(Closed) How long did it take to set your date after engagement?

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
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  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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    janne3610 : I think that happens to all of us! As I was sharing the news with family within a few hours from the proposal everyone was bombarding me with, so when’s the wedding? Like, chill for a second I’m basking in my moment! But it took us about a month to decide on the exact date.

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We knew right away but we had also been seriously talking about it for awhile before being officially engaged. We also knew we wanted a short engagement (four months) so there was a bit of a time crunch. 

    Sometime within a month seems reasonable if you haven’t talked about it yet and still need to figure out budget and rough guest list. 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee

    We didn’t set a date until we booked our venue, uhhhh like 5 months after getting engaged. We had a few dates in mind but obviously couldn’t deal the deal ’til then. Other friends of mine didn’t get a date until they’d been engaged 9 months!

    It’s just one of those questions people ask, trying to make conversation and sharing the excitement. Don’t worry ๐Ÿ™‚ You’ll go at your own pace.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee

    That seems to be the first question everyone asks. Don’t stress!

    We set our date fast but for a reason. We found a venue we loved. We had discussed it before and knew we wanted to get married in spring. Our venue had only one Saturday left during the spring (we also wanted a Saturday wedding), so we sprang on it about a week after we got engaged so we didn’t have to wait until October.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I think this is normal – EVERYONE is ALWAYS asking us.

    As far as what the right answer is as to when to set a date, I think it varies. My fiance proposed the weekend before we closed on our house (because of course no other time during the previous 5 years would have worked lol), and I made it clear to everyone asking that we weren’t even going to think about it until we had done the work we wanted to do to the house and get settled in. It’s been almost exactly six months, and while I have a date in mind (3/10/18) it’s not set in stone yet, but that’s what I tell people.

    On the flipside, a coworker just got engaged. She and her fiance have talked about getting married on Labor Day weekend of 2017 for a while, so they set the date right away.

    There’s no right or wrong length of time to do it – it’s just annoying dealing with the nagging!

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Yeah you really cant set a date until you find and book your venue. Then you can see what dates they have available. We booked our venue a couple months after getting engaged. 

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    A month afterwards ๐Ÿ™‚ we had a month in behind before getting engaged 

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    janne3610 :  Within a week or so after being engaged (in April 2013) we narrowed our wedding date down to 2014 – either May or June.  Then we contacted our closest friends and family to see what weekends they were free.  That narrowed down the window to June.  Then we contacted our photographers and the venue.  That gave us two weekends.  Then we checked local calendars of events.  That left us with one weekend!  ๐Ÿ™‚  

    You aren’t behind – there is a lot to take into consideration before choosing a date.  

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    It took us a little more than 2 months to set our date.  We set a date and then changed it once we decided to switch things up and do a small destination wedding instead of keeping it local.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    janne3610 :  We set our date about a month after we got engaged. We knew we wanted a fall wedding, so we told everyone Fall 2017 until we had a venue locked down for our official date 10/7/17 ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We decided the next day. We knew we wanted it to be during fall, but it couldn’t be on a Saturday that the Georgia Bulldogs were playing. I know, sounds ridiculous, but we’re both HUGE football fans and so is my family. So all we had to do was look up Georgia’s schedule for this year and find their off-week. So we knew the very next day.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Probably within a month? I don’t remember but it wasn’t too long after getting engaged.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee

    Our date was set 5 months before being engaged. Venue and photographer booked already lol. 

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We knew what season right away (because we had talked about it pre-engagement), so I would just say “next fall” when people asked.  I think it is super common for people to ask you right away because all people can really say is congrats, so they move on to ask about the wedding.  We didn’t actually set a date until about 3 weeks later, after we toured venues and picked a date that our venue had open.

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