(Closed) How long did it take until you enjoyed it?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
2491 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@leafgum:  I think in 10 years, I’ve had one internal and it was blind luck. It wasn’t that I was doing anything differently, but it just happened.

Not to disappoint…. 🙂

Post # 5
2810 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had an orgasm my first time….then I didnt have another internal one for YEARS.

It took some experimenting on my part to figure out how to move and what position to be in to have an orgasm…it takes just as much mental effort too!

Post # 6
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It took me several years, but that was basically because the men I was with before then weren’t doing it right, and i didn’t know any better so I didn’t know how to instruct them.  Once I was with a man who did it right, I realized it’s really easy, and now I know what to tell my partner when I can’t.

The most important thing (this cannot be stressed enough!!!!) is foreplay!!!  And foreplay doesn’t just mean touching you down there either.  He should do it way longer than he thinks it should last.  Most women need at least 30-40 minutes before even thinking about sex in order to orgasm.  You should be relaxed too and comfortable with the environment, so make sure you fix anything that is distracting you first.  I remember reading from this guy, his last name is Kerner… anyway, he is some sort of sex therapist, and I think I read it on his blog… more than half of women can’t orgasm, but when the man engages in a solid hour of foreplay, that number dwindles down to the single digits. 

His book, She comes first, might be very helpful for your fiance too.  Good luck!  You WILL figure it out eventually, so don’t despair!

Post # 7
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Holy crap, I couldn’t imagine waiting that long… I’ve only had 2 partners, sadly the first one sucked at sex, not one orgasim 🙁 thankfully Fiance some how is a natural at sex and gave me three the second time we had sex, needless to say I was in shock.  Like PP have said, get a book and start experimenting.  Also I think comunication could help, its weird but Fiance and I talk a lot during sex and that is what leads to a lot of my big O’s, if your open with him about what feels good maybe he can help you find the right position.  Good Luck!!!!

Post # 8
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think your post title is a little off, because I enjoyed sex from the get-go because of the emotional aspect (& it felt good physically). There was a brief period of time where my drive was low & I wasn’t enjoying myself, but that’s been resolved for a while!

I had my first orgasm ever (g-spot, BTW) quite a few years after we started having sex. I think it was about a year or two ago? My first clitoral orgasm was actually just a few months ago (until recently I didn’t like FH manually stimulating my clitoris b/c it feels “sharp” when it’s directly stimulated, but we’ve recently gotten the hang of indirect stimulation).

FH & I were both virgins in HS when we started going out, By The Way, so that probably has something to do with our “fumbling”, LOL!

Post # 9
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a lot of partners in a fairly short period of time (like four years)… won’t give a number, but in terms of time, I had been having sex for over four years fairly consistently before it happened, and only one of those partners has given me an internal orgasm. With my current SO. We had been having sex for a few months before it happened for the first time, and since then, it has been pretty consistent- not every single time we have sex, but quite often. I think part of it was mental– just knowing I/he could do it (my g-spot orgasms always come with squirting, which I think is a little rarer) made a huge difference, because all of the sudden it was happening all the time! Angle/position/his length and girth I think all matter, too.

Post # 10
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@leafgum:  wow im 39 and ihad it when me and fi started dating ; ) hes the only one that gave me an  internal orgazam 2 years ago

Post # 11
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow, I’m 53 & I’ve had a lot of sex since I was de-flowered (LOL) at 18. And I’ve had some crappy partners and some outstanding partners & plenty of fabulous ‘O’s. However, I can honestly say that my only true purely vaginal-only O happened recently on the heels of a great external O courtesy of my FH. He fits me better than anyone ever has. I was impressed with the internal O, but can honestly say I don’t care where my orgasms come from – there’s no such thing as a bad One.

Post # 12
5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have maybe had an orgasm from penetration alone one time in my life, and it was surely a fluke. You definitely aren’t doing anything wrong! A huge percentage of the female population need clitoral stimulation to orasgm. In fact, 80% cannot do it without, I just looked it up. You and your partner just need to work towards finding the best combination of what works best for the two of you to both be getting what you want and need. 

Post # 13
110 posts
Blushing bee

Probably about a year. We started having sex when I was 17. From everything I’v heard Gspot orgasams take a while for women to have and come with age. Some women never get them. I was lucky I guess. Hope it happens for you!

Post # 14
1574 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve had internal orgasms since I first started having sex! In fact, I rarely have external orgasms which I’ve heard is kind of unusual.

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