Post # 1
Honestly, I am completely clueless when it comes to this and I’d really love an estimate. FI and I are probably going to go for a relaxed, low key wedding with friends and close family and a backyard reception. I’m justifying putting off planning by telling myself that it’s not like I want a big formal wedding for 500 guests or anything, but I do worry that I’ll end up with a Walmart sheet cake and some party city streamers because I was too lazy to plan accordingly. How long did it take to plan your wedding? Do you think the type of wedding you had made a difference?
Post # 3
Type of wedding definitely makes a difference. I think you can plan a nice event in 5-6 months. You can probably do it in less but if you plan on hiring vendors it gets difficult so last minute. I technically planned the wedding over 15 months but there were stretches of time that I did nothing. It probably was more like 8-9 active months of planning. I think if you have less time you just have to make decisions more quickly which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Post # 4
@Ruby-Redshoes: I think when wedding planning, it’s a lot of going with your guts and instincts, and not forgetting to indulge in the things that you love (within reason of budget of course). To answer your question, we planned our wedding in a little over a year (we were engaged for roughly 16 months). I think that the type of wedding we had (and that you’ll have) does make a difference – it’s what we dream of! I’d say, spend time looking through magazines, websites, blogs, inspiration boards, and bookmark things that you love, and take mental note of things you don’t care for too much. 🙂 Don’t worry, everything will be okay! And when you’re stressed, that’s what weddingbee is for!
Post # 5
We’re getting married in 8 months, and right now we’re planning as we go. We have a basic “plan” that we discussed, but the main plan is “get married” and we’re being very relaxed about everything else. 😛
The hardest thing so far was finding our venue, but the venue we went with includes so much that we are able to calm down with some of the other items/projects we had on our “to do” list.
We had almost gone with a venue that wanted us to rent items, which was fine until it became clear that we were providing more than we should have – we felt we shouldn’t have to provide the chafing dishes for the caterer we would have been locked into using. So we dropped them and started all over, which we weren’t expecting to do.
Your reception venue might include it all, or it might be a blank canvas. Those situations (and anything in between) determines how much time and energy you’ll most likely need to put in.
My goal is to be done with all of our planning/preparing a month or two ahead of time, so we’re not going too crazy at the end. I’m skeptical it will happen, but a girl can dream, right?
Post # 6
FI and I (mainly I) planned the wedding in 2 months (engaged December, done February, wedding February 2014). This was mainly due to my already having helped plan 3 other weddings, so I knew exactly what was right for us. Once we got the church and reception venue booked, everything was easy peasy. I ended up putting the make up and hair artist until the last minute since I had no clue what I wanted, but I booked her 2 weeks ago along with a florist since my original one flaked out. Before I found the bee, I was mainly on theknot.com using their checklist and their list of local vendors.
My advice is just to have fun with it all. You’ve got plenty of time, so if you started soon, you would have so much time that you’ll get the wedding planned then be bored :P.
I’m glad I started so early because there have been a number of hiccups that if I didn’t still have over 7 months to the wedding, I would be majorly stressed right now.
Post # 7
@Ruby-Redshoes: my engagement time to marriage was 20 days. Though I’d done a few things before the proposal. You can make it happen quickly especially if you keep it small.
my advice: Focus on what is important to the two of you. Everything else is just extra.
Post # 8
Our wedding is August 2014 and we started planning April 2013. The only reason we started so early is that I’m planning a wedding long distance in my hometown, so I have to fly home to do anything, and I didn’t want to feel rushed.
In April, I booked the venue and the church and bought my dress. Right now I am working on booking the photographer and the band. Once I have those things done, I can sit back and relax for a bit.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
Our wedding is November 2013 and we started planning August 2012. We started really early because I’m DIYing a lot of it and wanted to minimise stress by giving myself plenty of time to get things done.
If you’re booking a photographer, I recommend doing that with as much time to spare as possible. Good, affordable photographers in particular will book up really quickly. We booked ours at the end of January and our weekend was the only one he had free for the whole month.
Post # 10
Same thing with good make up artists and hair stylists. I lucked out that mine was open the week of my wedding cause she was already booked for certain weeks as early as March 2014.
Post # 11
i got engaged in february, booked my venue the next week. booked all the big vendors in the 3 months following.
i felt like i was pretty much done.
this past month i have been ordering what i need for the wedding.
now i have 4 months to go and not much left to do.
a backyard wedding could be planned in 2-3 months
if you didn’t care about a particular date or venue, any event could be planned in under 4-6 months.
many people start planning a year out by booking their venue.
Post # 12
We were engaged for 5.5 months, and honestly, we had everything done at least a month before the wedding. We just made descisions and didn’t linger or conteplate much. Our wedding day was absolutely perfect (minus the rain, but what can you do?).
Post # 13
@Ruby-Redshoes: we’ll be engaged by 16 months by the wedding, but i could have done it in a year. we are planning from far away, and i have 6 maids spread out across the country, so it took some logistical wrangling to plan things or i could have done it in less time. also, i have maybe 5 major DIY projects.
Post # 14
Our engagement was only six months, so six months of planning! We didn’t want to spend a ton of money, so I did a lot of DIY projects. My cousin planned her wedding in a little under two months, and it was very nice and simple, which fit both she and her husband.
I think it does depend somewhat on if you’re deadset on having specific things for your wedding, a specific date, etc.