(Closed) How long did it take you to find "The Dress"?

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Post # 16
3562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

3 weeks.

I went into it already knowing what I wanted and what I didn’t want.  I didn’t want lace or tulle, or a bedazzled dress with a lot of sequins, beads or crystals.  I really wanted something pretty simple and timeless…which turned out to be REALLY hard to find. I refused to even look at DB, because of past bad experiences shopping there for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses or going with a friend shopping for her wedding dress. (Maybe it’s just our local store?)

I went dress shopping with my mom.  I didn’t want a lot of opinions because I already knew the style of my wedding and what look I was going for in my head.  My best advice to you is to window shop dresses online, save ones you think you like, so you can get an idea of what you’re looking for.  I pretty much already knew my colors, my wedding hairstyle, makeup, jewelry, centerpieces, etc…before we even picked a venue or date…thanks to pinterest wedding planning while anticipating the proposal. 

Our first place was a small bridal boutique.  I tried on tons of dresses, even ones that I knew I wouldn’t like, partly to please my mom….she really wanted me to love a lace dress, but every one I tried on I felt like I looked like grandma’s curtains. lol I did find one dress there that I liked, even though it had a ruffled skirt, and I wrote down the info for it in case I decided to come back and get it. 

2nd trip…we went to another bridal store that sells both consignment and new dresses.  I found one dress there, that was new, that was a satin A-line strapless Casablanca dress.  Very simple skirt with a ruched top, sweetheart neckline.  It had a train, with button-up back.  I loved it, and put it on hold. 

3rd trip…we went to a bridal outlet store.  Tried on a few dresses but nothing wowed me.  There were no price tags on the dresses, and the consultants didn’t help with anything….my mom was searching the place for clips to hold the dresses closed bc the zippers/buttons were all busted. I was frustrated and left. 

I went back to the second place, tried on the dress again, and found a veil that had exactly what I wanted in the cosignment part of the store. (I was planning to wear pearls, and wanted my veil to have a pearl accent.) After putting on the dress and the veil, my mom cried. I cried.  That was my dress.  

Post # 17
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I had a similar issue! I now realise that when you go to bridal shops they really have either the same or very similar stock and designers. And that’s totally great if you like that kind of dress. However whilst they were lovely, nothing grabbed me.

I tried going to little one of places and found different stuff to what was in the big bridal chains. That’s where I found mine 🙂

Post # 18
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I spent a decent amount of time looking online at dresses within my budget (mostly Allure and Maggie Sottero) before I ever went shopping. I realized that the sheath dresses I always imagined I would wear were all starting to look the same: boring white dress. Then I stumbled upon a lace and tulle contraption that I fell in love with. No other dresses (within my price range) compared. I made an appointment to try it on and a consultant pulled 9 other random dresses for me to try as well. After the appointment I took about a month to sleep on it and decided to pull the trigger and buy my favorite dress. There wasn’t any crying moment where I just KNEW it was my dress (I’m not one of those girls, I mean, it’s just a piece of clothing after all) but I did feel happy when I put it on and confident that I liked it the best. It was a quick and easy decision because I didn’t feel pressured to rush into anything.

If you’re not pressed for time, I would recommend taking some time off and putting the dress search on hold for a couple of weeks. Then come back to it by looking online and trying to get a feel for what you like and don’t like before you make another appointment.

Post # 19
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

First shopping trip I tried on 5 dresses and it was the fourth one I tried on!

Post # 20
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I did my research online first regarding silhouettes, fabrics, etc. I narrowed it down to what I thought I would like and then went to 3-4 stores in person to try a lot of dresses on just to see what type of dresses looked good on me. From there, I took that information and did a lot of online shopping until I found what I thought was my perfect dress in that silhouette. I called stores, found one that had it and tried it on in person. I really took my time with it and did lots of research, because I didn’t want to feel like I rushed into the decision and didn’t want to come across something else I liked later on. I started shopping in August and ordered my dress right before New Year’s.

Post # 21
436 posts
Helper bee

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Cimerone:  After doing tons of research, it took me about seven months of trying on tons and tons of dresses to finally decide on one. I had a good experience at David’s Bridal most of the times that  I went there. My worst experience was at a smaller bridal shop where nearly all of the samples were a size 8/10 and the consultant was too busy to help me. I ended up walking out without trying anything on. I actually cried a little because I felt so huge.

Post # 22
2848 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Cimerone:  I started dress shopping last month and have had no luck whatsover. I’ve been to 3 places, tried on almost 30 dresses, and still no closer than the day I started. I think unfortunatly its harder for some people than others. I gave myself plenty of time because I had a feeling this would be an issue lol. It is annoying when the consultants get annoyed with you when you dont like anything, but screw ’em. what can ya do? I have 3 more appointments scheduled this month… wish me luck! and good luck to you as well 🙂

Post # 23
143 posts
Blushing bee

For me, it took 5 months give or take.

Like you, I started with Davids bridal because I have not a freakin clue what looks good on me. And I know nothing about silhouette, fabric etc.

From there it took maybe another 2-3 trips to various different bridal stores to try on a bunch of dresses. I was adament I did not want a ball gown, but none of the other styles looked good on me. 

i took a break from dress shopping over the holidays and then in jan/feb I started fresh again. This time I kept an open mind and tried on a wide variety of dresses. And ended up ordering a ball gown. So all in all the whole thing lasted from sept last year to feb this year. 

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Post # 24
3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Cimerone:  I went to 5 stores over two days. I was not stressing the dress so it was pretty easy to find something I liked. I just wanted it to look nice on and make me feel pretty. It’s tough with so many options but you’ll find a style and fabric or two that you like after some searching which will really help narrow it down for you.

Post # 25
46 posts

I think the “eh” feeling is normal. I felt that way about the vast majority of dresses (20 or so) I’ve tried so far. I’ve only had two or three where I’m like “oh this looks pretty good!” And I haven’t had any “wow” “the dress” moments yet. So, just keep looking! It helps to look online first and narrow down some options, rather than just trying everything and anything under the sun.

Post # 26
2328 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I did some research before I went dress shopping and I arleady had a pretty good idea of what I liked and what I didn’t like.

I walked into the first bridal shop with a couple of printed pictures of gowns….. an hour later I had chosen the one. And it happened to be one of those gowns. 

I don’t have a hard time making decisions and sticking to them. I never felt dress regret, I never double guesses myself because I only tried on 4 gowns…. nothing. I was dead set on my lovely dress. 

Post # 27
1386 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I went to one store and found the one. I had an appointment at another bridal salon but canceled it. I tried on probably 30+ dresses at the appointment. They really catered to our needs as a whole. I also brought in photos of dresses I liked online to get us started. I did not go to David’s Bridal. 

Post # 28
1449 posts
Bumble bee

About an hour, tried on 3 dresses I was stalking online and walked out with the cheapest, so that worked out 😛

Post # 29
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Mexico

I had four appointments booked for my first weekend dress shopping and was sure I’d find my dress right away, but it didn’t work out that way at all. I liked some, hated others, but just didn’t feel “sure” with any. Four months and a total of about 15 total dress appointments later, I finally found one where I was like “Wow, I REALLY like this…. like i REALLY REALLY like this” and it finally felt right and I purchased my gown.

Post # 30
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

For me the dress I bought was the first one I tried on in my second bridal shop visit … buuut I didn’t end up buying it until much later!

I had a similar experience to you! But instead of eh, mine was more like “it’s fine, It’s ok” when I tried on my dress I had a gigantic smile on my face, but it wasn’t what I thought I wanted, and it was just so far away from my wedding! I was worried about buying it so early.

But it’s been three months since I purchased it and I can’t stop thinking about it! You’ll find your dress eventually. I felt totally confused and spent during my first shopping trips.

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