an extent. For example, Yule (Dec 21) is to celebrate the birth of the sun as the days begin to grow longer again (Christmas the 25th to celebrate the birth of the Son of God). They aren’t gift giving days. I’ll shoot his family a text to say “Happy Imbolc!” maybe get him a small something for it, but it’s not usually a big deal.
The thing we’re always asked is, of course, what will you do about kids? Well, we haven’t decided if we’re even having any first off. Second, we’ve agreed that they will be baptized (he hasn’t decided if he wants to also do a Wiccaning, basically a blessing of the newborn). Past that, FI was raised being allowed to choose his own faith and wants to offer the same choice to any kids we may have. I’m ok with this. So, they’ll celebrate with me if they want and/or celebrate with him. If they want to go to a temple or a mosque or another place if worship, we’ll do what we can to give them that opportunity as well.
As long as we can worship in our own way openly without being judged or ridiculed, we’re cool. When we first met, FI was atheist. I had to actively shut it down whenever he’d start on the Christians and their silly “God” delusion thing. He’ll make jokes every now and then, but tastefully, not offensively, just like I will to him. He didn’t start believing in anything until college and I loved being able to be with him as he discovered his faith. It made me stronger in my own, too.
Sorry for writing so much. Many people get the wrong idea when they hear he’s Wiccan or look down on me for marrying a heathen. I like being able to share and clarify our experiences and perspectives.