(Closed) How long did it take? TTC

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@alli: my husband and i dont start tcc till January so i dont have an answer personally but i wanted to bump this for you and i know there have been similar threads in the past.

my knowledge is that if you are under 35 up to a year is normal but if you are over 35 you are only supposed to give it 6 months because you have less time. i also have 3 pregs friends one was month 3, one was an instant accidental pregnancy and the other took 8 months. all three are healthy. good luck!

 

Post # 4
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

@alli: The jealousy is hard. Speaking from personal experience (we’ve been TTC for nearly a year now) I get a kick in the guts everytime someone announces a pregnancy – but at the same time, I’m genuinely happy for them. It’s horrible, feeling happy but also stabby at the same time. Anyway, we’re still going… fingers crossed 2012 will be lucky for us. 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I second Jaguar.  You can’t control the jealousy, you’re happy and yet feel floored at the same time.  Three different people announced their pregnancies to me this week, that was on Monday and Tuesday alone!!!

As for how long did it take: 2 months for BFP which ended in miscarriage, now it is 3 months later and we’re still trying.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

10 months, then a miscarriage. I totally get the jealousy

@jaguar: I get a kick in the guts everytime someone announces a pregnancy – but at the same time, I’m genuinely happy for them. This is pretty much how I am. A neighbor is pregnant with her 4th, and due the same day we would have been due had I not lost the pregnancy. I cried when I heard, but gave her a very sincere congratulations when I saw her next. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugh- I almost didn’t want to respond to this because I don’t want to make you feel any worse- but I think you posted this to get a variety of honest responses- so here goes:  I got pregnant on the first try for each of my pregnancies.  The first at 25 years old, the second at 33.  I am super lucky and blessed- I know.  My best friend didn’t get pregnant for 8 months and it about drove her nuts.  I know she felt something must be wrong with her, but nothing was wrong at all and now she has two little boys.  But I know she did have  jealousy that a lot of her friends had it come so easily to them.  I wish all of you good luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m dealing with the jealousy and everyone around me pregnant too. We’re entering month 4 of trying. I hate feeling like I’m broken or not normal for not being pregnant right away. This is the first cycle that I’m really going to chart to see if I do that right and can absolutely hit ovulation at the right time. I’m also on baby blanket strike. I refuse to make baby blankets right now because it hurts too much. I’m also refocusing my energies on tasks needing to be done than TTC.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am not currently TTC, we’re waiting until June. However, I have been helping my BFF with charting for TTC. She’s been trying for 3 years and just got her BFP last week. It was so exciting!! I know it’s been very hard for her and she has expressed the same feelings of being very excited for her friends, coworkers and cousins who have all gotten their BFP in the last few years, but she also met the news with tears first.

Isn’t it funny that it was always shoved down our throat to take our BC and get excited when AF comes? It always made you think that if you are looked at the wrong way, you will get knocked up- but TTC is actually really hard! I think that’s where a lot of pressure comes in. It helped once I learned about FAM and my body a little more and realized that even if you do everything PERFECT, you still only have a 25% chance of makin’ a baby each cycle. Cray cray.

Hang in there 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m really sorry it is taking you and your husband longer than you wish.

Unfortunately there’s no magic formula. Some get lucky on the first try after YEARS on BCP. Some it happens in a few months. Others have known issues and take over a year. Others have no known issues and take over a year.

I don’t have any words of advice on how not to feel jealousy. I was definitely guilty of it. My gut reaction was jealousy then pure happiness for my friends and family.

It took my husband and I 9 cycles. All I can promise is it’s well worth it at the end!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry you are feeling this way, TTC is just so random isn’t it? We got KU on our first try but it took my sister 1 year of trying before it happened. There just isn’t any telling how it is going to go which I guess makes it really maddening. The powerlessness and lack of control is extremely humbling.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wish I could answer that myself. I’m on 18 mos of trying and still jealous of everybody who gets pregnant since it just ain’t happening for us. It truly is the most difficult thing I’ve ever dealt with and I hope it doesn’t take much longer.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Thank goodness for WB because otherwise I wouldn’t have know how normal it is to feel so jealous of other pg women while TTC!  We are on Cycle 6 and I still get very jealous of my pg coworkers, but I’m working on focusing on the positive.  Some days it works, some days it fails…

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’ve been trying since June so we’re coming up on month 7. I’ve gotten pregnant twice in that amount of time though, unfortunately both ended in pretty early miscarriages.

It’s a really rough process and I struggle with the jealousy issue a lot. Sometimes what’s even harder is the guilt that you feel for feeling that jealousy in the first place. What’s helped me is consciously remembering to separate myself from other people’s TTC, pregnancy. If someone I know is successful in getting pregnant that does not in any way mean that I won’t be. So I try to be happy for them but it’s definitely a daily struggle.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This


>  It’s a really rough process and I struggle with the jealousy issue a lot. Sometimes what’s even harder is the guilt that you feel for feeling that jealousy in the first place. What’s helped me is consciously remembering to separate myself from other people’s TTC, pregnancy. If someone I know is successful in getting pregnant that does not in any way mean that I won’t be. So I try to be happy for them but it’s definitely a daily struggle.

Thank you for putting that into words so perfectly, Elley.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’ve been TTC for 2 years and are still waiting!!  I hate that I get jealous but I do….especially for those that aren’t trying or just start trying and get pg right away:(  It just sucks, but you just got to keep going and hope your time is coming!!

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