- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
We got pregnant our third month trying and DD is 5 weeks old. I read TCOYF ahead of time, temped, used wondfos, and the fertility friends app. The month we conceived was full of DH being out of town, so we only had sex once during my fertile window.
Unfortunatly, health class promotes a “incert tab A into slot B” view of getting a baby, and not everyone is that lucky.
DH and I were NTNP for almost 18 months on the schedule of sex you first had and that you were considering depending on the month and zilch happened. I started tracking, learned my fertility signs, and we hit it on our second month.
Think about your average cycle length. 35 days? 25? Whatever your ‘normal’ is – most of the time.
Then half that number of days. This’ll be ROUGHLY when you ovulate. RAMP UP the sex that whole week.
EG – 35 day cycle – in the 3 days before and after day 17 have sex like everyday.
Is read Take Control of your fertility as others suggested. You need to understand your cycles and have sex at the proper time each month otherwise it will never work.
But I recommend that you at least start tracking how long your cycles are because the doctors will ask how long they are, are you regular or irregular, etc. Even when you are pregnant they’ll use it to get a rough estimation how far along you are because it’ll start on the first day of your last period. Of course you can do ultrasound to find out but if it’s estimated to be less than, I think, 8 weeks they’ll stick inside cause the baby would be too small to see.
As for the luteral phase, this occurs after your ovulation. Your uterus will start preparing itself for possible pregnancy. If you are pregnant your egg will implant itself onto your uterus wall. If you aren’t then it’ll pass by and you’ll get your period.
During this phase the sperm cannot fertilize your egg. Hence why everyone stresses having sex during your ovulation cycle, which is the 4 days before your luteral phase.
I think everyone’s story is so individual, personal and unique, but for us we got pregnant on the 2nd cycle trying and we actually only had sex once during my fertile week. I was using OPK’s and as soon as I got a positive we had sex the next day. We didn’t get a chance to BD again that week, so I know it was that time that did it. Our son is 1.5 years old now.
We are currently TTC on our third cycle and I can tell you that last month we BD’d every single day during my supposed fertile week and then every other day before that week and after and I did not get preggers. It just depends!! This cycle we are aiming for EOD and I’m using the digital OPK’s. I think frequency can matter, but then again, timing is everything.
Having sex once a week is highly unlikely to get you pregnant. If you really want a baby find the time to get educated about how your body works – reading a book will take you a few hours at most. Use the cheap OPKs, take your temperature each morning, work out when you ovulated then time when you need to have sex, your chances will be much better!!
I’m 11 weeks pregnant now, spent two months charting / using OPKs before we started trying to work out what my body was doing, then got pregnant on our first try.
eh maybe if im not pregnant after this month ill start resorting to the opk.
but thank you to everyone for the advice and tips.
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