(Closed) How long did it take to set your date after engagement?

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
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  • Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    I just got engaged about 36 hours ago and the pressure of picking a date already is intense!!! 

    Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    We’ve been engaged for eleven days and people have been asking if we’ve booked a date, if I’ve tried on dresses and if I’ve tasted cake. Heck no! I’m incredibly excited but let me process this man, I’m just enjoying the ride for now! 

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

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    janne3610 :  we knew before hand, we already had a lot of stuff booked even. But we didn’t tell people for more than a month. If you want to get married next year, I hate to tell you but you’re super behind. In MAY 2016, I had exactly 3 dates in 2017 to choose from and both my venues are now completely booked for 2017 all Friday’s, Saturday’s and Sunday’s. We’re getting married in a different season than we wanted to even because all the dates in the season we wanted were booked. A lot of vendors I contacted were also booked for our date (9/9/17) when we contacted them in mid July! 

    Post # 19
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    We had ours set within a month of engagement….and it only took that long for us because my fiance refused to talk about anything wedding-related until after we had been engaged for like two weeks. He just wanted to concentrate on being engaged for a minute 🙂

    We ultimately chose our date because it is the date of our 3 year dating anniversary, and I had told him that’s what I wanted before we were even engaged…so in a way, our date was set before the engagement, haha

    Post # 20
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Ah yes, the immediate post-proposal pressure. It took us just about two months to set a date. Fortunately, after the first couple weeks everyone (mostly) stopped asking. 

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Everyone was asking us, too. I think it’s just the first reaction that people have, they’re so excited and can’t wait to share the day with you. We got engaged in late September and had set (as in put a deposit down) at a venue by the end of the October. We knew that we wanted to get married this year and also knew that we had to get in quick, as a lot of dates were already booking up. 

    Post # 22
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    Worker bee

    I do think it is a pretty standard question, people are just curious and excited to know most of the time 🙂 I’m doing postgrad study where I’m pretty busy in big chunks, so we just left it broad at “some time in early 2018” initially. It’s only been after looking at wedding venues recently (4-5 months later) and thinking about what sort of weather/wedding/photos we want where we’ve looked at which actual dates will suit us.

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    We had talked about it well before ever thinking about being engaged, we knew we wanted to use our anniversary but a couple months before engagement we had a serious talk about how if we were going to do that it would need to be this next year. So there really wasn’t much talk about date at the engagement just a you still want that date?

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    If it helps any, we took 3 years to set a tentative ‘time’ and by time I mean season and year ie: Spring 2018. But we are in a very unstable point in our lives. Changing careers, starting a business and buying land and possibly building a custom house. Lots of goals that require a lot of money and not much left for a wedding. All I care about at this point is getting all our sh*t together and just getting married. Not that a wedding is a bad thing but my own personal priorities have shifted dramatically over the past few years. If we could get married tomorrow at the courthouse I would be more than happy lol 

    Post # 25
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    We’ve been engaged for over 2 years and only recently decided on the month. The exact date is still up for debate.

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee

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    zoey0317 :  Well according to some of the Bees here you and your SO were engaged the day you settled on a date!! @@ LOL SMH

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee

    We’re not engaged yet but the mr and I have agreed tentatively on 6/16/18. We haven’t booked anything yet though. I’m waiting on the proposal. Whenever that happens will ultimately finalize the date as we may have to move things around if the venues we’re interested in are already booked.

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    We set ours the same day. But it’s a special day to us and we’d discussed marriage a fair bit prior.

    Post # 29
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    Bee Keeper

    I can’t remember how long it took us to set a date. Maybe a few days or weeks? We first narrowed it down to a general time of year and then had fun looking at different dates that might be fun to remember (e. g. 3.14.15 pi day! we didn’t end up with that, but it was cool!). Don’t feel bad that you don’t have a date to tell people yet. I think they are just making conversation. 

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    We’ve been engaged nearly 2 months and still haven’t booked a venue. We’ve got a date in mind but it won’t feel official until the venue is booked. Hoping to do that this month. 

    We have been bombarded by family members almost every day since we’ve been engaged. “When’s the big day!?, Did you find your dress?, What are we doing for your shower?” … haha everyone seems to be in much more of a hurry than we are! 

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