(Closed) How long did it take you to upgrade?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: When did/will you upgrade? What did/will you do with the old ring?

    Before the wedding

    1-3 years after

    4-6 years after

    6+ years after

    Did not/Will not upgrade

    Wore old ring on right hand

    Made a necklace/bracelet etc.

    Re-used it but upgraded stone

    Sold it

  • Post # 62
    2469 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I think if DH offered, I might take an upgrade at 5 or 10 years. I would never initiate the conversation, though. It’s really not necessary, I love my ring exactly how it is. But if DH insisted, well, who am I to deny him the chance to buy me a bigger diamond ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 63
    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I don’t think I will ever upgrade. I dont know that anything will make the cut.

    My e-ring is vintage and I love it. It’s timeless and very me and I plan to wear it until I die. My wedding band will be my grandma’s band and I will wear that till I die as well.

    Fi saw a sparkly band and talked about maybe adding a band at 10 years with some more sparkle, but we’d just stack it! 

    My rings are more sentimental to me than they are jewelry and I don’t think I could just replace them with something bigger or “better” it’s just not in the cards for us!

    Post # 64
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I upgraded after a little over a year of being engaged (and about a year from the wedding).  I didn’t upgrade by much, from a .75 ct to a 1 ct diamond.  The .75 just looked overwhelmed by my setting

    Comparison with the wedding bands

    Post # 65
    465 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014 - Monte Carlo inn

    At first I was going to wear a ring I already had (a 0.30ct pear shape solitaire) because my then fiance and I were still a very young couple and we couldn’t afford another ring. I never complaoned about the ring because it wasn’t my first priority. I slowly started to see that my fiancé was taking a lot of shifts and working almost everyday. 4 weeks before the wedding, my fiance used all the money he saved up to buy me a new ring ๐Ÿ™‚ I was soooo surprised and happy that he worked so hard just to provide me with the best. The first ring was a pear shaped 0.30ct. And the new ring is 1.39ct with a halo. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 66
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We upgraded before the wedding. However that is only because we have a family heirloom diamond and it took us forever to find a setting we loved for it. So for the BIG part of being engaged he bought me a beautiful sapphire ring to wear… My new one should be in, any day, but my sapphire is moving to my right hand when that happens. I am both super excited and horribly sad… ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 67
    1061 posts
    Bumble bee

    we just got married but I don’t think I’ll ever upgrade. I adore my ring. I have considered changing my center stone but idk if it would hurt my dh’s feelings so I won’t push it. He works so hard to support us and worked his butt off to pay for my ring in cash, I would never want him to feel like it wasnt good enough for me. Maybe after 10 yrs or longer of marriage people don’t care as much about changing the ring but i don’t think before then I would ever suggest An upgrade. Unless that is you both discussed it and bought something really cheap just bc you wanted to get married ASAP and your fi was saving towards the upgrade. 


    Post # 69
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @trueluv08:  wow! I would be posting that thing every where too

    Post # 70
    949 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    DH reset my solitaire after 2 years of marriage – I got new bands as well. The total carat weight is only slightly larger in the second set since the wedding band I wore orginally wore was a 1/2 ct. I still have the original wedding band


    Post # 71
    2417 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I didn’t select when because I dont know that I will or won’t. But if I do, it would be a larger center stone in the same setting, and I would either ‘trade in’ the old stone or have it put in a necklace. My center stone is 1/3c and Fiance keeps talking about upgrading it and apologizing for not getting me a bigger ring.  He works construction and the job he is on got extended by 3+ months, so he is going to have significantly more cash than he thought when he bought the ring. I love my ring, and I’m not sure I want to upgrade. I might just make him get me an anniversary band to bling up the set. 

    Post # 72
    6541 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Hartsj9:  Your original ERing looks so similar to my first one. I was never able to get a band that matched it, though. I am so sorry it went missing, as I am sure that was heartbreaking. Your new set is beautiful!

    I upgraded fairly recently. It was a combination Christmas present / 15-year (our anniversary is in October) upgrade.

    My husband and I always knew we would upgrade, and we’ve been talking about it since our 10-year anniversary. We picked out the original ring together, although it was never what either of us wanted. I love white gold, silver, platinum and never have been much of a yellow gold person. Partially, I don’t love the way it looks against my skin tone, but I also have an allergy to yellow gold, so I have to be careful when purchasing and wearing it. Anyhow, my original ERing was yellow gold, because that’s basically what everyone used in the 90s — LOL. Also, I always wanted something that looked like a set, but, at the time we got married, we couldn’t afford any band that would “match” my engagement ring. I ended up with a slightly engraved band (that couldn’t be resized and ended up not fitting after I had my daughter). And, after that, a series of silver bands — all of which were rather plain. So I hadn’t worn my engagement ring in a number of years. That’s not to say I didn’t love it. I DID. And still do! 

    Fast-forward through 15 years of marriage and all the life changes that involves … and DH decided it was time for an upgrade. We picked out the new setting and stone together, too. So it is also special to me. It almost felt like getting engaged all over again. Smile Funny thing is that there are a lot of similarities between my old ring and the new one.

    And a pic of my new ring by itself:


    Post # 73
    2585 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

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