MemberI got an upgrade for my 5 year anniversary yesterday. I was not planning or expecting it he did it all on his own. I have posted it so many times on here today but I just cant get over it. My old e-riing I will save for my children so I can pass it down. This is the new ring, the other one is a solitaire emerald cut.
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MemberMember@honie309: Well, I won’t be upgrading my ring. It’s kind of a cultural/family thing. Both my grandmothers proudly wear their the engagement ring bought by their respective husbands at a time when they they could not afford more than a metal band. Similarly, my mother still wears the modest ring that my father bought for her when they were young.
I discussed this with Fiance about three months before he proposed. (Incidentally, he had already bought the ring three months before that.) He was shocked when I told him I didn’t want to upgrade… ever.
Just my two cents though. I know plenty of women who have traded in their ring when they get the upgrade. Or some choose to wear three rings – the first, the upgrade, and the band.
Let us know what you decide 🙂
MemberI don’t know if it counts as an upgrade, since it’s worth less than my engagement ring, and it would be an anniversary gift, but I’d love a moissy band! Hubby has mentioned it a few times, so hopefully that’ll be a 1 year anniversary gift! The one I like would be a standalone ring.
MemberI’m actually in the process of having my second upgrade. The first was one year after we were married. I originally chose a yellow gold ring with a kite set princess cut. I’m a silver/white gold girl all the way, so I have no idea why I wanted the first ring.
Of course it didn’t take long for me to not like the look of the yellow gold anymore. I then found a beautiful white gold set that ended up having a larger, round centre stone. I’ve had that for four years when I decided a couple of months ago to get it redesigned.
The stones from my first ring ended up in our eternity ring. And my whole white gold set is being used to make the new set, with the possible purchase of a few melee diamonds to finish it off. I’m not sure yet because it’ll probably be ready in the next couple of weeks! So excited!
Edited to add: I have paid for the upgrade and redesign myself.
MemberI’ve only had my ring for a month, so I still think it’s perfect! Of course, if presented with a larger stone, I certainly wouldn’t turn it down. HOWEVER, I don’t think I’ll ever seek out an upgrade. I think the coloring on my stone is completely unique (it’s a purple sapphire, and the range of colors it has is amazing). I would be very sad to have a stone that didn’t have these same colors. I know I could keep my current stone and use it for something else, but my goal is to wear this thing forever!
Instead, I hope to get an anniversary band somewhere down the road. My vision is to get one that has our birthstones, and then birthstones for any kids we have 🙂
MemberI voted will not upgrade. I love the ring my Fiance got me and will wear it proudly until the day I die. I would never ever degrade my Fiance or hurt his feelings by upgrading something that he’s researched for so long and spent so much money on. Especially going through the “will you marry me” emotions with the ring in hand. THAT means a lot to me, as the symbol he was holding does.
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Fiance and I designed my ring together, I don’t think I will ever upgrade it.
MemberMemberI love my ring so much I don’t think I’ll ever upgrade it. It was custom designed by Fiance and he spent so much time, gas, and money go get my dream ring. It is irreplaceable. I wouldn’t mind if he ‘upgrade’ our ring decades down the line but I’ll still wear our e-ring until the day I die.
MemberI upgraded within a few months of becoming a fiancee. My husband let me know that my first ring was just a placeholder; he wanted to propose on NYE but he didn’t have the money for a nicer ring at that time and he didn’t want to wait another year for NYE to roll around again. Also, there was a defect with the ring that we didn’t immediately notice.
My old ring was returned to the store and the cost went towards a new ring set. My husband surprised me by bringing me to the jewellery store and telling me to pick what I liked.
MemberMy husband and I chose my first engagement ring when we didn’t have a lot of money. A few months before the wedding when we were looking at wedding bands we ended up ‘upgrading’ my engagement ring, and got a matching bridal set. I still love my ‘old’ engagement ring, and will never get rid of it, and still wear it everday on my other hand, BUT I do love my new, very blingy engagement ring 🙂 It was his idea to get the new ring, I chose the first one and the diamond is a lot smaller, original ring is 0.25ct, new engagement ring is 1ct TDW
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MemberAnd I am glad someone else agrees with me. I didn’t mean to offend anyone, I was just saying that I would feel like I am being materialistic if I asked for an upgrade. I would feel like I am ruining the sentimental value. After we got engaged, Fiance told me the story about how he drove the jewler crazy looking for the most perfect diamond. Fiance is a perfectionist, so I find this hysterical. Not a lot of men go crazy and research about diamonds, most guys just walk into a shop and say give me a ring for this amount and go home with it. So again, I won’t be upgrading because then all of FI’s hardwork was a waste.
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