(Closed) How long did it take you to set a date?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We got engaged in Feb. I started looking for venues right away because he wanted a hotel & I wanted an Oct wedding and places around us get booked fast. We orig. wanted 10.10.10 but my church gave away the day even though we put a hold on it (grrrr).  The manager of the venue we liked best called me & said 9.5.10 was open would we like it so we took it.

All in all we’ll be engaged 19 months (Feb 09-Sept’10).

Edit: Corgi – I don’t see anything wrong with waiting – especially if you guys are buying a house. One of our groomsmen is in that place now – new homeowner & getting married in July. They’re paying for everything themselves & finding it’s pretty hard.

Post # 4
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we got engaged december 2008… and still have not set the date. we knew we wanted the wedding in the fall of 2011, but still don’t have exact date. People ask and i say the same thing… ummm fall 2011?? and then they laugh and say “ok???!”

It really depends on if the venue and church we are looking at is available … once we get that squared away i should have a date by January! yay!

Because we knew it was going to be a 2+ yr engagement there was no rush really to set a date. now we are really starting to get in the swing of things. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh, we set our date about two weeks after getting engaged. I’ll be honest, we both knew the venue we wanted and the photographer we wanted, and literally, like two days after the proposal, I was on the phone with our venue securing a date and coordinating that with our photographer as well. It was all done within two weeks.

We’re a little insane like that, though.

Post # 6
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My Fiance and I were engaged on 4/4/09. That evening, we decided to marry around Christmas time and the next day we decided on December 27, 2009… Giving us only 9.5 months to plan! But really, I think it was the perfect amount of time for us πŸ™‚

Post # 7
806 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We got engaged in March and didn’t officially set a date (as in have a signed contract) until October…

If you don’t mind having a “longer” engagement I think it’s fine to just enjoy being engaged for a while before you start any formal planning.  We will be engaged ~18 months.

I would make sure you buckle down about 12 months out from whenever you decide you want it to be, though, to ensure you can get your top locations.

Post # 8
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We got engaged in June of 2009 , but there is not set date yet. I like June 12 or June 19 of 2011 but we’ll see.

Post # 9
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We got engaged in September 2008 and didn’t set a date until June 2009.  And our wedding isn’t until June 2010.

Post # 10
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Got engaged late June 2009. Had a date picked by mid-July.

Wedding is 2 weeks from now.

I waste no time LOL.

Post # 12
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’d been brainstorming venues for months prior to our engagement – and we started looking after we were engaged.  Like you, we didn’t have a particular date in mind.  We were going to let the venue pick our date – but, we had 6 “ideal” months in mind.  It took us about 6 weeks after getting engaged to find the venue and decide on the date.  And, are having a 1-year engagement (we wanted it to be earlier, but the venue wasn’t available).

Since you are flexible on the date you want – I think you are fine waiting until early next year to start looking – but, you may start being limited on venue selection if you wait much longer than that.


Post # 13
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hi!!!!!!!!! CorgiTales you were engaged the day before I got married!!!

We got engaged and set the date like a month later =) My total engagement was 8 months. 

Post # 14
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We got engaged in mid-June when were in an LDR, and due to job circumstances, were originally planning something in Oct 2011. And then I lost my job, moved back to my fiance’s town, and bumped up our date to Sept 2010. Our date became official (meaning we put money down on a venue) in early October.

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